How to handle this Lady?

Hi Chaitra! Maid servants are most difficult to handle. Please keep your cool and you do not pay much attention or heed to what she says about neighbors, if you ignore her on this account and do not show any interest, she may not tell in details. Else, whenever she starts talking about neighbors, just try to divert her attention and ask about her own well being or ask about her family. Have a great day! Deepak

hi chaitra, first of all congrats for shifting into your new home.You are lucky to have found a maid servant as it is getting more and more difficult to get one these days. My maid has been working for me since 1994 which is really a long time by their standards.She is average in her work but very consistent. She rarely takes a day off except 15 days in summer and 1 days during the Ganesh festival.If she has to take a day off she lets me know in advance.She is also very honest, hardly talks at all and answers only if i talk to her. I am lucky to have her.In your case don`t talk too much to her.These people have a very high ego factor and also are very temperamental, like my servant.There is no use arguing with these people since they are mostly illiterate,again like my servant. So the best tactic is to keep a little aloof from her and if she talks nonsense don`t answer but just keep quiet.She will then realise that you are not interested in her talking and will become silent.

I'd just come out and tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. She is working for you and you are the boss. If she is talking about them to you then odds are that she is talking the them about you. She is coming into your home and theirs to work and not gossip about their personal business which is not her business at all. She may do a good cleaning job but to be honest, she doesn't sound all that trustworthy.

hi chaitra... i see that u must had a reason to be absent couple of weeks. missed you a lot and i also absent last couple of days due to busy schedule. here with your problem. the fourth categorized citizen of india always maintain a dual personality and its important to maintain a distance with them bcoz sometimes you may be trapped by their verses. so you just need not to give attention what is she saying, just disregard her speeches and when she will realized that she is unable to attract you, then she will automatically stop to behave so. there are some ladies in our society who tend to know other's back ground and use the maid as the reporter. have a nice day a**h.

Hi Chaitra Servants- why servants many people are like that- so just ignore what she says and if she still persists tell her nicely that you do not like such talk and do not want to hear in future and you yourself do not indulge in such things- she will get the message - a normal person if she is !!

Maybe you should pay no attention to her complaints about your neighbour, just take them as wind near you ears. You hired her for cleaning, so if her cleaning satisfied you, I think if I were you, I should contain this little problem. Have your ears with filters and Happy lotting!

Hi dear, This discussion is old now and I hope you tackled the problem well. Is she with you now? Is she continuing this type of talking now? I think a major percentage of maid servants are happy for spreading some rumors among neighborhood. Let her continue the habit and you need not worry on her bad habit. If she talks bad about somebody, just ask some other questions to her with a different topic. If you do like this 2-3 times she can understand that you are not interested in these kinds of talks and will stop sharing gossips. She never feels hurt by changing the topic.

You are just contradictory to the majority of the women.Generally they need gossips about their neighbors and servants are the easy source.But we have to remember that she will say about us too likewise in the neighborhood. You can't stop her but you can restrict yourself by not be near her always.Just leave her alone at work and that will do.

Hi chaitra Servants are like that only. They derive pleasure out of commenting about one employer with the other and want to enter in our good books. Simply ask her not to tell you about others and you do not like it with smiling face. So she will not feel bad and will stop telling you about others

Chaita, tell her that everybody have some good things inside, and so bad things, so that's not okay to criticize someone, tell her when she is at Mood. And also tell her about her work, tell her how she does it nicely, tell her how her work is fine and how do you like her work, but all these must be true. Might it work, and she stop making prate. Happy interaction with your servant!!

Just dont give attention to her discusiions too much and if u r in India then do watch a Tv serial named MR, MRs Sharma Ilahabad wale On sab Tv at 9.30 pm. Start acting like that family with her.Just start acring like a fool to her but dont be a fool. She will stop her deeds automatically.Have a nice day

Just tell her nicely..like " Its so great to hear your opinion to our neighbours but we can have great time together here if we'll try not to say bad words...no offence meant but your a good person and it'll help you to become a better person if you dont talk about the others life." something like that.She works for you and i think you have the right to tell her anything specially your her boss.

i think a;most most of the servants are like that, and i too have a servant exactly like this. but do not give attention to her as she tells bad about neighbors. also remember that she will be saying same about you to others and thus dont tell her any important or any thing because these kind of peoples can make that thing a main talk in your surroundings. always keep her a bit distant in your mind