What to do when a friend in a trouble and not telling.

@1anurag1 (3576)
India
June 21, 2010 3:11pm CST
What to do when a friend in a trouble and not telling. Yes hard question this is , first you don’t know what is the problem, and your friend don’t want to share , so how can you help even if you can. And after if you come to know the problem and you are not able to help, how will you give sympathy to your friend. These kind of situations arises many times. How to tackle these thing.
6 responses
cip116
@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
21 Jun 10
I say "I am with you" and that when he will be ready to tell me his problem. If he decided that no say,I must respect his decision
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Ruibinha
@Ruibinha (157)
• Portugal
21 Jun 10
Your comment said it all :D. Just having company even in silence is better than being alone.
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cassisto
@cassisto (63)
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22 Jun 10
sometimes just having company with silence only is sometimes better than the full support....it makes the person feels that one is not alone ..maybe later our friends may be comfortable in sharing us the problem
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roxyoo7
@roxyoo7 (246)
• India
22 Jun 10
Well this thing happens almost every time.Whenever my friend or better if i say friends are in trouble,they found it almost impossible to disclose the matter.As i'm very close to my friends so it doesn't takes much time for me to figure it out that they are in some kind of problem.In that case i usually start by asking them knowing for sure that they won't give up that easily.But as they are my friends so i'll think of some other ways to get the thing out of them.Mostly i'm able to do so and once i'm familiar with their problem then i'd try my level best to solve their problem.Though its not possible to slove every sort of problem but still i never hesitate in trying.
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1anurag1
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
22 Jun 10
i think this is better to be with the friend with out helping him as if he is not sharing you cant predict. but the silent support is enough during the time.
cassisto
@cassisto (63)
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22 Jun 10
this is a very difficult situation to tackle. actually we can do nothing except for giving him silent support and try to know the problem..if we dont know the cause of the worry we could never help our friend..in case we find the problem from some other source we could offer our friend help or we could help him without telling him ,if possible.
dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Jun 10
If a friend isn't willing to share what is going on in their lives that are giving them problems, then there is no way that I am able to help them. That said, when I can tell that there is something wrong with one of my friends from an outward appearance, I will ask them what is wrong and if they tell me I will try to help them through their problems. However, if they won't tell me what it is that is bothering them, then I tell them that I'm there for them if they ever feel like talking.
kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
21 Jun 10
You can't do anything even though you want to offer your help. So, if your friend come out all right, don't worry about it. You just console him/her as a good friend does. Sometimes, I want to offer my help a friend, but they rather not accept.
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abj163
@abj163 (1037)
• India
22 Jun 10
i think it is a very difficult situation for both of them....i think one should say to second one that trust me i can help and i want to do that...i wanna help you so please believe me...tell me whats the problem...i will surely help...if i will be failed to help at least i will be with you...show him that u cares for him/her...and u wanna help him/her..and i am sure he/she will share their problem..... happy mylotting