Relationship with your best friend
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
July 12, 2010 1:04pm CST
How would you describe your relationship with your best friend? How long have you known them and how do the two of you get along?
For me, I've known my best friend since I was just five years old, so we've been friends for the past twenty five years. She and I used to be involved in all of our childhood activities together and then we grew up. She has five children and I only have two, and that does mean that we have very limited time to be able to talk to one another. However, when we do get the opportunity to talk, it is like only a day or two has passed since the last time that we talked. She is truly one of the best friends that I believe a person can have.
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@ReadyWriter12 (124)
• United States
12 Jul 10
My bestfriend and I have known each other for over 10 years. We have gone beyond bestfriends to sisters. There have been times when she had taken care of me and not asked for anything in return except that I be and remain completey honest with her. Even when I went through a rough patch and cut her off, she was there when I came back to my senses. We get along great, can finish sentences, know each other's thoughts. I know that anything I tell her she will keep if for me and I will do the same for her.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
For me, I would very much consider Erica to be another sister to me. If it hadn't been for the relationship that the two of us share, I'm not sure that I would have gotten through the tough time in my life after my father passed away when we were teenagers and I also don't know that I would have been able to keep my faith after I had a miscarriage either.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
13 Jul 10
Hi "Ready..."
I know how you feel. My two best friends were the same way with me when I was going through a rough time. They left me alone for awhile and after awhile when I sort of dropped out of sight they took it upon themselves to come to my apartment and all but physically made go out with them and they treated me to dinner and cocktails. They explained that I had to get it togather and they were going to make sure I was alright. They then helped me solve my employment problem which was turning me into a recluse. That's friendship!
@ReadyWriter12 (124)
• United States
14 Jul 10
Bigal3 & Dorannmwin, I believe there should be a best friend's day. On this day we spoil our best friends and let them know much they truly mean to us. Since that day isn't official yet, we'll just have to spoil them on their birthdays....lol.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
12 Jul 10
at this point im not sure who would be considered my best friend. unless it would be my dog, coconut...
my close by best friend has been my enemy off and on..that would be sons ex. but shes married now and has very little to do with me as son has gf here visiting, and thats a whole host of problems with us even being friends at all. my best email, long time friend, is quite busy these days so i hear little from her and we dont call just speak/type online. my best friend of all time is probably my cousin...but curcumstances are keeping us from having time to talk. 
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
It is very weird to think that those people that we are the closest to are also those people that we have problems with from time to time and also consider them to be an enemy at times. However, I do think this is the truth in many situations as well.
@teenymarie (107)
• United States
13 Jul 10
My best friend and I are more like sisters than friends. We've been friends for 10 years, and been through two divorces, two second marriages and four children between the two of us. We talk almost on a daily basis, at least by text or email and see each other on average once a week. She was the maid of honor in my wedding in April, she is the godmother of my oldest daughter, and if anything would happen to my husband and I, her and her husband would become guardians of our children. She has been the one constant in my life since I was 17 years old, I can't imagine what I would do without her!
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
My best friend is also godmother to my son. It was important to me that she be godmother to one of my children because of the fact that she is the reason that I was able to maintain my faith throughout my life.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
13 Jul 10
It's good to have a friend like that isn't it? I am also lucky to have two such friends that I have know for more than 20 years. I am closer to them than I am with my own brother.
I live in Thailand now and we are apart but still in regular contact with eachother. I miss them alot.
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
12 Jul 10
That's exactly the same way i would treat my friend. We have met 3 years ago and we became best friends. We text, sms, chat and talk all we can and for how long we can. I used to spend a lot of money just for telephone bill or when the two of us hang around. It used to be threesome actually but the third guy left us. He is still in touch but he's mostly busy so it's just the two of us who are friends much right now. We know each other so much that one can tell what the other is thinking. We never apologize or say thank you or please. We are physically and mentally two very different people which is the best thing about us. The only interest we commonly share is that we love reading books. I don't think i could stand one day without him. This discussion reminds me of him again so i have to call him up!
Ciao! 
