Do you always say Yes?

Philippines
July 13, 2010 1:19am CST
I think, life would be easier if one will learn how to say 'No'. Sometimes we say 'Yes' without even thinking if we can do the things we said yes too. Sometimes, just because we are always responsible we always say 'Yes'. Maybe we can learn to say, 'Okay I'll think about it' and then if we think we can't handle it we can say 'No'. If we say 'No' it doesn't mean that we're trying to run away from the responsibility, most of the times we just have our hands full and can't add more things in our to do list, people should learn to understand. Do you always say 'Yes'?
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 10
Hi santosmarichris, it's wise for us to "learn" to say "No" if we don't want to slump in difficulty. We might be overwhelmed by request of helping. I wonder why we are tend to say yes most of the time. Might be we are too tenderhearted and never like to see others feeling disappointed to heard No when they seek help from us. We should think twice whether we are capable, whether we have spare time, etc to deal with the whatever requesting before saying yes. Of course we have to give the reason why we can't handle it in a rather courtesy and hearty way. Moreover we do have our own burdensome of workload all the time. Happy posting
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• Malaysia
14 Jul 10
Sadly, most of us have a generous spirit to give. So, we say , yes at most times. We do not want to be a joy killer and so many of us go out all the way to help. However, we are suckered in most time. As they say,'Once bitten twice shy!' I always have that feeling. It spoils my day!
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 10
Oh, I thought I am a very bad person for saying 'no' even when I know it hurts people. I want to be true to myself, so when I don't want to do it or when I know I cannot do it I will straight away say "No!" without even thinking about it. I even said "No!" when my boss asked me to go in a meeting for him because I thought he was evading a big issue in the meeting and sent me to save his a..
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• Malaysia
14 Jul 10
I am more ambivalent. My response is situational in context. If I can, I generally lend a hand to help out. But if it is way way out of my league, I just say No. I think most of us will do this.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Jul 10
yes i have always said yes....it has been my nature to say yes and sometimes this has put me into grave situations. I have to learn to say No and i am trying my best to do it.
@musedsmh (256)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 10
what will you do if i ask you for money?? will you say "yes" hhaha, just kidding
• China
14 Jul 10
Yes, if you're a beauty! hehe
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Haha... You guys are so funny. You just have to learn how to say 'No'.
@xylem916 (95)
• India
30 Jul 10
For me it is hard to say all time YES, because it depend what the question really mean. Most of the time I said YES, it was a right thing to do until it become bad habit. If I say NO, I think they treated me as a bad person and they may think that by knowingly it hurt people. I think weather we should say yes or no it depend up to you all.
@swn_chik (266)
• India
29 Jul 10
I don't always say 'yes' to people if I feel that I shouldn't be saying or its wrong.I know when we always agree and say 'yes' to them,they feel that they are given importance and be happy but I think one should know how to say 'no' as well, if you feel its not right.
@mononoke (12)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
It is best that we have to understand what we are responding to. Saying YES means we have no contradictions of anything but sometimes we have to say NO if we feel that it is too much
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
14 Jul 10
I usually say "yes" when someone asks me to do something. If I have a good reason to say no, or I don't think I will be able to do whatever they ask I tell them so. Sometimes I say yes, when I really don't want to and wish I had a good excuse, but I am handicapped, so my friends don't make to many requests. Someone recently asked me for my phone number and I really didn't want to give it to him, but I couldn't think of a nice way to say NO. I have been working on that problem, but apparently I am not having much success.
• Malaysia
14 Jul 10
Have you seen the Jim Carrey movie, "Yes,Man"? See the negative repercussions of saying yes. I think it is best to mull over a proposal before deciding. If it affects our life, say, no. If it affects others lives too, say no. Say yes only when you can do it with the comfort of both body and mind.
@aurorastorm (1136)
• United States
14 Jul 10
YES, I always say yes, even when it means I am going to go insane trying to get everything I said yes to done. Just a month ago, before I went on vacation, I said to myself, I am really busy, I cannot do anymore right now. Then I was asked to volunteer for two different projects at my son's school, so of course I said yes, when what I really needed to be doing was getting ready for vacation. I am always doing this, I think it is the guilt feeling. I feel so guilty if I say no, that I stress on it for hours and hours.
@LucasDM (38)
• Brazil
14 Jul 10
no
• United States
13 Jul 10
This is something i am personally working on. I almost always say yes when someone asks and then i find my stress level getting way out of control because im trying to do to many things. I need to learn how to nicely say i would love to do this but im just stretched to thin right now. I think the key is to find a nice way of saying no. If we stretch our selves to thin trying to help to many people then we might not be able to help the next time because it all becomes to much sooner or later and our bodies will make us slow down even if we dont want to.
• United States
13 Jul 10
i guess i always say yes these day i guess i got to learn how to say no you know becuase hell these people use for anything in to day i think life would be better for you if you say let me think about it you know people dont understand their a lot of them looking for a hand out you know just like you date someone new then you find out that are just to fast for you but you take care of your self and lean how to say no
• Malaysia
13 Jul 10
Yes i say Yes most of the time.. it was a positive thing to do...until it became a bad habit
@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
Its hard for Us to hurt other peoples feelings, so we are more inclined to say YES, i have made a lot of mistakes uttering those word, I do, oh yes, why not, I will, and Sure.. although a lot times we find it hard to comply with our promises of YES then we strive hard to get the thing done as we have vowed to compliment them in one way or the other, One way of saying NO is “Let me think about it and get back to you.” it does not mean NO or Yes, its an open statement, sometimes i tell them i have to ask my wife coz she's the Boss, and they immediately get it. well all me talking here, honestly it is really hard to say No to a friend.
@patzel88 (3311)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
Not all the time i say yes, it depends the approach. If i can then i say yes because in a situation that to help a person without expecting anything from them, it is a big success that i can help a person but if the situation will not surely to handle it then i will say no to them for i dont want them to depend that i can do it.
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
Although I'm a Filipino, I don't usually follow some Filipino attitude. I'm not tactless; but yes for me means yes and no means no. I'm bold enough to say no if I don't like it or I can't handle it. I am the type of person who will voice out what's really on my mind.
• Indonesia
13 Jul 10
We should know our capacity when we are going to say yes or no to a question. Lots of times we say yes to something that actually we are incapable of doing it and make other people suffer because we cannot meet our promise to them. In the mean time, many people also often say no to something they actually realize they can say yes into it, mostly because people wants the easy way to their life and don't want to add burden to themselves. Saying no also means that person don't want something to change in their life or routine. I always try to be wise as possible on saying yes to something, still learn how to say it at right times cause I never know what might happen someday that was a result of my action.