Are you a tough mom or an easy going one.?

@durgabala (1362)
India
July 2, 2010 12:26pm CST
Well I am sometimes tough and sometimes easy going. I am a tough mom if my kids don't eat properly, tough when they don't do their homework, very easy going while playing. I don't care if they keep things here and there, what are kids for, but playfully tell them to keep things in order.
9 responses
• United States
30 Jul 10
I would say that I am a tough mom, I believe that you have to be. But I also believe that not to the point to where your kids fear you. I want my kids to know that while mom has her fun days and can be easy going but I also want them to know that when I speak they are to listen and to respect me. I am not trying to brag up my kids(okay yes I am)but I have good kids, I have been complimented numerous time about how well behaved my kids are and that really makes me feel good. My husband and I try really hard to keep them respecful to not only their father and I but to all adults. I think that is one thing that the kids are missing now a days is the "fear" and respect for their elders. There has been times when the kids have told me that I am mean but there has been many more I love yous so I can deal with the occasional your means. My kids both have a chore, curfews, bed times, we limit their computer,tv and video game time. We are very strict when it comes to where they go and who they are with and that will never change no matter how old they get and I know as they get older that will get harder and they will fight me more and more but I fully believe that when they get older and have their own children they will be thankful that I was strict and tried to keep them on the right path.
@durgabala (1362)
• India
30 Jul 10
Hi, Exactly, even I make sure they respect and listen to all elders.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Mostly I think I'm a tough mom. I make them do chores and they get punished if the chores aren't done right. I don't let them watch too much TV or play video games often. I yell at them if they get too noisy in the house or car. Though I do take them places like playgrounds and pools to let them just be kids and to be wild and hyper. It has paid off so far, they're fairly well behaved kids and when we're in public I'm often complimented on how well behaved they are. I am proud of that.
@durgabala (1362)
• India
30 Jul 10
Even I am the same...
@bkrm_gupt (220)
• India
28 Jul 10
Being a mother we should always be tough.Ya i am unmarried but i am tough for my sister for not studing and more tough when careless.but in other hand she is my sister and i love her much.
@durgabala (1362)
• India
29 Jul 10
My mother says tough mom makes great kids....
@apoorva5 (120)
• India
7 Jul 10
ya even i am tough for my daughter for food and for studying .even i am tough about her cleanness and she always me.but other than i love my daughter very much .
@durgabala (1362)
• India
7 Jul 10
Hi, Spare the rod and spoil the child holds good for food and homework....lol
@bin22l (160)
• Guwahati, India
3 Jul 10
I am a mother of two children.My elder son is at the career building point.I do everything for him, so that at this point he can concentrate more for his future career.I am at ease when he demands anything for his career need. But I am very tough when he neglects his duty which may hamper him in future.So he always obeys me knowing that I am his great well wisher. Sometime I am very friendly with him and sometime very tough,which depends on situations. He tells me everything and I too listen carefully everything that he explains.
@durgabala (1362)
• India
3 Jul 10
WOW u r indeed a great MOM.
@alabella (91)
• Poland
2 Jul 10
I am an easy mom and I try to make life for my daughter easy and comfortable but it is because she only has me, nobody else...
@durgabala (1362)
• India
3 Jul 10
Oh.........but make sure you don't pamper her too much...all the very best to your daughter. Thanks for your response.
• United States
2 Jul 10
As a mom you have to be tough, at times. But, you also have to pick your battles. It is important to know what your kids are doing, and who their friends are. As far as being tough when your kids don't eat properly, it's important that kids learn to eat healthy early on, that way this will become their way of life. Homework is another area where you have to stay on your kids. Become involved with their school work by doing it with them or creating games that will challenge their learning; this can become a family activity, and make them more interested in their school work. The most important thing is to love your kids and that they know your love is unconditional.
@durgabala (1362)
• India
3 Jul 10
We mothers need to be more on the tougher side during their growing age and a friend by late teenage. Thanks for your response
@rastogisw (446)
• India
2 Jul 10
I am tough as well as easy going mom . When my kids wont listen to me or dont behave properly or dont do their homework then I become little tough mother but in feeding them ...as this is the most toughest job for me and I know if I become tough then they just start crying and wont eat anything so I just feed them in play mode way .Normally I am easygoing with them when they do little mischief at home or playing .
@durgabala (1362)
• India
3 Jul 10
Many kids just don't eat if we are tough, my kids won't eat if I am liberal... LOL Thanks for your response.
@rosie230 (1674)
2 Jul 10
To be honest I am a little bit of both. I tolerate some things, and something's I just will not tolerate. I know that kids need tough love when growing up, but sometimes you have to be a little easy going with them.
@durgabala (1362)
• India
3 Jul 10
Yes I agree...thanks for the response