Are you comfortable to go to a big party?

United States
June 16, 2010 7:30pm CST
When my good friend invited me to a big party, I always have a moment of hesitation, and I need some minutes to consider whether I should go or not. Sometimes, I simply call back and make up an excuse not be able to show up. Ultimately, I have to admit, I am not a people person. I am shy and I afraid to talk to other people to whom I don't know. I don't feel comfortable to talk to them, nor I would have a common topic to talk to them about. That is what I think of. What about you?
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18 responses
@qianyun6 (2069)
• China
17 Jun 10
Hello, swetashah! I hate big party too. There are too many people there, make the place noisy. I'm a person like quiet extremely. My head get muddled in that kind of environment. If I am invited, always I'll find an excuse for refusing. Besides, I can't eat well in a big party, especially in China, many people will urge the guests to drink, it's impolite to refuse but it's bad for health to drink, that's terrible.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
21 Jun 10
I love going to big parties, or small parties for that matter. There is always someone to listen to. I am not much of a talker - rather write, and I am a bit shy as well, but I am also very sneaky as to getting into the particular group and then saying a few words here and then. I found that I was told not to talk to those of whom you do not have a common interest, and then I said "what the=-- no one is going to keep me from being part of the conversation. I found that if they are talking about someone dying, you can show sympathy or ask how it happened. The same with babies being born, ask if it is a boy or a girl, how much it weighed, how the mother is, etc. Just search for common subjects that will show how much you care. Also if you do not know about the subject, if you are technically challenged or whatever, you can ask about it. Works for me.
@nina_khan (749)
• Pakistan
19 Jun 10
yes, i have the same problem too. i dont go on big parties but last year they came to my home and took me with them selves and i was unable to say no to them i saw they were really enjoying the party and i did too. from there own i started to like parties but after that i had no parties at all hahaha
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
i like parties because i get to meet new people..it's like widening my horizon..actually i can even go alone..before, when i was still in college..a lot of my friends celebrated their 18th bday..and even if my other friends can't make it to the party..i will still attend the party alone..it's like this: i don't want the celebrant to feel abandoned..also if i'm going to conduct a big party..i want my friends to attend it too without hesitation..
• Netherlands Antilles
17 Jun 10
Don't worry you are not the only one. I don't love party to! I love to stay at home and watch tv or on the internet. I have excusses always.
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Jun 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think some times, I will feel so comfortable to attend a very big party which I think I just in low status . In that case, I wll feel so shy to be there . may be I think it is the time I just stay at home to enjoy the life home.
@altaircho (130)
• Bulgaria
17 Jun 10
The people are worrying very much on their first few big parties but after that they haven't any problems communicating with strangers. They are also a chance to make new contacts - some of them could help you in future. And of course you can find a new girlfriend/boyfriend not so hard. :P
• India
17 Jun 10
I like big parties but honestly i am lil introvert type like u and dont know what to say,how to say.And i basically suffer from inferiority complex i think everyone is better then me,all of them look better then me, all are better dressed then me i am nothing near them so hence and henceforth.But this is not good in today's date u should think you are the best.Thats an advise for u and me as well.
• Mexico
17 Jun 10
Hi swetashah: Same happedns to me. I don't feel really comfortable when I have to go to a party because I feel that this is not my environment. I don't like to dance and I'm not good on conversations, or trying to flirt with a person I didn't know. I'm prety nervous I have to add, so I think I would only go to a party if I have to do it. If don't, my answer will be a big No, I'm sorry. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
@aamir007 (130)
• India
17 Jun 10
Its happend once with when I went in the marriage of a son of the high profile politician because I was not familiar such kind of parties but gradully as time passed I get over of this...
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
17 Jun 10
Big parties and crowds have never been my scene. i am more comfortable in small gatherings. I am not sayinging i wouldn't go to a big party if I was invited. I have always been a little shy. It might take a while for me to warm up to someone. If I can avpid a huge gathering, i do at all costs.
@gmkk1986 (473)
• India
17 Jun 10
Yes the same problem with me too. Some times I can accept the offers but I cant available myself to attend to that due to shy and other feelings which will more reflect on such kind of parties. But real scenario is different from actual. we may get good contacts in such kind of situations, if we could able to attend for same.
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
You're not alone in this situation.Even I, myself, feel awkward and shy in parties, especially, when the guests belong to the upper class. But there are times when I realize that becoming "have-not" does not make one a lesser person. We are all equal in the eyes of the Almighty. Though, given a chance, I would still like to attend parties to be able to overcome my shyness. Constant interaction with other people will also help lessen shyness and build self confidence. You just have to be watchful or careful with the people you'll be meeting. Choose the parties you would be attending. It should always be a wholesome party.
@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Jun 10
Hi I just have a hard time at large parties unless i go with someone whom I know and they introduce me around. I am very shy and uncomfortable with a lot of strangers. I find myself' so up tight its hard to socialize as I cannot find topics to make small talk with it. So I like small parties with' people that I know.Then I can at least hold my own and talk intelligently too.
@cherrc (666)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
well, i won't mind attending such a big crowd provided that they're my friends. somehow, it's all fun to try dealing with strangers because i might learn something from them like concepts in business dealings or just having new friends, new faces. i just don't think i can make it as a habit. :)
• United States
17 Jun 10
I don't mind big parties because I get to meet new people. It is a little nerve wrecking at first, but it is a party so I always end up somehow loosening myself up. xD Big parties are a great way to make new friends even friends you may never see again.
@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
hello tasha, i guess i'm like you! same exactly like you! well,i'm kinda shy when it comes to parties,cause yeah i am not used of being with parties or club. but i do talk to people sometimes,i just don't like parties for i don't know all people who are there.i'm okay if it would be a family reunion cause we always do reunite with our relatives,the family and siblings of my mother. we do that every year.such a great day always.
@Hmouse20 (132)
17 Jun 10
Big parties are fun for me when i know a lot of people there... partying with strangers (especially if they're cold and distant) is no fun. Saying that, meeting new people is the most fun thing in the world... and so a big party is a great place to do that. I think i hesitate too, but i usually end up going and enjoying myself. Guess we all have these moments of doubt when it's a large group of people we don't know.