i have to throw this out there
By LoriAn
@LoriAn (120)
United States
June 3, 2010 7:21am CST
this is not on my mother although it is on my grandmother.i feel my relatives are mistreating her this is why i feel they are mistreating her she just turned ninety so she is an old lady yes but can still do things for herself though not much before she turned 90 years old my aunts and uncles to me decided to throw her away as they did not want her as a burden on their shoulders that would be disrupting their lives to much and they felt they would be to busy to take care of her.so they decide to fix her up in an assistant living home,so they took her out of her home she had probably been in since she was like 18 maybe a little older her memories that lie in her home.NOW my relatives all have financial means and space to support her also my dad does too.THIS AS I SAID EARLIER IS NOT THE PROBLEM.I HAVE TRIED TO CONVINCE THE FAMILY TO TAKE HER IN BUT THEY REPLY NO AND SAYS EITHER WAY SHE IS NOT HAPPY AND THIS WAY SHE HAS PEOPLE LOOKING AFTER HER BUT THE 2DAY BEFORE WE WENT UP THERE TO CELEBRATE HER 90TH BIRTHDAY SHE HAD FALLEN AND HURT THE BACK OF HER HEAD NOBODY COULD EXPLAIN TO ME HOW THIS HAPPENED.NOW MY AUNT LIVES IN THE SAME CITY AS WHERE THE ASISTANT LIVING HOME IS AS A MATTER OF FACT BEFORE THEY MOVED MY GRANDMA SHE WAS MY GRANDMAS NEIGHBOR.NOW I AM THE RELIGIOUS TYPE AND IN THE BIBLE I READ IT TELLS US OUR MOTHERS GAVE UP THEIR LIVES FOR US SO WE MUST TAKE CARE OF THEM WHEN THEY ARE OLD I TOLD MY DAD I WOULD TAKE HER IN IF I HAD THE SPACE I LIVE IN A TWO BEDROOM TRAILER AND TAKE CARE OF FOUR KIDS AND THEIR DAD.WHAT MORE CAN I DO TO CONVINCE THE FAMILY TO TAKE HER IN?ALL THEIR KIDS ALL MY RELATIVES HAVE GROWN KIDS,SO RAISING KIDS SHOULD NOT BE A PROBLEM FOR THEM.THE UPSIDE OF THIS STORY IS 76 PEOPLE SHOWED FOR HER 90TH BIRTHDAY PARTY.I GOT TO SEE WHERE SHE IS LIVING THERE ARE ONLY 6 PEOPLE THERE FOR THE ATTENTANTS TO TAKE CARE OF IT SEEMED LIKE A NICE QUIET PLACE MAYBE EVEN HOMLY BUT IT WAS NOT MY GRANDMAS HOME WHERE YOU WALK IN HER HOME AND COME OUT KNOWING SHE IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT.HOW MUCH LONGER TILL SHE FALLS AGAIN I DO NOT THINK THOSE HOMES TAKE GOOD CARE OF PEOPLE AS MY AUNT TO ME WAS NOT TAKEN CARE WELL IN ONE EITHER BUT WHAT MORE CAN I DO?
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@besthope44 (12123)
• India
14 Aug 10
Well grandparents are someone more respectable and they are equal to god. I wonder why people hate them and throw them out. Am sorry for your grandmom. You can take good care of her and happy you have taken a good care! God Bless!!
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Here's my take on it. My grandmother lived with my mom for 7 years. She was heartbroken when she had to put her in an assisted living home. It wasn't because she didn't want her. It was because she had become a danger to herself and everyone in the house. She had alzheimer's, and had begun to do things that were just not safe. For instance, my mother went to take a shower. 10 minutes later she came into the living room and Grandma said "there's a $10 bill laying by the telephone." "Where did it come from?" my mother asked. "The man I let in to use the telephone left it there to pay for the long distance call" She had no idea that she'd put herself and my mom in danger! She didn't understand even when we tried to explain it to her.
I know there are bad places out there, but there are also good places. Be proactive. You are the granddaughter. Even though you can't make the decisions, and force someone from the family to take her, you can check out the home where they put her.
Also think of this, if she is falling, she is not safe staying by herself. If she moved into someone's home, is there someone that is there 24 hours a day? If they work, they would have to hire someone to take care of her.
I am a pastor's wife and I believe that you should take care of our elders as well, but sometimes we have to face reality and know that there is not a better place for them to be than with someone who is trained to take care of them.
