how far can you love a person on bar?

Philippines
July 1, 2010 6:05am CST
i have a worker, she has a child and left by his husband, she worked as a sales lady in our business for 3 years, i would like to share this story for you mylotter to share your advices and views... The story goes like this,as she worked she had a relationship with her co worker a laborer, they started their relationship through texting, she fell in love easily to the guy. to make the story short, the guy was a drug user, influenced by his friends, we almost fired him but the guy asked for another chance and promised not to take drugs.we tried to talk to the girl about her boyfriends status, and because we care for her, we advised her to brake up with the guy so that she wont be hurt, but she wont listen. her boyfriend got drunk always and pissed off a lot of people and became violated.but still she supported the guy. Just last week ago, her boyfriend was really drunk that he got into fight and stabbed a co worker. He was arrested. We were expecting that the girl was already through with that guy, but instead she was begging to the victim that was stabbed not to sue her boyfriend... The saddest part to this is that she found out that the guy has 2 child and a wife and run away from their place because he also stabbed a guy there. The fact that it was a wake up call for her to give up on the guy, but still she supported the guy........how bout you? would you do the same as she did? will you still accept the guy despite the fact his in bar and lied to you that he was single?
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
1 Jul 10
Hi Butterline, Welcome to mylot. This girl has issues of her own to fall in love so easily with a guy like this that is only going to drag her down. She has a child to think about and not just herself. This guy sounds dangerous and you would think that she would be concerned having him around the child. Unfortunately if she refuses to listen to reason then there is not much you can do to help her. She will have to find out on her own and sadly probably the hard way. Maybe his time in jail will be the time she needs to get her head on straight and see this guy for what he really is. Unfortunately, I've seen women that fall for guys like this and they usually don't give up that easily.
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
hi there sid556, thanks for the advice, yeah your right, if she really love that person, there's nothing i can do with that... but the saddest part is that even though the guy was on bars, she was always there bringing food for him and visits him every day, come to think of it, i was the one paying for the hospitalization of my worker who was stabbed by his boyfriend, i felt like being betrayed by her....
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
1 Jul 10
Hi butterline, She is being very foolish over this guy. I can understand why you would feel betrayed by her. I imagine that the guy that got stabbed feels pretty betrayed as well. I hope he did not drop any charges. I'm sure that she is not even considering how she is making others feel.
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
hi there, yeah shes blinded with her love for him. the victim put charges on the suspect and felt upset on the girl coz they were also friends, right now the victim was doing fine this still having his recovery in the hospital, and the suspect was still in prison, and the girl is still here working on us, i feel pity on her also because right now shes in a big delema. thanks sid556
@seanah41 (67)
1 Jul 10
you really do alot of crazy things for love.. but I wouldn't do what she did.. It would take a few instances before I would realize that I'm being used.. plus the fact that he kept his history of marriage and family from me meaning the whole thing is deceitful.
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
thanks seanah41... yeah your right, when you really love a person, your gonna do what it takes... even if you've been fooled or used. Thats my concern she was blinded with the love for him, i pitted her because when they were not yet in a relationship, she was happy and free, but when she was in the relationship with guy her life was miserable.
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
5 Jul 10
In considering your story, it is quite apparent that this women is headed for a big fall. She is very similar to women who are continually beat by their husband but will continue to be with him and defend him. Sadly some have paid with their lives. If he has stabbed two people already when drunk, what will happen if he is drunk and she confronts him or makes him mad. I fear it is only a matter of time before that happens. I too am at a loss as to how to get through to her as she is ignoring reality. She just cannot make herself believe he is really bad. However if she can ignore all that I am afraid she is in for a lot of pain and I would hope she survives it.