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
I just recently talked to my best friend through facebook. I really want to call her and talk to her in person, but I know she is at camp right now and then spending a week with her parents away from home, so I'm trying to wait.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Jul 10
i have known my best friend for the past 18 years. we studies in the same school...we knew each other for a long time before we became best friends. from first standard to graduation we were togather in the same class. We used play togather...had lunch in school togather and a few times we also had crush on the same girl.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
I think that it is great to have a long standing relationship with a close friend. I don't think that there will ever be anyone that will come into my life that will be able to replace the relationship that Erica and I have.
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
My best friend and I have known each other for a grand total of 5 years. Yes, the age of our friendship are young compared to others who have known their best friends since they were babies. But I think time is not the basis for the kinship you establish with the friend you consider as your best friend. In the movie Matrix Revolution, a program said that what's important in relationships is the connection and the feeling two people share that makes them partners, lovers, or best friends. =)
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
You are very right, it isn't the longevity of your friendship, but rather the relationship that you and your friend are able to establish over the course of your friendship. Another girl that I am now pretty close to has really only been my friend since early in this year but we have a pretty deep relationship already.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
That sounds somewhat similar to Erica and I. We shared in a lot of things when we were younger ladies, but now that we are grown and have families of our own, we don't share in nearly as much. However, we do keep in touch with one another.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Jul 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think I have a best friend justas you. When I was about 5 years old. I moved to my new house,where I know my best friend , Rui Feng.And till now, he si still my best friend. Though he has been at scool for a long time. I stilll usually try my best to connect with him as possible as I can. I usuallly recall the beautiful between him and me!
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
After a time of not connecting with him for a while has passed, do you notice that when you connect again it is like no time at all has passed? I notice with Erica that regardless of the fact that there are times that we don't talk for a while, we are able to pick our friendship right back up where we left off.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Jul 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think I have a best friend justas you. When I was about 5 years old. I moved to my new house,where I know my best friend , Rui Feng.And till now, he si still my best friend. Though he has been at scool for a long time. I stilll usually try my best to connect with him as possible as I can. I usuallly recall the beautiful between him and me!
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@singcry (1)
• China
13 Jul 10
I have known my friend for seven years, we are classmate in university. But we have not contact with each other for one year since he went to another city. And all of our friends have no his new phone number and have not seen him online. I don't how he is doing now, where he is, i am missing him and the good old times we were together. I hope he is fine, i hope he is happy now.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
That must be very difficult to not know where he is or how he is doing. I hope that he will be in contact with you soon.
@Jacobus1919 (1683)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
Wait! I think your bestfriend if you are both really inlove is all fine. I consider my girlfriend my best friend as well. I can share anything and talk about most of things to her.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
I don't think that the relationship between my husband and myself would ever compare to the relationship that I've had since I was a child. Granted, I can trust my husband with everything in my life, but there is a sense of history between him and I that doesn't exist like it does in my relationship with Erica.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Jul 10
I have known my best friend for the past 24 years. we studied in the same class from the 1st satandard till the graduation. we graduated on the same day. Then he went for further studies and i started working...but we were still in touch. Now we are in touch but we are in two different parts of the world. I dont know exactly when we will meet but i know we will some day...the last time we met was 2 years back in my home town.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
Similar with Erica and myself. We haven't been able to connect in person for a little over a year and a half, but I know that we will meet again in person someday. This is one of the reasons that I think facebook is such a good thing, we are able to keep in touch through that and it is almost as good as being together in person when you consider the busy lives that we both have.
@legolascloud (2)
• United States
13 Jul 10
Ive have a bestfriend known him for 6 years he is a really cool guy when i met him and one of the best he wants to be the same things i want to be.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
That is really neat. So, I take it the reason that you two are such close friends is because of the fact that you have the same kind of hopes and dreams for your life.
@phoenix867 (182)
• India
27 Jul 10
I have a best friend when I was in school and studied in the same school for so many years together.She gives me advice to do this and that.She never hesitate to share her personal things to me.We both of share things openly without any hesitation.Now a days we two are like sisters.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Jul 10
I think that Erica and myself are just about as close as my sister and I are. There was a time that we were closer than my sister and myself, but my sister has grown up and with that our relationship has grown.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
13 Jul 10
I had a female best friend until she tried to literally run me over with her car. Since this incident I have not spoken to her at all. It was really scary. My fiance (now my husband) and I were walking from the parking lot to Walmart. There was a cross walk and a stop sign. My friend did not stop. She had gone through a stop sign. I had hit my head on the hood of her car and do not remember much from that point. The next thing I knew was that I was in an ambulance with my now husband sitting with me. It was also told to me later on that she had done this on purpose because she was jealous thay I was getting married and her boyfriend had not asked her.
