Morality
By 321beep
@321beep (16)
Canada
June 21, 2010 4:13pm CST
So here's the moral question of the day for everyone:
Nameless girl one is in a relationship with nameless boy one. They both seem to be happy, except that nameless boy one is having an affair with nameless girl one's best friend. Here's the twist, a mutual friend of nameless boy and nameless girl one is the only person who knows of the affair. So put yourself in the friends shoes. What do you do? Do you call nameless boy out on it, or do you let nameless girl just go with the whole "ignorance is bliss" thing?
7 responses
@trruk1 (1028)
• United States
21 Jun 10
I would probably just stay away from it. Although, in some situations I might be inclined to speak with the young man, with the idea of informing him that his situation could blow up in his face. As far as telling the young woman he is "two-timing", absolutely not. No way would I want to get in the middle of that.
@trruk1 (1028)
• United States
22 Jun 10
If you tell her privately what is going on, most likely she will resent you for telling her. I don't know what the best decision is in every case, but generally I think "butt out" works best. If I were over 50, which I am, and the "nameless boy" were somebody in his twenties (or younger) then perhaps something in the form of advice from somebody who had been around the block a few times would be in order. Probably not. Young people hear the raging hormones a lot better than they hear anything else.
@snapdragons (91)
• United States
21 Jun 10
I would stay out of it. I have seen cases in my circle of friends where someone has ratted out a cheating partner and the person who gave the information ended up being the person everyone was mad at for some reason.
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
24 Jun 10
no ignorance is not bliss, it's very cruel to lead someone on and let them be blinded to what is really going on. if i were the nameless girl, i would want to know, especially if there is a physical relationship going on.
@rosie230 (1696)
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21 Jun 10
That's a tough one! I think I would want to know if my boyfriend was cheating, but it could break this girls heart. On the other hand, maybe a word in the boy's ear could do the trick, either he tells her or someone else does, or maybe tell him that he has to either stop the affair or stop the relationship. Either way it is hard, if I was that mutual friend I would go to the boy first I think, but to be honest I am not sure there is any right or wrong answer whatever that friend does, could be wrong and hurtful for both concerned.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
24 Jun 10
Once, I was in this position. My girl friend cheated on her husband. I scolded her and tried to make her stop before it was too late. I knew her husband since they dated. So, I was in a difficult situation when both of them visited me. I decided not to tell her husband but continuously advised my girl friend to stop. She would not budge and now there are on a divorce process, but not because the husband found out her infidelity, in reverse she found out her husband are having affair with a young widow.
@lekkipen (14)
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21 Jun 10
the mutual friend of nameless boy one should talk to his friend, that is if he too is not condoning the whole shuddy affair. If he hits a brick wall with his friend, he should stay clear of the whole thing as when it blows up, everyone in the vicinity will be tainted.
@aquariand (464)
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21 Jun 10
Sometimes what they eye doesnt see the heart doesnt grieve over, so i wouldnt tell girl number one but I would still let the boy know I know and tell him its out of order.
