Have you ever had something slip through your fingers?

United States
June 10, 2010 12:03pm CST
Have you ever had something slip through your fingers? Love? Opportunities? What was it? I just had something slip through my fingers this morning. It was the bar of soap. It decided to squeeze through my grasp twice. All kidding aside though, I have had some things slip through my fingers and mostly, it was my fault. I didn't take some opportunities to meet new people. I didn't take the opportunities to try new things. I've changed now and want to try everything I can get my hands on and take every opportunity as it comes my way.
4 people like this
17 responses
• Malaysia
10 Jun 10
yup.. Love & Opportunity.. didn't know what i had until it was gone..
2 people like this
@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
10 Jun 10
How about writing a book??? See, I can't afford an editor, so I am a part of this private writer site and I just got my first reply to my second chapter and maybe now I know why it took so long, it wasn't good enough.. Seems that romance is suppose to be written in third person, not first or second..The person says that I have either written many stories and set in my ways or a new writer and didn't this..Then she said it could be her, but that she wouldn't read my story.. So third person huh? Like someone is on the outside watching the story unfold???Because romance books I have read usually is in first or second....I don't know..I guess it's time to take another break before I loss it.. Sorry, but yours is the first I saw after reading this and your subject line seems to say it all, An opportunity slipping away..:(
@Hatley (148967)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jun 10
carmelanirel Phyllis Whitney writes in first person and does a landoffice business in sales as a mystery writer; this person who said that about third person must not have read some of the mysteries I have. I also write in first person as it seems natural that way. I am unpublished but have not tried for a long time to get anyhthing published. I am just wondering what credentials this person had who has made you doubt yourself. perhaps she is no person to be giving that kind of advice. I would just keep on writingit your way.If its good someone will buy it.
• United States
10 Jun 10
Thanks Hatley, you don't know how this makes me feel... and you know,I already know this because I got into writing by reading these books of the same genre..Then I based my story style similar to theirs..And you know what??? One of the authors that I have read and writes this way is also a member of this site...Not that I would bring up her actual name, but I feel like going in there now to tell this person that and say, "See, here is a published author who writes in first and second person and I LOVER HER BOOKS!!!" And ironically I have seen this same person many times, and not just in my own stories, will go in and when they critique, they'll say something like , "I didn't have much time to read this, so I'll just read part" Then they will comment on the first 2 paragraphs..__
• United States
11 Jun 10
Controversial or not, it's the ability to write that makes an author great. No matter if it isn't the standard, if you do a good job at it, no one has the right to criticize. I find that breaking the mold sometimes is a good thing, even if others disagree. Put your best efforts into the book. Make it detailed. Make it interesting. There has to be somebody out there who wail want to publish it. Good luck.
1 person likes this
@cream97 (29176)
• United States
10 Jun 10
Hi, StephanieAnnC. I was persuaded by my future husband to go and try for my driver's license... I could really drive really well and he told me to try for my road test. But I would not do it. I was being stubborn and childish at that time. So now, I have realized that I really need my driver's license right now. I regret not trying for it when I had the chance to. And oh yeah, the soap did not slip through my fingers last night when I was taking a shower. I can't stand it when the soap hits the tub really hard like a rock.
1 person likes this
@cream97 (29176)
• United States
10 Jun 10
I meant the soap did slip through my fingers..
1 person likes this
• United States
11 Jun 10
How come you can't try for your driver's license now? I hate when the soap does that too. I hate bending down and grabbing it, especially when I go to pick it up and slips out again. It's so frustrating!
@ellie333 (21029)
10 Jun 10
Hi StephanieAnnC, I am sure there have been plenty of times in my life where I have let oppurtunites pass me by and love I guess too as my daughters say that I wouldn't recognise a chat up line if it slapped me in the face!¬ lol. Huggles. Ellie :D
1 person likes this
• United States
11 Jun 10
LOL. I'm pretty oblivious to a lot of things too! I think everyone has one missed opportunity or another. It's kind of sad, but it happens.
@pooja30 (203)
• India
10 Jun 10
I've had love slip though my fingers, mostly because of bad circumstances, and those same circumstances led me to lose a whole lot of friends, and a few months of my life, and an entire semester at college. But the silver lining is that I learnt from those circumstances, and now I know better. :) Now I'm not going to let any new opportunity or anything else get past me, if I can help it.
1 person likes this
• United States
11 Jun 10
Wow! Your past stinks! I'm sorry that happened to you! But I'm so happy that you won't let that happen anymore . Good luck in the future!
@med889 (5958)
10 Jun 10
There were some opportunities in the past which I did not pay enough attention to and when I realized it was too late though, some really good things slipping is a real lost when we take them into consideration.
@crackx (628)
• Belgium
10 Jun 10
I let my points from last year (school) slip through my fingers... I could have made it through, but I guess I would get through without too much effort, here I am doing the same year again, not letting the opportunity, to pass, slip by anymore ;) The chance of having a great girlfriend was something I took, and will never let that slip =) Greetz
1 person likes this
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
There were opportunities that slipped through my hands but I believe there was reason why and though I may not know the reason why. I believe that it was never meant to be at the certain place and time. God knows best so I trust in His will.
1 person likes this
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Jun 10
Skiing? Well seriously, my husband used to ski. I admit I wasn't that interested in learning, but I think maybe if he had offered I would have tried it. One day he said to me he was going to quit because it was just too expensive. Years and years later he told me he had quit because he thought I wouldn't like it.
• United States
15 Jun 10
Oh no. That's sad. I don't know how to ski and I really don't have an interest in it, but then again, if my boyfriend wanted to go skiing and invited me, I wouldn't say no. I would definitely try it, I think. That's what love does to you. I guess your husband was just looking out for your own interests, I don't htink he meant to not give you the opportunity on purpose. Still, I bet it was upsetting at the time.
