Do you bare a grudge?

@rosie230 (1674)
June 28, 2010 8:18am CST
I am for the most part a very laid back person. Many friends of mine over the years have even commented on that, by telling me that if I continued to be a laid back person that I would actually fall over lol... but no seriously, I am, and I actually like to be this way, because if I wasn't then I would end up being really stressed out all the time, which does not do anyone any good. If someone annoys me, or does something to offend me etc, I do not bare a grudge, so to speak, I will just walk away from the situation if I can, and not involve myself with that person. If after a while that person was to speak to me or give a passing hello, then I would do the same. How about you, would you bare a grudge?
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• Philippines
29 Jun 10
In my own opinion, holding a grudge is so unhealthy. Whenever I can foresee stressors, I immediately find ways to divert my attention or at least avoid them in any way I could. Grudges should be eliminated in one's self so that one can have a stress-free and happy life :)
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@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
It's hard for me to forgive when someone has offended me. But holding grudges is not really healthy for me. The world is small and one day, I can see that person again, so I realized that I should learn to forgive.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
29 Jun 10
I have never been the kind of person who can hold a grudge for very long. I may get angry and hurt over something and I will vow to never speak with some again. Usually by the end of the day, the matter is forgotten. I have moved on. I don't know how people can keep ill feelings inside for so long? It is not healthy for mind or body.
@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jun 10
no not as an adult I had a grudge against a girl in my third grade who said something so mean about my dear mom that I wanted to knock her head off and I guess I was really trying when the teacher stopped me. then she told me that while the child had said something really bad my hurting her was not the answer. She then asked me if I would accept an apology from this girl, and I said, yes but she better mean it. well he child did apologize to me and she also never spoke to me again either. I learned the hard way that holding a grudge only hurt you not the person whom you had the grudge against.So I just turned my back onto rude remarks and if the person persisted I would walk completely away from the person making the mean remarks.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
28 Jun 10
I don't hold a grudge .............too often LOL I do however get angry and have to talk to myself and a for instance is my sons step mom. I have had to back off and let it all be. I have done all I can do and I have my place and she has hers. Now I can honestly say I've done my best.
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@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
No, that's i do not bear grudge to someone who annoys me....i maybe get irritated but not with the person but at the situation i'm into.... i maybe be angered by the situation but after a minute or two i'll just forget what had happened i may learn from the mistakes or the situation and try not to be in that situation again :-)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Jun 10
Never. I have a soft heart. I forgive people easily. I have been inspired from a verse from the bible. Once peter asked Jesus, ' How often shall i forgive my brother, upto 7 times, Jesus said no but unto 77 times." I have forgiven so many people who have hurt me, which is not liked by my wife and my mother.
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@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
Hi Rosie, Good day! Just like you I also don't bare a grudge. If the person did something wrong and really bad to me I don't waste my time, effort and energy thinking how I'd be able to get even with her/ him. I just move on and try to concentrate on good things and spend my time with real friends.