Could someone explain this to me..
May 21, 2010 10:06am CST
I am going to quote something and i would like to know what it means. I am not the person who wrote it, the fiance or the parents. "My fiance and I are afraid to tell his parents we are getting married. We are practicing Catholics and they are not" For one this the father is not even Catholic, the mother is but does not attend church. What i want to know is what does the whole catholic thing have to do with informing your parents your getting married? I really want to understand this.
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• South Africa
22 May 10
It doesn't make any sense that they are afraid to tell his parents, unless he knows something about his parents that he's not saying. Perhaps he's had a fall-out with them and feels that by telling them they'll jeopardize the wedding somehow. But if that's the case, then he's got to patch things up with his parents before the wedding. Too often, marriages don't work out because of "hidden skeletons" between one of the couple and the parent(s). The unhappiness between the husband or wife and their parent(s) creeps into the marriage and causes unhappiness there. That's why most churches won't marry a couple unless the parents have given their blessings.
25 May 10
It doesn't make any sense to me either.. i'm not sure why she's pulling the religion card when the real reason was they planned on getting married when the groom will still be in University.. Anyways he only goes to church when he's home for the summer and goes with her. Plus she's not much of a practicing catholic if she's on birthcontrol. I also think that if they are truley madley in love like they say there chould be no fear in telling your parents.
• Boston, Massachusetts
21 May 10
Perhaps she was already Catholic and the fiance converted for her. If his parents are of another religion, they may be afraid to tell his parents that he has converted. Also, as Catholics, they must get married in the church and perhaps fear that his parents will object or refuse to attend. In the end, they are adults (I assume) and must do what they think is right for them. His parents will make their decision to approve or disapprove, but if they are smart, they will not close doors on their relationship with the couple - especially if they ever want to see the grandchildren one day.