i am leaving my boss tomorrow, what would i say?

Spain
May 30, 2010 9:54am CST
a while ago, my boss told me that he can't afford losing me and he said sorry if he caused everything that is why i am resigning. he said that he will be missing me so much and if there is a way to change my mind, he will be very happy to hear it. But i said that my decision is firm and i must stand and rise above it. i need to save my face. i know i need to talk to him before leaving tomorrow but what would i say...thanks
17 responses
• India
30 May 10
I think first you have to decide that whether u want to stay in this office anymore or not even if you will get whatever you want. and I think changing job is not a shame, you should not hide the face for this.
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• Spain
1 Jun 10
changing job is not a shame of course.. for me changing job is an honor at least what my mind my soul and body want will be granted..
@GeoBro (13)
30 May 10
I don't know why you are leaving your current job - whether its for personal or career reasons - and its no-one's business but yours anyway. But there are a few things I would recommend you try to do and remember when you leave. 1. Whatever the reason for your leaving, thank your boss for taking you on in the first place and try to keep the seperation amicable and as pleasant an experience for both of you as possible. If your leaving ISN't due to him directly, tell him so! Bosses are just people like you and me and believe it or not, they have feelings too! Also, if you think you CAN reconcile things then TALK TO HIM about it, tell him what you need/would like. Never mind losing face - we all do from time to time and it isn't such a big deal! 2. Remember that you may one day wish to work with or for this person again or for someone who he knows and respects, so don't leave 'under a cloud'. In other words, as in 1 above, make the parting as amicable as possible. 3. Don't 'rubbish' your old boss to your new one! Your new boss will likely wonder what you're likely to say about him one day, should you choose to move on again. 4. Don't speak ill of your old boss to work colleagues or anyone you come into contact with in your professional life. News travels fast as they say and it may well be that your old boss will getto hear what you've been saying. Slander and libel are both serious offences! 5. Only YOU can decide if this move is really what you want/need. So sit down quietly, put some relaxing music on the hi-fi, close your eyes and think back over the time you've worked for this guy. Remember the good and the not-so-good and weigh up in your mind which one outweighs the other. 6. Make sure any decisions you make are for the right reasons! Remember, its YOUR life and its YOUR future - you owe it to yourself to do the best you can! I hope this helps - and good luck. :-)
• Spain
1 Jun 10
what you have said really helps. i really appreciate your efforts. during my leisure time surely i will have fun and glad to answer all your discussions.. just please bear with me now as i am still busy and i think i am depress. i have a lot of feelings that i cant explain.. this maybe due to the postponement of my resignation... they just asked me to stay at least a week more with them despite that i past my letter 1 month ago.
@p_vadla (1688)
• India
30 May 10
As I understand your problem,you are leaving this boss, only to join a new one.Definitely you would be joining a better job for which your old job and the boss are also responsible in one way.So, you must thank old boss profusely for making you find a better opportunity and also better future.I think that's enough.
• Spain
30 May 10
thanks a lot sir. due to my excitement and mixed feelings that i am feeling right now, i really don't know what would i say to him.. he is a local here and according to what i have experience when someone is leaving, whether local or foreign like me, there is a little talks that will happen...
• Philippines
30 May 10
yeah p_vadla is right. Thanking him for the opportunity he gave you to work and expand your skills and knowledge is a must. Every experience means a lot for both of you since you had been working together for sometime. If you decided to have a new job for someone that you think would be much better then go for it. Tell also your boss that you have learn a lot from him and you would surely use those leanings for your next job. Tell him that you are not closing the opportunity to work with him again in the future. Good luck!
• Spain
1 Jun 10
thanks dear. i will surely tell him that when the extension that they asked will finish.. i'll be still working with him until they found replacement. actually i have doubts. about the possibility of releasing me.. as for me i am fully decided to go and that would be a glorious moment for me. i just pray to god that everything will be went right...
@ellago (128)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
I have the same problem. However, we have a different boss. I don't have a good relationship with my boss but it's not also bad. I am leaving in a month and I am still drafting the things that I want to tell him.
• Spain
10 Jun 10
thanks for your response there... we really need a change in order for us to grow.
@bystander (2308)
• Philippines
31 May 10
sometimes, that's the usual repertoire of people who throw other people into the gutter with how they treat them... i don't think your boss means what he said... so just say goodby and give yourself a pat in the back for making a good riddance...
• Spain
1 Jun 10
i know i will sound emotional this time. i can't do nothing but to follow. to succumb my strong determination that i was touting firstly. with all my spirit, i was ready to leave, all the feelings and facial reactions that i had set before leaving them was all stolen by his strong decision to let me stay for a couple of days until my replacement found and trained. i do not know if this is right. i had past my notice of intention to leave my position more than a month now. and had a frequent follow up that if they need my help in finding my replacement, i could recommend one. one month is over but until now they did not find anyone who will take my position. what shall i do.. i know i am hard working and i can work even 15 hours everday but the relationships i had with my superiors i think i cant stand anymore and cant resist my urge to go.. i cried for this... and i know i do look like an animal now being put inside a big box without any opennings and just waiting to die..
• Philippines
31 May 10
it would probably good for you to say your gratitude.. and don't forget to say..KEEP IN TOUCH...hehe
• Spain
1 Jun 10
i would definety write that i reiterate my gratitude when i leave but i won't give my personal number.. hehehe
• Philippines
31 May 10
Be honest and direct to the point. I think your boss will surely understand if you tell him/her the truth why you are leaving. If your decision is final and that your happy with it then go for it.
