Promises: Are they really meant to be broken?

@elleb0418 (1107)
Philippines
May 18, 2010 12:49am CST
This issue really meant a big deal.Like in many couples they recite the wedding vows, of till death do us part, in sickness and in health,but more this promises is broken rather than kept. Why would you promise something that you might not be able to fulfill?That a big question right? How about you, do you agree that promises are made to be broken?
12 responses
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
18 May 10
It's not the promise that is meant to be broken,but,it is the person who made the promise that broke it. The word Promise is a PROMISE...and it will always remain a promise. But,the person who broke the promise is the one who is responsible for not fulfilling what he/she had promised. Sometimes,promises are not being fulfilled for reasonable reason,why there are broken promises without a reason at all. To make a promise is like dealing with the wind,that might pass unnoticed,or can be felt. Promises are sweet when fulfilled,and bitter when it is broken. But surely,promises broken are not meant to be broken,but meant to be fulfilled yet,not given opportunity to come into reality.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
19 May 10
We all want a fairytale ending,but not all had that story.The promises made are also broke but someone who promise it.Yeah that's reality sometimes in this normal world. I read and saw the movie of one great story that he fulfilled what he promise to a girl eventhough the girl married another man.Nicholas Parks....THE NOTEBOOK.
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 May 10
I did watch the movie,it's one of a kind. Just want to correct,that,she's not yet married to another man ,she was engaged to get marry then,when she gave herself one day to go back to her past love and saw that,Nicolas did ever fulfill his promise to renovate the house even if she won'e marry him. And that made her mind,not to marry her fiancee,instead,fight for their past love. In real life,fairy tales do come true,i once believed in it,but,sad to say,sometimes,it's really hurt to believe in.
@maxyl12 (239)
• Philippines
19 May 10
It depends on the situations. What if someone promises you to come home early, but along d way, an accident occur. Would it be still means that promises are broken?
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
19 May 10
That's another story maxy.Still he fulfilled his promise, but he met an accident along the way.
@oldchem1 (8145)
18 May 10
My mum used to say that 'promises are like pie crusts, made to be broken' Personally I try never make a promise If I don't plan on keeping it, the only way that promise would get broken would be if it was something out of my control. My kids grew up knowing that if I made a promise they could pretty much bet it was going to happen, most of the time I would say things like I will try my best or we will see, or it depends, as I didn't want to disappoint them. I am still that way today, a promise is a promise and meant to be kept, after all if your word isn't any good what is?
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Well on my kids I don't usually promise,I f they will ask of something I just say to them I will try my best. But as a mother If ever I can give it ti them I do it. That's why sometimes I do hate promises, I always said that...Don't promise to me,just do it.
@picjim (3004)
• India
18 May 10
Maybe the commitment isn't there.It requires commitment and hard work to take the relationship through thick and thin.I agree its only when we are in difficulties that we lose sight of our goals.But it is in such moments that one has to put in extra effort to see that we achieve our initial promises.If we break promises the other person is also capable of doing the same and the relationship comes to a breaking point.I don't think promises are meant to be broken, in fact when in difficulty onw has to work with increased commitment.
@picjim (3004)
• India
18 May 10
onw should be one.
@joanick27 (142)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Maybe at the time of making the promise you honestly believe on it. That's why I think promises are only true at the time. When time passes by and as we get along with different circumstances, our situations at the time we made the promise change. And this affect the outcome of our promises. I guess like the words "sorry and thank you", "I promise you to..." is abused. Oftentimes, people promise things they don't mean.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
18 May 10
That's why one lover said...You promise to love me forever, but please warned me when forever starts to end...:( Maybe that's the best thing we can do so that heartaches will be lessen,yes open times the word " I promise you to..." is often abused.
@jennyze (7052)
• Indonesia
19 May 10
There are two types of broken promises. One is the person never intended to fulfill the promise. Second is other factors make a person could not keep the promise. Either way, we have to accept it. Married couple may feel a strong bond between them that made them vow to be together for better or worst. Who can say people heart does not change? Who can say people's priority in life never changed? Who can say love is forever? These are other factors that influenced people to break their promises. I can only say that we have to let go, if we cannot hold it anymore. We can only be grateful when the person who broke the promise apologized genuinely.
@jennyze (7052)
• Indonesia
19 May 10
There are two types of broken promises. One is the person never intended to fulfill the promise. Second is other factors make a person could not keep the promise. Either way, we have to accept it. Married couple may feel a strong bond between them that made them vow to be together for better or worst. Who can say people heart does not change? Who can say people's priority in life never changed? Who can say love is forever? These are other factors that influenced people to break their promises. I can only say that we have to let go, if we cannot hold it anymore. We can only be grateful when the person who broke the promise apologized genuinely.
@greenace (124)
• Philippines
19 May 10
promises are never meant to be broken. it is humanity's vulnerability that causes one to break whatever he/she has promised. God made it clear: let our yes be yes our no be no.
@animemisa (131)
• Philippines
19 May 10
"Promises are made to be broken" it's a quote that is only used by people who can't keep their promises. Some couples recite wedding vows which they cannot keep. But there are many people who bind oneself and still intact to his pledge. I definitely would not agree that promises are made to be broken. I never guarantee anything which I cannot do. There are too many factors to consider why a person lead someone to expect something into nothing.
• Philippines
18 May 10
Nobody wants to break the promises he said. But sometimes situation made them not to fulfill it... I remember, an old friend promise something to me, but since we lost contact, his promise didn't come true... I know he doesn't really meant to broke it howeve, there is no way for him to do his promise to me anymore... With married couples, who would have want their marriage broken- unsuccessful? Sometimes there are things that are happening beyond our control, sometimes we are also to weak... Same reason why, one fell for another man or women...
@1hopefulman (9007)
• Canada
18 May 10
A promise is a promise, which means that it should be kept. Or else, why make the promise? A person should take time to think carefully before they promise, because from reading the Bible, God expects us to keep our promises come what may. Ecclesiastes 5:4 (New International Version) 4 When you make a vow to God, do not delay in fulfilling it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. I personally make only promises that I want to keep or know that I can keep. So, you guessed it, I make very few promises.
@umit_umit (1988)
• India
18 May 10
well its true in the prosperity we make promises laugh,move together,care for each other,kove each other and tie a bond a prenuptial bond,promosing to be for each other for ever but yes its true when the adversities some uninevitable incidents accurs we start stepping back and the promises are broken,this is the true fact of life,but then the person who does it will never be able to form a stable and peacefull life for his/her own this is also true and same will happen to the person who say promises are ment to be broken,these person can never be happy in their life!!