1 person likes this
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Jun 10
I was mainly annoyed that he made that decision and didn't include me in it. If he had asked me, maybe I would have said I wasn't that interested in skiing, or maybe I would have said "sure, I'll give it a try". But I certainly never would have asked him to give it up.
• United States
15 Jun 10
I understand your point. Did you ever talk to him about how you felt about it? I would hate not being asked to be included in my partner's activities. Evene if he thought I wouldn't like it, I'd like to give it a try too.
1 person likes this
• United States
13 Jun 10
I suppose everyone has allowed something to slip through our fingers at one point or another, may more for some than others. My thinking is that if it were an opportunity that was beyond my control then I would be satisfied knowing that I didn't allow it to pass me because of neglect. There are some people who allow great opportunities pass them by due to neglect and or laziness so I suppose then regret kicks in. Good for you! We must all tackle everything and anything when it comes to opportunities, what we have to do is just make sure that when we plunge in we have all facts, so that if it doesn't pan out, then we did our best. ")
• United States
15 Jun 10
Agreed. Neglect turns to regret and regret is definitely not what you want to feel in life. I don't want to neglect any opportunities that come my way. I try to take all of them, especially if I know where they might lead me.
• United States
15 Jun 10
I am going to change the old saying... it's better to have lost trying than to have never tried. You and I will always at least try. :)
• United States
16 Jun 10
Agreed. I'd rather have tried something and find out that I hate it, instead of not trying it at all. I would have failed before I even began. Did you notice that "You and I will always try" rhymed?
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
11 Jun 10
The soap thing has happened to me from time to time. I think the rest of it happens to most of us, it takes a while before we can train ourselves to recognize the opportunities that are abundantly around us each day. A few tend to slip by now and then, and that is all part of the learning experience. Sincerely and With Appreciation.
• United States
12 Jun 10
I agree. It is hard hard to recognize the opportunities around us. Mostly because most opportunities are vague or very small. It's rare to get a huge promotion, but it's common to get a small one. See my point?
1 person likes this
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
12 Jun 10
Aye, but those small ones all add up, and together form a massive one. It is little things over time that have the most effect on your life. Whether it is common or not, big or large, you still have to see it for what it is before you can act on it, and most people turn off that part of their instinct in life, too much negative programming from people in their lives. The negative programming isn't usually intentional, though it is there. Sincerely and With Appreciation.
• United States
12 Jun 10
I agree. A lot of people are pessimistic and I have to admit that I used to be very pessimistic. I realized that it doesn't help, but only makes things worse for me. I also agree that good things add up, which make great things.
• China
11 Jun 10
hi,stephanieAnnc,i think there is no one would say no to this question.people always do these things that didn't cherish what they owned until losed it forever.i think may be many things you will get an opportunity to gain again,but there is a thing you will neve come to it again,that's company with your family members.time is equal to everyone,if you spend more time to do your busniess or study,you would get less time to company with your family members,when your parents die someday,you will found you have missed the most precious time for company with them.so i think we wouldn't let these things slip through our hand,we should hold these opportunity otherwies we would regret!
• United States
12 Jun 10
I agree. I'm nineteen years old now and cherish my family very much. I know one day they will be gone and I'm trying to learn as much as I can from them now. Yes, education is something that is hard to obtain later in life if you miss it on your first chance, but it doesn't just disappear. You can gain more education later i life, it's just more difficult.
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
One should always grab every opportunity that comes our way...
• United States
11 Jun 10
I agree. It doesn't mean people always do though. And welcome to myLot! I hope you enjoy it here!
• China
11 Jun 10
everybody have sliped something important from his fingers,because we just a human,not the god, we can not have everything of the world,so,the only ting we can do is do our best everyday,when the chance comes,we can grasp it,!
• United States
11 Jun 10
I agree with you. We make mistakes, but we can still try to grab every opportunity that is thrown at us. It may not work out, but at least we gave the effort to try.
@Hatley (148967)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jun 10
hyes i have several times mostly to do with not becoming a research librarian rather than a lowly page shelving media. I chose to get a BA in English when I really wanted a BS in Library Science as the U of ca Irvine did not have the BS so I went for a BA. In order to be a research librarian in Orange County CA you have to have a BS .It slipped through my fingers, then I got an offer to interview for research librarian without the degree and decided as it was in another town and while I could take the bus in the daytime night time I could not rely on the us so I turned it down. bad bad decision. so I worked at low wages but with the best crew ever and loved my low paying job so well I stayed for 23 years.If I had the chance a second time I would work out the night ride home by finding one of the staff who was going my way. but anyway I do not any longer really regret it. all water under the bridge now.
• United States
11 Jun 10
That's good that you don't regret it anymore. I'm glad that you liked your low paying job though. If you didn't like it, you'd probably regret your decision more. I've thought about being a librarian once or twice, partially because I like children. I'm going to college to become a teacher, but my mother told me that it'd be pretty nice to be a librarian because you get to deal with the children, but hand them back to the teacher and not see them for awhile.
• China
11 Jun 10
i found many thing slip through my finger b'coz of my hrd luck not b'coz of work i'm done all the work that i can but sometime i felt little short of that thing so it happen most to me i found this while i choose my carrier it happen i have this kind of experience
• India
11 Jun 10
Lots and lots of opportunities. Love, not yet. hope it won't happen in case of love. I was a introvert during my school. In college i was half way, in transition, between introvert-ism and extrovert-ism . After joining my current company, it has changed my perception of life. Lots and lots of opportunities forced on to me. They made me face life with more courage. They have made me into a full-fledged and independent person. My managers gave me respect and freedom which i never got from my college or school not even relatives,for that matter . But no regrets. This was supposed to happen like this. God's will. Amen