I guess the only best friend I have is my husband. He has always been there for me. We have known each other for 6 years and have been married almost three years. He is my rock and the love of my life.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
That is really a sad story. In retrospect, I wouldn't think that the friendship that the two of you shared was really a friendship at all if she was that jealous about your relationship with your now husband.
@Dezzaan (80)
• Sweden
13 Jul 10
I've known my best friend for only 7years and to everyones amazement we are totally different, like night and day. But I think that is one of the things that makes us such good friends - we complement each other.
She moved away two years ago which made it difficult for us to meet each other and keep up the talking, but we still talk now and then and even though we live so far away we're still best friends and can talk to each other about everything.
Sometimes we don't talk for a week and now it's been several months since we last saw each other, but that dosen't matter because I know that she will be there for me no matter what and I will be there for her too. She is an amazing girl and my whole family loves her, espacially my mom who calls her every now and then to see how she's doing.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
The distance between Erica and myself these days is probably one of the toughest things that our friendship has endured, but I also know that she will be there for me regardless of what the issue that I'm experiencing is.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
13 Jul 10
I am most fortunate to have two "best" friends. To call them "best" friends really doesn't do them justice. They are more like "brothers". The first one and I have known eachother for over twenty-four years and the other friend for twenty-two years. I guess you could say we are closer then the "Three Musketeers". Through thick and thin times we have stood by eachother.
I can honestly say we have never had a "fight/argument" in anger in all those years. We have not agreed on somethings at one time or another but we never raised our voices at eachother and we "ALWAYS" agreed to disagree. If one of us felt anger coming on we simply ended the conversation and went to our respective rooms and sulked.(no, just kidding) We would take a "TIME OUT" until things cooled downed. I would say over the years I don't believe we have had ten disagreements.
I have been really fortunate that I am rather outgoing and make acquaintences easily. (Gemini and all that stuff)
We would do just about anything for eachother and have done so. Each one of us at one time or another came upon "hard times" and in every case we were there for the one that was having the problem.
I live in Thailand now so I am quite a distance away from them but we still communicate via phone or internet as often as possible but I still miss them. Is that friendship or what?
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
That is the perfect description of what friendship is. If it hadn't been for my best friend, I know that I wouldn't be the woman that I am today. You see, she was the shoulder that I had to lean on when I was almost fifteen years old and my father passed away. Her parents were very much like another set of parents for me as well when we were growing up (and still today).
@concept001 (430)
• India
13 Jul 10
This discussion makes me nostalgic abit. I have a best friend whom I know from last 15 years. Till we reached colleges we were together. But now I feel due to the hectic schedules both of us are finding it very difficult to manage time for each other.But still when we meet together after a long gap same feeling comes and both of us share our best days. This is friendship friends.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
The college years and now the fact that I still live in our hometown and she lives in another state have been the toughest years of our friendship. However, the fact that time and distance have not fractured our relationship is something that shows me that our relationship will endure almost anything.
@charmlenile (387)
•
13 Jul 10
My best friend is my sister we went a lot of time talking laughing and even stuff that we really like but between the two of us she got more money than I am so she's the one who's treating me most of the time and I love her so much no matter what best friends for life.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
Though I would have never thought when I was a child that I would end up having a great relationship with my sister, that hasn't proven to be the case. Since we've both been adults, we are friends and we have a great relationship with each other.
@magichands (64)
• United States
13 Jul 10
thats good i have some best friends but they always stay the smae i think and thing is worng with that but i keep my friends close by becuase your best friend can help you when you down it sucks to be alone you know when you having problems then one day you could probly have aanswer to that but
but i say keep it real and your best friend well be there through your whole like but
you still got people out there that dont give a damn about you but hwne you grow up went them you have betterv change and getting colser to them then a best friend five year relationship
so that was question and take care you know and i hope you have better days come To your way
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jul 10
Well, I think that over time the relationship that she and I have shared throughout our lives isn't the exact same friendship that we had when we were children. In the course of all that time, there have been a lot of friendships that have fallen by the wayside, but the friendship between she and I still thrives.
