Men living off women????

United States
July 8, 2010 10:36pm CST
Is it just me or is there a trend that men want woman to pay their way for things such as clothes, food, car, etc. I've been talking to friends, relatives and acquantances and the majority of the guys want a woman who will support them financially.... What happened to the good old days when the men wanted to please their women and actually feel good about earning a paycheck?? Most don't even work and have gone to school... Am I missing something here??? My father taught me that I should not have to support any man financially unless we are facing a crisis.. Until then, he has to be the man.... What are your inputs on this???
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@cream97 (29179)
• United States
9 Jul 10
Hi, mariaf324. There is a lot of these lazy kind of men that are walking around here like this too. They stay with a woman that they are not married to. Then they don't work. They just chill out at home. I have no liking to men that are like this. They are lazy and worthless. They should go out and do something with their lives, instead of looking for a woman to take care of them. It is not fair that women have to support a man. They should be helping the women out if anything.
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@feroz97 (52)
• India
9 Jul 10
Come on! We have been supporting you for centuries its about time you do something for us! :p The thing is women of this century wants to prove that they are far better then men and began challenging everything that was reserved only for men. So, naturally there is no wonder in seeing women supporting a family financially while men do house work or even nothing. And these women really can't be pleased cause they are looking only ways to do something more then men and please themselves.
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@sid556 (31031)
• United States
10 Jul 10
Actually Feroz, women were not looking to be "better" than men but rather to be treated fairly by them! When a woman does a job then she should get the same rate of pay that a man would get for that same job...pretty simple concept. Women wanted to go out and work so they would not be dependent on men because oh so many men treated their wives like virtual slaves in exchange for their "support". We don't want to be supported by you guys nor do we want to support you. We don't want to control you and we don't want to be controlled by you. We can be pleased but only if you play nice.
@clouds0327 (1390)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Well I totally agree on that!! I noticed that too. Basically, in my opinion because women tend to get job easier than men does these days. Men these days are just always complaining, perfectionists and always reasons out.. But bottomline most are lazy and women because most of them are single mothers or are mothers have to work hard for their children or family. They are also more of the hardworkers and tolerates stress and difficulties than men do.. And thats my opinion, I dont want to offend men that are not under this category but for those men that falls under that...
@sid556 (31031)
• United States
9 Jul 10
Hi mariaf, I think you are right. It's been going on for years but it seems to be getting more and more common. My first husband was such a worker when we got engaged and this was back in the 70's when it was becoming more common for women to work outside of the home. He got upset when I took a full time job just before the wedding. He quit his job and did not work throughout our five yr marriage until I filed for divorce. I have dated guys like this and trust me...I end the relationship real quick once I see that the guy lacks ambition. I don't expect a guy to take care of me and likewise, I don't expect to be paying his way either. It's one thing to help out in a situation and that works both ways...or should. It is quite another when a guy doesn't work, doesn't look for work and expects you to provide for him.
• United Arab Emirates
9 Jul 10
i would never wnat my wife to pay for my expenses. It has been a trend that man has been considered the head of the family and the bread winner. It would hurt his ego if he does not have pay for the shopping of his wife.
• Indonesia
9 Jul 10
I still have my opinion that man must paying for his woman and I still tough with the good old day that you say that men wanted to please their women and actually feel good about earning a paycheck. Where is our self esteem as a man ? LOL.. soory if you dont feel the same way that I write. But to be a gentleman, we must do and pay for our woman, not the opposite way.
• United States
9 Jul 10
I agree with all the answers about women's rights and wanting to prove that we're equal, etc, etc. But the thing is, we allow it to happen. As a woman, we've changed how the world sees us to give us equal priviledges and rights. But that obviously comes with a price and we've probably end up making men act like women, too. lol Its to each their own. There are still a lot of men out there that want to feel like a man to their woman, we just have to let them.
@mynestegg (520)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I had to go through this in the past. I guess it is a matter of how well you handle your relationship. My partner did not exactly live off me, he wasn't a bum, he just had to recover from an illness so he couldn't find work for a time. I must tell you that I was never the saint. I bugged him everyday when I thought he was well enough to please, please find a job. In my head I add, "find a job now or lose me" but I never was able to do it. I did resent him not having to go to work, Gosh how I planned to bum out when HE finds a job. All is well now though. I think if you are a self-respecting woman, you wouldn't allow someone to "live off" you. However, with couples, you just sort of work together. Like with us, when he was unable to get a job, he shared majority of the house chores. That was enough of a trade off for me. Then again, that's just me.
• China
9 Jul 10
Anyone should support himself or herself, man or woman. It is lamentable to attach oneself to others. If you cannot earn his/her own living,one day your woman/man leaves you, then how can you survive?
@xeroeight (1061)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
well I guess since women act and express their rights to be treated equally to men in terms of jobs men become more lazy because their wife can have work and earn financial for their family