What should I do?

United States
May 15, 2010 10:00pm CST
While I was working at PetSmart (quit about 7 months ago) I FELL IN LOVE WITH this great dane that came to the hotel A LOT. I worked there for over 2 1/2 years and the dog was there through out the time, for months at a time in some cases...and the last few days I've had a couple dreams about him...and it literally breaks my heart because I generally miss him. I got as attached to him as I am to my own dogs; last night I was even on the verge of tears just thinking about how I'll never see him again.... I think somewhere I have his owners email, and I am soooo tempted to email him just to ask how Buddy's doing (maybe even to offer to watch him when the owner goes out of town--which happens a lot), but I think that might be inappropriate... what do you guys think?
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@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
16 May 10
I think is love at first sight :) but I must ask you to watch how you pursue your care for the dog. Its possible that the owner may welcome your help, and you have opportunity to make more money, but you must first find out more about the owner, what kind of people are they, make sure you won't be in some kind of danger. Then why not offer to work for them watching the dog. Say you work for yourself as a dog walker and care giver/ sitter, at your home.
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• United States
16 May 10
It was! He is an awesome great dane!! He was really tall but very skinny! And it was like he couldn't gain weight...but he was definitely an extremely happy, friendly, goofy, healthy dog. And he had a really unique look to his face...it was love at first sight! lol The owners were well known at my work, I'm not worried about them. Like I said at this point I'd watch Buddy for free! lol
• United States
16 May 10
I think you should go for it and let them know how you love the dog and would help them with it, do tell you love animals and your plans, maybe that good deed opens doors for more great deeds. For all you know they may help open the animal sanctuary you want. By the way, you need to look into non-profit programs for your plan. There is much money available through that.
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• United States
16 May 10
awww you really love that dog so much. I love that about you, evidently you must be a very loving lady. As a friend, however I would like to ask you to also consider, holding on to your emotions, so that if something ever happens you won't have a major melt down.
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@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
16 May 10
If you know the owner by all means call and ask the owner how is the dog doing because you miss him. You could even tell about your dream. In closing your conversation with the owner you can offer to take care of the dog if and when the owner has to go away. I don't think it would be inappropriate at all.
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• United States
16 May 10
I don't personally know the owner, and I don't have a phone number. I have his email somewhere but I'm having trouble finding it! Keep your fingers crossed for me that I can find it!! Thank you
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
17 May 10
Good luck in finding it. When you find it surely send him an email asking about the dog and offering your services if he ever needs help.
@marctiu (830)
• Philippines
16 May 10
Hello lilyofthethorns. I think that it is okay to take care of the dog once in a while as long as you have permission to the owner of that dog. I believe that by doing such thing can help the dog's owner in saving money by lending it to you than putting the dog in a care center when he will be out of town. I think that there is nothing wrong with that, but you have your own pet just make sure that you make equal treatments to both of them to avoid quarrel. Have fun with the dogs. Have a nice day. Happy mylotting. Thanks for the discussion.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
16 May 10
If you feel like you want to find out how the dog is then yes if i was you i would email the owner aswell as offer to take care of the dog when they are away.Explain why you would like to know how the dog is aswell as that you used to look after the dog when you used to work there.
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
16 May 10
I think that is a wonderful idea. If it were me and you emailed me about my babies, it would make me feel good. To know that someone else cares so much for my babies that they would check on them when they don't have to. That is a good thing.
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• United States
16 May 10
I know it was already discussed, but I just want to echo the sentiment that you should acknowledge the fact that they may decline your offer. In fact, it's certainly possible that they may be put off by it. I would recommend to you, as I often do to people, to hope for the best but expect the worst. This way, if the worst happens, you were absolutely prepared. But if anything else happens, it feels like icing, you know? Now, that being said, I know that if I got an e-mail from a person who worked at my local pet shop, saying that she was so fond of my animal that she wanted to know if he was okay, and was even offering to care for him, well gosh, I'd be blown away. That would absolutely make my day. I wouldn't necessarily agree to letting her care for him, but I'd certainly entertain the idea and be so warmed by the idea. But, that's just me. Who knows how these owners will feel. Like I said, just be prepared for the worst.
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@allknowing (61542)
• India
16 May 10
I am sure the owners will be happy if you told them about it and you could even befriend them and call on them whenever you get the urge to spend time with the dog. I can quite understand your feelings as I too get attracted to animals that do not belong to me.
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@evepin (723)
• Philippines
16 May 10
i dont think there's nothing wrong in sincerely caring for a pet. I'm sure the owners will appreciate your concern. you know, i've encountered one who cared a lot about our dog in our parent's house. everyday, she brings food to our dog and feeds it. it's such a nice feeling for us owners to know that someone cares for our pet.
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• Philippines
17 May 10
Go on email the owner, you will only hurt yourself if you will not do it. If you miss the dog and the owner seemed nice, why not email him/her. Let him/her know you are missing the dog. And yes offer to watch him. I believe this will make you happy more. I believe it is not inappropriate.
• United States
17 May 10
Thank you for letting me know how you feel! It seems a lot of people think it would be okay if I emailed the owner, so I've been looking for the email-but I can't find it!!! Oh it'll suck if I never find it!
• New Zealand
16 May 10
Could get some therapy. There might be some other real life issue that is having side-effects on other aspects of your psychological mind. It's not uncommon to have an issue like yours.
• United States
16 May 10
I don't think this is a situation that calls for a therapist. This isn't something that is effecting my life. And I'm not going to pay thousands of dollars because I grew attached to a dog. I get attached to animals in minutes, it just so happens I had years with this one to grow even more attached. hehe
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
31 May 10
That email was given to pet smart for an intended purpose. For the care of the animal at petsmart. When I give out emails and they get used for other purposes, I get angry. How is your new job going?
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 May 10
If the owner gave you the e-mail and permission to contact him, then sure, why not drop a line and ask?