Denial...

@adel09 (490)
Philippines
July 6, 2010 10:53pm CST
Why most parents, especially mothers, denied that they don't have any favorite son or daughter. But, it is obvious that they have. My mom is one of them. If there is an issue within the family, it is obvious that she always defends her favorite unico hijo. She always worried everything about him. She gave almost everything for her son. Yet, she always denied that she has a favorite child. LOL=)
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
7 Jul 10
Many years ago I was out for the evening with one of my younger sisters and I joked about her being our parent's favorite because she had been very ill as a newborn and they doted on her all her life. She told me that, no, I was their favorite because I was the oldest and they always seemed more proud of my achievements. A week or so later we joked with our youngest sister that she was the favorite because she was the baby of the family and she said that our brother was the favorite because he was the only son. I raised 4 children and I can tell you that "favorite" is not a general term. I have no "general favorite". My son has his place in my heart as my only son and my oldest. My three daughters also have their special places. I will defend all of them equally and love all of them unconditionally.
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@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
Oh... That's good... and how sweet you are for your children...
@dsrp82 (678)
• Brazil
8 Jul 10
Is your brother older or younger than you? Sorry for asking
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
It's okay. He is older than me.=)
@SangsTurks (1447)
• India
7 Jul 10
that i think is very human. It is not that parents dont like their own children but just tat they prefer one better. Lets say, you love both your parents, but you might be just as well as little closer to your father than your mother....which does not mean that you don't love your mother. things like this can be a bit difficult to explain.... i just hope you get the point. Thinbk of yourself as independent and that you don't need your mother to bail you out on everything.
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
I get your point SangsTurks. Thats why I understand the situation. Although, sometimes I can't resist to get jealous maybe because I'm only human.
@dorx88 (73)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
... So that the other sibling won't be hurt directly (know what I mean?) It's just a "balancing" excuse for mothers (no offense to the moms out there ILY all). The only thing I can advice you is don't get/be jealous. You'll be just giving a favor to your little bro (the more you show your attitude towards your mom, the more she will favor your brother). If you really want it your way, do it in a psychological way, play mind games with them (but I don't recommend you to do this ... this is BAD). ^^ Just love you mom and your brother with all your heart, you'll be glad you did so. ;)
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
Yes. I know, it's true. To avoid hurting us directly, of course we understand that. As part of maturity I don't get jealous about it. I have already accepted it as part of life. To understand and love each other.