At what age is best to have a child?

@Skade24 (750)
Romania
July 24, 2010 10:56am CST
I was wondering, if there is a right age to have a child, or not. I want a child, but not now, but my mother tells me that when she was my age she had already 2 kids, my brothers. What do you think?
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12 responses
29 Jul 10
There is no best age really but for me I think about 30-35. Nowadays women have babies at a later age because of their careers and whatnot so people will be having babies later than say 50 years ago.
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@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
29 Jul 10
I`m thinking about adopting one, but i don`t know yet.
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@mm_mari (36)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
i don't really think there is a right age to have a child--as long as you are already prepared to take the role of a parent its fine, having a child is a big responsibility a person has to take so a future parent need to assure that she has the heart for it. Most people prefer to have a child at a young age line of 20's to be exact because they believe its easier to bear one and risk of pregnancy is minimal unlike if you bear a child on your 30's cases of miscarriages is likely seen--another advantage is that when you reach the age of 40 plus people will likely comment that you and your child are just siblings..haha you can even have a grandchild at an early age and see them grow before your eyes. Most career oriented people prefer to have a child at an older age because of financial status reason--they want to be stabled first in order to provide the needs for their future child, im not saying that younger ones can't provide--it really depends. The bottomline for me is that no matter what age as long as im already prepared for the said role then why not? hope this one helps
• United States
29 Jul 10
I would agree with you on the age thing. I will say this on the age thing as well. Do be prepared. I know a woman who is in her later 30's possibly in her early 40's. if you decide to have an abortion and you're pregnant remmember that you cant take it back. This woman I was talking about had 2 abortions and now that she is with someone she wants to be with she has tried 3 times and each time she has been having to take shots to keep from miscarriaging but she still miscarriages. I responded already but felt i needed to add that. I strongly feel that because she had the two abortions that is keeping her from having children. I think the key is to be safe.
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@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
For me, it depends if one is capable enough especially in terms financially for her child/children. That age would probably be around late 20's for me. I just really wanna pursue a career first before stepping into motherhood wherein I'm not ready to bare a child or support one. Best of luck.
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@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
24 Jul 10
That`s an important point of view. Thanks.
@maximax8 (31047)
• United Kingdom
26 Jul 10
I think that the right age to have a baby is the time the person feels ready for it. It is wise to have stability for a baby like a comfortable home to live in and enough money to survive. Sometimes pregnancy can be a surprise so it is lovely when a lady in that position gets her life ready to have her baby. Physically the best age to have a baby would be age 20 to 30 years old. Some ladies are ready to have a baby between age 30 and 35 years old. That is a bit late but could work well. I think that having a baby between ages 35 and 40 years old is getting rather late. I think that having a baby between ages 16 and 19 is early and it is not ideal but it could be possible.
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@jenncez (44)
• United States
24 Jul 10
I don't think there is a "right" age to have children. I think that there are "wrong" ages though...for instance like under 18. It is different for everyone. Depending on where you are in life..career wise, school wise, dating wise and also your values. Are you more traditional...prefer to be married first? Or does that matter to you? A lot of factors go into having a baby. All that matters is that you feel YOU are ready. Not what anyone else says. :)
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@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
24 Jul 10
s, the marriage is the first step, and it will happend. Thanks!
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@anjap3t3 (25)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
I don't think there is a right age to have children. It depends whether one is emotionally,morally,and financially ready. Being a parent is a tough job. One has to do a lot of sacrifices. This is not temporary but it is permanent.
@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
4 Aug 10
Yes you are absolutely right there is a particular age to get married and to have kids one should not marriage before eighteen as our body and mind gets that much mature.One should get married before thirty .Same is the case with having kids also.I f we conceives before Eighteen then our body can't carry a pregnancy and after thirty years of age we find difficulty in conceiving.ASGE IS AN IMPORTANT FACTOR for you to concider while deciding to have a baby but not a negative one that you might think.concideration of personal freedom and career moves are causing more and more women to wait until they are thirty to become pregnant but many still fear that thet may be leaving it too late .They think that they may find difficulty in pregnancy or they may have abnormality in child.the risks undoubtely do increase with age.If the age of women is thirty for example then the complication during pregnancy and delivery is not related to age but to other factors such as malnutrition in that case an individual pregnant woman will only needs a special care if she is poorly nourished.but I think the best age for a woman for the childbirth is in her early twenties as fertility may decreases with the age but here men age is very important also.so more important is that general health of the mother is much more important then the age alone.So remember if your health is good the decision to have a baby should not be abandoned on account of age only. Thanks regards sweety
@ip5217 (1655)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
As for me, I think your body is ready to have a baby at the age of 24. Meanwhile, this doesn't mean you can bear one even if you are not yet financially ready. You need to consider your child's future before you even start thinking of starting a family. Thus, you and your partner must have a substantial income that can cover for all your family needs.
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• United States
28 Jul 10
I'll tell you something my mom told me when she talked to her obgyn about this way so many years ago. Her doctor told her that she should wait until she was atlast 21 or 22 to have a child. She was 16-17 at the time and back then you could get married that young. Anyways, she had my dad for stability at the time. The doctor told her that she needed to take this time and see what seeds she was going to sow. she hadn't been old enough yet to drink and if they were going to be pqrtyig or whatever then they needed to wait til they was ready to make a more permanant commitment to each other. Now, I was 21 when I foudn out I was pregnant and 3months later I truned 22. Now, I was married but after my mom got over the shock and the responsibility thing of it all she realized that she was my age and also realized that I wasn't 16 and wasnt in highschool and that I could provide for my baby as much as I could. With there help I have. It's not been easy. But I'd rather be a single parent than be in ahousehold where it was like my mom and dad growing up because my dad was a very verbal abuser.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I don't think that there is a general right time to have children, I think that it is very unique to the individual. For me, for example, I always knew that I wanted to have children and I also wanted to have my children before I was thirty years old. So, I ended up having my daughter when I was 22 years old (about a year after I met the man that would eventually be my husband) then my son was born when I was 26 years old. For me this was right, but for others they want to wait until they are older to have children.
• Mauritius
23 Aug 10
Hi Skade24 Well i think you need to be at least 20 for the youngest.... but i think best if 25-26 for a first child ...
• United States
25 Jul 10
I don't believe there is really a "right" age to have children. But I do believe that you should be mature yourself and not still a kid. I also believe that you should be financially able to support a child. I had my first child when I was 20 and I believe I was "ready" but that may not be the case for everyone.
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