• Spain
1 Jun 10
thanks man but some people are taking so much hard to understand someone.. not all are the same. there are really some bosses that love prejudicing us and impede our growth.
• Canada
31 May 10
apoligize in a nice way and say i love working with u and enjoyed and be very honest in the reason why u are leaving best of luck
• Spain
1 Jun 10
yes thats true.. we must say sorry for every mistakes we have done but thankful enough that thru those mistakes, we were able to correct it and learned from it.
@dhezrn (98)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Let your boss know why you are really leaving. Don't leave him in the dark not knowing why you are resigning. If you can be honest with him and let him know why you are leaving, then do it. Leave with grace, just like what they would say.
• Spain
1 Jun 10
leave with grace just like what others say. i would add that.. not to burn bridges as well. who knows sometime we may lookback...
• India
31 May 10
lol you got the guts what he wants is a firm face to face speech nothing is more positive than that say what u feel in front of his face that's it end good luck for ur new job
• Spain
1 Jun 10
thanks. telling exactly what we feel face to face is a heart to heart talk as we can read and feel what exactly those words meant to be by our facial reactions.
@hulaboy (319)
• Micronesia
31 May 10
Tell your boss the truth, why you're leaving, etc. The truth shall set you free. If you didn't like something at the company, thats why you're leaving, tell him that. He will in turn thank you for being truthful. I don't think change your mind and staying will be a good idea anymore, of course unless they offer to increase your salary and benefits.
• Spain
1 Jun 10
at least they will offer a bigger one i will accept. no, i wont accept. because telling him what exactly i felt wasn't about the pay.. it was about relatioship between superior and subordinate. it is all a matter of mismatched. it may be my job and my low profession but not my dignity. i hope you get what i mean..
@mspitot (3834)
• Philippines
31 May 10
even if you have problems with your boss, say thank you for accepting you and teaching you things.
• Spain
1 Jun 10
exactly dear!
• Philippines
31 May 10
just finalized you decision and hear what you have in your mind. You need to think more where you should most comfortable, where you are most happy. Happy thinking...
• Spain
1 Jun 10
hi dear, yes what i feel and think exactly is what i want. and so i must do it. my mind said yes, my heart said yes and my godly spirit said yes. and so i will say yes.
@LotRowena (159)
• Philippines
30 May 10
This exactly refers to resignation. A resignation must involve an accepted irrevocable resignation wherein you're boss will no longer call or ask you to change your mind. In this case, it seems like things are not yet fixed between you and him. The mere fact that you are asking for advice here from MyLotters, is maybe because you're still undecided to leave. Sometimes, we owe a lot to our bosses and leaving is the hardest thing to do. But if you really need to leave your boss, just be firm, and say goodbye, don't give hopes and don't forget to say THANK YOU AND MORE POWER.
• Spain
1 Jun 10
thanks for your response dear, good points i've got here. i am fully decided to leave and i think i dont owe him anything.. i am leaving for many reasons and most of that reasons are caused by him exactly.. you know if i only had a better one, i wont leave..
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
30 May 10
here where i live in canada, you have to give two weeks notice if you are planning to leave your job. in your case i would just tell him the truth (in a nice way though).
• Spain
1 Jun 10
what i am asking is what would i say before leaving as it is normal here to have some talks or even bonding before saying goodbye to each other, before leaving. my resignation letter has been tendered more than a month now. that was a 1 month notice before leaving.. right now, i am sad and depress and i may need some profesionals here who could help me as it seemed that my application for leaving might put in vain.. i have heard from one of my colleague a while ago that they will not allow me to leave and my application might be devalued... oh, no.. lord please..
@Hatley (154580)
• Garden Grove, California
30 May 10
kumar if it were me, I would be pleasant b ut firm, thank him but say I have learned while here, but we had our differences, and it has shown me a better place for me. Thanks, and good bye. I mean after all he does know you and he did have differences, and he knows you mean what you say, so why draw it out or cry on his shoulder. he has in a way made it possible for you to move up.But you do not owe him any crawling or any forgive mes. He made it hard for you and I would not forget that for a moment.
• Spain
1 Jun 10
your avvy today is much nicer than yesterday. how are you miss hatley? yes, we must be firm to all of our decision especially when we think that a greener pasture is just ahead of us.. leaving is not that crying moment. instead we must be proud that we are brave enough to stop. to put an end and move on. find one that we think best and will fit for us..
• Philippines
30 May 10
things you have to sort first before making your final decision: 1. are you absolutely sure that you want to leave? set aside your ego, can you afford to lose your job? 2. if work problems are the reason for you leaving, can there be compromise just for you to stay? 3. if you resign, would you be regretting it afterwards? let's be practical, snagging a job is really quite difficult nowadays. if you are earning alright,that might be a good reason for you to reconsider staying. however, if you see that there is a better opportunity with better work condition, then it's time for you to transfer. now, what shall you tell your boss...hmmm...please do not forget to thank your boss, despite the bad moments your had working with him. a little gratitude for being his staff, he deserves to hear it from you. you can also state to him the reasons why you are leaving so that he is aware about your whole situation. he has to know the other things that he might not know because bosses have other and bigger things to think of than office life situations. you may suggest also things that you think will improve the relationships with the people you are leaving. make your boss understand and know your other co-employees. good luck on your talk. =)
• Spain
1 Jun 10
hi dear, you have a very nice response thank you so much dear..