Should daughters be in charge of chores?

Philippines
July 24, 2010 2:57am CST
Hi everyone. Don't you think that brothers should also have a share in chores? I am the eldest daughter of the family with two elder brothers. As the eldest girl, I am expected to be the initiator of doing household chores. I have a younger sister and it is not ideal for my mom to sometimes ask for her help in chores. I am a student and I aim to achieve Dean's List to gain discount from the school and sometimes the household chores every morning takes half of the time I allocate for my studies. I am only able to use the net on weekends so I have less time on mylot and other sites. I am finding it unfair that my brother doesn't contribute to the work at home but as the daughter I would have to give considerations.
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11 responses
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 10
both should do the chores together.we are far from the good old days of era's.nowadays, it doesn't matter whether you are girl/boy everyone should do the house chores together.both should learn how to do so.that is just my opinion.
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Thanks for sharing your opinion. I just realized from your comments that the era had changed from having the women work from home to having men stay at home doing chores.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 10
yes men should know how to do chores but it does not mean they should stay at home as if they have family they still need to support the family.it is not suit at all if wife get to work and husband just stay at home only.
@greygoo (798)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
hi there~ we're the same! and when i said 'same' i mean the exact same no. of siblings in exactly the same positions! i'm the 3rd child too! i'm in college now and live separately with the rest of my family, so i haven't had any problems with house chores for some time. when i was in high school, house chores were a major pain in the a*s. but i should say that i was in a better situation than you are in now. i share housework with my two brothers. one of them is a bit lazy but he does his share anyhow. of course everybody in th family should have his/her share of the work. not only to keep things fair, but also because every member of the family should learn how to maintain a nice and clean home. my mom used to say that before we become grown-ups, all of us should have tried cleaning the house, cooking, washing dishes, washing clothes, etc. i'm lucky my brothers don't consider household chores as female responsibilities.
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Wow, a coincidence, I'm also in college but I still live with my family since the school is quite near. I agree that everyone in the family should be able to do some chores in the house because in some way, the ambiance feels warmer. That's nice to hear that your brothers doesn't leave chores to mom and sisters. :D
@greygoo (798)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
hey thanks for the br~!(^0^)/ yeah, i'm really lucky with my brothers. we used to fight a lot before. because of the house chores (of course) and the tv. haha. but now, we're like best buddies~ i think the separation did us some good. after all, you only miss people when they're not there;-)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
absolutely not! i'm a daughter and the eldest child too. in our home, all of us siblings (there's 4 of us)have specific chores. my parents divided the chores so that no one will complain. besides, I sort of grew up thinking that men should be in charge of the chores. weird, i know. that's because it's my dad who keeps the order at home - he does everything from cooking to sweeping the backyard, from feeding the animals to doing the laundry (that is, if us kids aren't there to do the laundry). the additional responsibility that goes to me though is reminding and making sure my younger siblings did their work. but that's mainly because i'm the eldest. ^_^
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
Wow, I also have three siblings, I'm the eldest daughter as well. My dad too loves cleaning. But it's not that he does all the chores, it's the kind that when he cleans the house, there's no mess left, no dust in the window sills, every rugs is also washed, no single dustbunny will survive. He does this quarterly and it feels like spring cleaning since there are tons to do among us siblings.
@xianelle (83)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
Both should do household chores. Parents should teach their children how to be responsible so that in the near future they can run your home without any help needed. Boys should be able to know how to cook and clean and girls should be able to fix a leaking faucet and paint a wall. Chores should be equally divided and if possible there must be some rotation for doing the chores so that each can have time allocated for their studies.
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I agree about having the parents teach responsibility. I am also interested in knowing how to fix a leaking faucet. I haven't done one but I was able to paint the wall, glue the tiles and scrub the whole restroom. These chores are great lessons. And about the rotation of responsibility, I agree with you tenfolds. That makes the chores equally divided and reduces chance of quarrels. I also believe that with rotation, everyone will not use 'homeworks and studies' as excuses ^_^ Thanks for sharing xianelle
@dr_qzn (3)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
i can fairly relate to your situation, as the only daughter of the family im always asked to do the household chores at home while my two brothers always watched tv at their rooms. i think its unfair for us to do most of the chores. Our brothers should do or at least helped us sometimes at home.
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
That isn't fair for you to do everything we're all siblings so there should be proportionate share of work. Thanks for sharing dr_qzn :D
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
24 Jul 10
I feel that all members of a family should share equally in keeping up the house. Everyone needs to learn how to do things, from cooking and cleaning to laundry and washing dishes. There is no more "woman's work" and "men's work". When I became sick and had to stay in bed for an extended period of time, my husband took over all household tasks, and I am very glad he knew how to do it. Men need to be able to take care of themselves, just as wemen do, so all need to learn how to care for the home.
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Wow, you're husband is great, there is no need to ask him to work when you were in bed. I agree that men should be able to take care of the house because there would be times that women would not be able to work when they are ill or at work. I also agree that all members should learn doing house chores because it is a way to care for the home. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
24 Jul 10
I'm a firm believer that eveyone should share in the chores. When I was growing up we had our set of chores that had to be done daily. My kids help around the house with there chores. My spouse and I work full time, so often times we don't get home till late. It makes everyone life go alot smoother it everyone pitch in and helps. It is my belief that is more kids help around the house, alot of the things they get into wouldn't happen. Guys pitch in and help out, if nothing else cause it is the right thing to do.
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
That's good to hear for the division of work is allocated among kids. And it also sounds much better to hear that the guys voluntarily help out in doing household chores. Good for you, thanks for sharing :D
@zexx3101 (18)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Hey, you're the eldest so apparently you got the authority to order your younger brothers around. But you can do it on your own sweet way. When I was younger I always followed my older sister as she was so kind and sweet to me and would give me presents afterward. Maybe you could do that too, by rewarding your younger brothers after helping do the household chores =)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Oh, it's the other way around. My brothers are older than me. I also ask my younger sister for help but sometimes, I would not for she has some assignments for school that she haven't finished.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
24 Jul 10
When I was growing up I realized early on that parents expect their daughters to help them in the household chores, while the sons are supposed to help the father in manly/physically challenging activities like repairs, painting the house, etc. So in a way there was division of labor, only the kind of work were classified as appropriate either for female or male.
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Well, I agree that there are classification for work but those heavy tasks are occasional and is not usually needed. Although it's true that easy tasks should be done by female members, there should be contribution from the male, especially brothers, for their income goes to their own pocket. Dads are exceptions because their income is for the household.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
24 Jul 10
It is only fair that all family members participate in household chores. They should not be left to the females to do alone. Everyone that lives in the house should pull together and combine their efforts. Putting things on one gender is not right. We should not assume that girls should be left to do the housework. The males are just as capable.
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
I agree that there is greater accomplishment when people work together and I agree more that men are as capable as women in all types of work. Thanks for the insight.
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
This is the medieval ages anymore. These are times when it acceptable that husbands stay at home to take of the children and wives go to work, to bring home the bacon, so to speak. So, my answer is YES; they should do chores without the need to be asked. Besides, they are older than you, they should be the more responsible ones.
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
I guess it's true that husbands and wives switched places and men are the ones doing household duties but I think women are better at doing chores as some men are not good at organizing. I agree that everyone should have a share in the house because cleaning is an inseparable part of life especially when the time would come that each sibling would have to separate from their family to create their own.