just want to share my personal experience in relationship

Philippines
June 27, 2010 11:14pm CST
.....actually, people won't call it a relationship because we never actually committed to each other. he's not my boyfriend and i'm not his gf but i really love this man and i still can't forget him in everyday of my life. he is my first everything, my first love, first kiss, first hug, first time and my first heartache......... i know he feel something for me.....maybe a little then we partways......and it really broke my heart when i left to pursue because i really loved him so much and he never said anything to me, he just said sorry for everything...... then our communication end up so easy. i never text him though he always text me good morning or good night, but i tried to avoid him for me to move on, guys i just want to ask........ what if i got pregnant with him? what shall i do? thanks....
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@advokatku (4039)
• Indonesia
28 Jun 10
If you are pregnant, surely you must ask his accountability. Remember, however, he must take responsibility for your pregnancy, even you're not her girlfriend.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
thanks for the Advice............. if ever i get pregnant i tell you guys if he have me and my baby.......... can i add you as my friend? thanks!
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
i just hope that if ever you are pregnant and you told him, i hope the guy will not avoid you like the way you are doing it with him now. you said that the communication end up so easy but it looks like you are the one who ended it. i am a guy and if i like someone and i do my best for her to notice me. thats what i did with my wife, but if the girl shows no interest anymore then i need to go on my way. you not texting back indicates that you are no longer interested. i think you need to communicate with him again, not just because you feel like you are pregnant, its just because i think he has feelings for you and i think you too has feelings for him. what we dont know is if he is married already then that would be another problem.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
hi friend........ he's definitely single right now....... i ended up the communication because i felt that he is avoiding me when that something had happened to us he started to avoid me.......... when we had a chance to text to each other, and when he told me he was sorry for everything he told me, he was sorry for me falling in love with him, he didn't intend to do that but because he had so many plans in his life, he didn't want to had a serious relationship right now. do you think i should still need to communicate with him after that? thanks for the advice. Can i add you as my friend? thanks!
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• Philippines
28 Jun 10
I believe that this kind of relationship is something we call "Mutual understanding". I don't believe in such relationship. Real relationships are those that really make the best out of us and not make the worst in us. If you think that you still have a future together, then don't let go. Assuming that you did get pregnant, well, you should inform him. Don't rob your child for that chance of having a family, of having someone as a father. If you're not, then good for you. Let this a valuable lesson to you. Your heart is fragile, unbreakable, so don't let just anybody use it and discard of it as if it doesn't feel anything. You alone can protect yourself from harm. Guard yourself and guard your heart, so that someday, in the future you can look back at any point in your life without regret. Your heart and soul intact, as well as your self-respect and self-confidence. I hope that God's Love may guide you.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
thanks for that inspirational message........ it made me realize what's my mistakes, i really loved this guy but i think he doesn't felt the way i feel for him...... i know i don't have to focus myself on this first heartache of mine but i just can't move on that easy........ i had plans in my life, he had also. can i add you as a friend? thanks!
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Let me ask you, who decided to end the relationship? I know there is a relationship in there. You are in a weird relationship that has no commitments, it is pretty risky on your part because you've done things that couples do. If ever you got pregnant then you should tell him about your situations, and please don't think about abortion if he didn't want to take the responsibility. I am hoping that you are not pregnant though.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
thanks for the advice........ i think it's me who end up this weird relationship........ i texted him goodbye because i am going to my father's place that is far from him to continue my studies. then he invite me to meet him and then we did something and after that, no words unspoken. then when my arrival comes, i am waiting for him to text me or showed up but he didn't then after several weeks i received a text coming from him and saying sorry... i also hope that i am not pregnant........ can i add you as a friend? thanks!
• Portugal
8 Jul 10
you dont know if you are pregnant of him? you must make a test and see the results as soon as possible. also if you find out you are pregnant you must tell him bcs he has the right to know he will be a father. dont hide it from him if you really love him. what he will choose after you tell him is his choice but tell him. also if you love him that much try to not let him go^^
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
if you got pregnant, tell him. he has the right to know, but it doesn't mean he wil commit. he should share the responsiblity of taking care of your baby. well, if you're not pregnant... let him go, if he love you he will be man enough to pursue you. commitment and all.
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Good day alexis172007. Sorry for intruding, but did this guy leave you for what reason? Did he have a former relationship he did go back to? I am a guy and I know how guys think (maybe not in general), and I have friends who are just like that. I am married for 11 years now, blessed with 4 kids, and all my first time was with my wife, none other. Guys like this love to act, make use of your weaknesses, makes use of your obvious feelings and ases every advantage he can muster just to get you under the sheets. If you turn out pregnant, tell him. First of all, it is his right to know. Secondly, he has a responsibility with your child if not with you. Third, that child is his own flesh and blood. Now if after telling him, he lessen the communication, then maybe some of us here is right. He only wants one thing, before his mighty disappearing act. sorry if the truth hurts, but it is where you will learn. God bless my friend.
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
first things first. confirm that you're pregnant :) I think you should have an open communication with him. With or without the baby. It doesn't have to be like how you used to be. You don't need to text or talk to each other everyday. Getting in touch once in a while won't hurt. A dinner every few months would be ok. It's more of keeping the friendship than keeping the love. Slowly retract yourselves from the love you have. I think slow is better than fast. You'll see that in any relationship, going slow is the best option. I think both of you would benefit from it. I'm also assuming both of you took things fast. You didn't even bother to commit to each other before making love.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
It wasn't really a formal relationship. I think both of you are still young. You've mentioned that you are still studying.But since you were not able to avoid something that you shouln't have done yet, and worried that you're pregnant, it would be better that you have to tell him about it. Not for marrige or financial reasons, but he deserves to know. And of course, it you are really pregnant your parents too deserve to know about this because you are still their dependent. But you know, if you truly love that guy, why would you avoid him even just through text? Long distance relationship is not a hindrance if you both understand each other. If you are really pregnant and your parents would not accept or agree about, then it is up to you to decide if he is worth fighting for. You must probably know what kind of person this guy is.
@med889 (5958)
28 Jun 10
If you ever get pregnant from him then I will suggest that you must have a serious talk with him finally. I am sure he must also be feeling something for you but to know it, it is better you talk to him before something happens.