marriage ......... ( 01 )

There are alot of people that tend to get married in a hurry for some reason and they find the idea of a wedding aswell as to say they are married is great as that is what all their friends have done as they are all married,only to find that being married to that person is not what they thought it was going to be, so it ends in divorce.I think that you have to live with a person to truely know all of their faults aswell as for them to know all of your faults for at least a year maybe two before even thinking of getting married.

Let me start like, marriage is a process of sealing your love to someone. Then it must take steps. Sealing a love had a lot of points to consider such as maturity of couples, wholly capable to take responsibility, and YOUR LOVE. I'm 20 when i met my hubby and it was odd to both of us since my parents don't like him. A one year secret relationship and struggle. Then after six months we decided to have a gift of son, a year after we are on the acceptance stage. Everything seems lighter than before. I would say, days or years doesn't matter as long as the marriage is for LOVE. Everything that happened and will happen would likely be easier to adjust and keep if both of you love each other.

well when I decide to get married, I will wait for a few months from the meeting the boy to marrying him. I have learnt from my experiences that first impressions are not always correct. So I will take my time to know the boy before marrying him. So, yes it would be around eight months to ten, before I get married to him.

Hello dear bhai, Instant marriage or prepared/arranged marriage is not based on how long it's been prepared or how long you've known each other. It is love,respect and honesty that matters most for me. Some people known each other since childhood and even loved each other for long time before getting married,but still,after few years,they ended up with separation. Love indeed fade when it is not well take care off. love wears out when,it is not tend with loving,care and respect. Ok,back to your question,my marriage is not a well prepared one. It's a rush wedding. But,for a grand wedding,it takes 2 to 3 months of preparation. From choosing the secondary sponsors,brides maid/grooms men and etc. For the wedding entourage alone,it takes a month to choose the concern people. Plus the church arrangement,the wedding gowns and flowers. The wedding singer and or the marching band to played the music vows. The reception and foods,the wedding cake,give aways and souvenirs. The camera man,and video...the wedding invitations. Whew...so much to prepare... Are you planning for a wedding my dear brother? Am i invited?

One day. No sweetie i don't think that will last. As i understand it, you have to get to really know each other, then you get engaged and then if you stil love each other you get married. It can take anything from 5 months to about two years. TATA.

Time is not really the reason to get married because no matter how long or how short you met someone its still the feelings that matters most and not the period of time meeting someone.But impulsive decision may result to break ups or divorced...its still best to give it some time to know each other...

In the instances of our arranged marriage system, there is not much time to get to know the partner. The plans, arrangements are all made by elders. We just have a meeting betwen the two parents and the boy and the girl and after they decide whether they like each other[ a very short time that really cannot determine-however, since it is a case of matching of qialifications, family compatibility etc.., we check only broad parameters.] It is diffciult and like hte case you haev pointed out the coule find their balance slowly.Initially it starts with chemistry, then slowly understanding has to evolve.

I think maybe they were lucky... I took four years before I got married and it wasn't enough. Or perhaps your lucky couple hasn't been married long enough to really face serious challenges. Or perhaps I was an idiot. :D

That is just nuts! I can't believe people sometimes marry after just meeting someone! Alot of times it doesn't work out but it sounds like it did for the couple you mentioned! Planing a wedding it depends on what type of wedding you want. I known people who plan out a wedding,get married then have the dinner and recetion later on a different day. I know a coulpe who got married by the justice of the peace and are having their reception next month! I have friends who are getting married on Saturady. They took a year to plan their wedding! My sister is getting re-married in mid-August. She gave herself 3 months to plan for it! Her wedding is going to be simple and casual! It all depends on how where,when,what size,the cost,who is paying for it,how much the couple wants to spend, and lots of other thins I can't think of right now! It just depends!

My experience is, the quicker they get married, the shorter the marriage lasts. I'd say 6 months to a year long engagement.

In my case, I was courted by my husband for six months, we worked in the same office that's why we have the chance of seeing each other everyday. He proposed marriage after a series of visits in our house, he was then 32 and I was 24yrs.old. We are now married for 23 years. Even if you don't know each other for long and you decided to get married, what is important is to be faithful with each other and keep that love burning between you and your partner.

I can't understand why they rush into marriage,it's like a adventure.I can't get marriage before understand my lover deeply,both of us shuold be reposible for our marriage.

it is not advisable to do that cause getting married is a very important decision in life but for that case, since they are happy, i think we should just be happry for them too. i'm glad they're still together and living happily.

i think first time they have attraction and they decided i want to live with her/him.slowly their friendship devloped and then love happen i think this way they worked and it is very good

Hi Shibham, In the UK I think it yakes time to arrange, about three weeks I think. I had known my husband all my life and we were together about 5 years before we married. The marriage itself did not last long though so there are no guaranteees and if these people are still happy I guess that must have known upon meeting that they were made for each other. Huggles. Ellie :D

Was it a arrange marriage?These types of love marriages are unheard.I know this is very common here in India and many people make marriage successful even after knowing little bit each other before marriage.They try their best to make other person fall in love.Many of such marriages are successful and many aren't. There are so many people who dont fall in love and get trap in unwanted marriage.

Well that is good to hear, they process marriage there easily, probably if there is no issue of beliefs and traditions with regards to getting married. I am married to a foreign national. We have been steady gf/bf stage for 4 years to know each other very well and then we decided to get married. The application took time because it has to be posted for one month so that both is cleared to public. After we filed for marriage, we waited out for one month and finally we got our marriage certificate cleared . Our case is not that easy, I am a foreigner living in my hubby's country so I produced a lot of documents to prove that I was single with no obligations before I married an Indian national. Anyway, what is important is that you love each other and will take good care of each other before God and your family.

Wow. That couple you've met was on a hurry, alright. It depends on the couple and the wedding they're planning to hold. If they plan a grand celebration wedding then it could take long to plan it but if they're really on a hurry then they can always get married at the nearest city hall. :)

In our country can not to be so soon If the couple married under civil and not religious...have medical tests...and 7 days of waiting So, the two can reconsider this problem in 7 days:))

Here in the UK, I don't think it would be possible to get married the day after meeting each other, as you need to go to the register office a week or so before. I met my first husband on October 1988, we got engaged in December 1988, began living together in January 1989. We got married in November 1989, when I was 20 and he was 22. We had our child in October 1990 but split up when she was 6 weeks old. In hindsight, I can see we were too young and really not compatible. My current husband is much better, as we met when he was 22 and I was 27. We have been together 13 years now and married for 8 years, so you can see we were together much longer before we got married.