How Do You Get The One You Love to Want to be With You?

@spazz435 (323)
United States
July 20, 2010 7:26pm CST
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now and in another month he is going away to college. We always talk of getting married and having kids together. The problem is, is he wants to break up for a year while he's at college and says we'll get back together when I am able to go with him. I don't understand. He's only going to be about four hours away and he wants to break up with me, "the love of his life." What can I to tell him that breaking up is not necessary, that we can last a long distance relationship for less than a year? He's really breaking my heart over this. What if he finds another woman and because I'm not there his heart follows her?
6 responses
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
14 Dec 10
Well i believe in soulmates, when i met my love and married him in my life. We are xerox of each other in all our thoughts and actions. I experience falling in love again and again each day!
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
He cannot direct you of the real score between the two of you... It's a prelude of breaking up.... and he doesn't how to start it, he wants it in a subtle way.. He was breaking up with you, because he don't want to commit himself, to you.. what if he meets the right girl for him.. at least no puss..
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
If he's breaking up with you just because he's going to college, I think you're gonna have to think twice if you really are "the love of his life".. If college is just 4hrs away and he really wants to see you then there's a lot of way. if there's a will there are 100 ways, otherwise there are 101 reasons. Maybe, you should tell him that if he wants a break up then its gonna be over for the both of you, no getting back together after a year, because that's just crazy.
• Canada
25 Jul 10
I know its hard to go through that, but think of it as a test to see if you're really meant to be together. If he meets another girl and falls in love, maybe you two weren't meant to be. If he goes to college, and doesn't find anyone he wants to have a relationship with, then maybe you are the one for him. Sometimes you need to date around a bit before you know for sure if the relationship you have is right for both of you.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
21 Jul 10
If I were you, I'd go along with him and break up. What's the point in you staying home when he has informed you he intends to socialize while he is in college. You are young and should enjoy life while you're young.
• United States
21 Jul 10
They say let it go if it come's back meant to be..For me as a man he want's to try the new water's of school to see what's what's up..understand he may have been your 1st love he just want's to make sure your also his LAST LOVE