(Mostly for Women) Would You Take Your Husband's Name Even If Its Horrible?

Unfortunately, we don't choose the name of the man we marry. We have to love the man for who he is, not how much we like or dislike his name. My husband had an unusual last name. I spent more time correcting people on how to say it than anything else. Still, I wouldn't trade the man for a better sounding name.

I did never used my husband´s last name, except to give my last name for the dry cleaners because my own last names is one of those you have to spell to people. But I thought that if I had been XXX for the first 18 years of my like, there was no point in changing it when married. When I tell my grandchildren about our family name, I talk about my husban´s and my family namr put together. Fair enough. I have never thought that there are last names more beautiful or more ugly

I have not encountered such kind of horrible names yet. I believe nobody would want to have such kind of name unless he is weird. I believe the last name was chosen by our forefathers so unless they are weird and stupid they will not use stupid names like that. Anyway if they did, the law has a way of giving us the chance to have it changed. Now if it so happened that the man I love happened to have such horrible name, then I will marry him just the same but I will not assume his last name yet, instead I will first have that horrible name changed by legal means.

oh my gosh..ahahaha...i never expected that you would ask this here in mylot...i mean, we have the same question, actually i had asked myself the same and thought its awkward to change my lastname into my man so choosing a man with a good name would be better---sounds rich, sophisticated, famous, etc. even if he doesn't belong to any of those..hmmm funny..oh well, should say my "karma" came...until i've learned to love with a man who has the most embarrassing lastname i could ever describe in my entire life (never to mention), what would i do so accept it...it happened so take it ;)

I got married in Italy, and here women do not take their husband's last name. The name you were born with remains your legal name all of your life, really much simpler for legal documents like driving licences, etc. I would have been happy to take my husbands last name, I like it better than my own, but I was not given that option.

I think I would have to take his name because any man I get married to will most likely sound weird with my name. My name is Mystery. The last name that I have now sounds okay because I've lived with it ever since I was born of course. But I think that any woman should take her man's last name because why would you let a last name give you doubts about wanting to acquire it. It's not like he had a choice. If anything the man has it worse because he was born with the last name. So he had no choice. You do, and you should take it.

No, if it was horrible, I wouldn't take it. My own name is bad enough (not embarrassing, just gets misspelled and mispronounced all the time) so if I was going to change it, I'd want to trade up. And, if he were the man of my dreams, he wouldn't be bothered by me keeping my own name.

Me and my boyfriend have discussed marriage so I really think he is the one and he feels the same. He is Italian and his great grandfather came with his family from Italy with the last name Conatelli. Well his grandfather wanted to get his family off to a more "American" start and changed their name to Conn. Now Conn is not a bad name on its own (it is actually more gaelic and I am half Irish). Anyway, unfortunately my boyfriend is in prison for robbing some banks. So he is a convict. Or a con. So for me its a little weird having a boyfriend who is a con with the last name Conn. That is not THAT horrible, I know but its a little ironic. He has contemplated getting his last name changed back to his great grandfather's last name Conatelli, but he will probably just keep Conn. I know there are people with really embarrassing last names. My last name is the same as a famous beauty company lol. No relation though. And yes, I would/will still take my man's last name Conn.

Omg, Cockman Well, in my country, even if many people here are not aware of it -seriously, I have seen all kinds of surprised faces from people born here when they heard that-, changing your surname for your husband's one is not mandatory, and I would never change it, as it's not my name and I'm not going to lose mine and my identity just because of getting married. I have heard many funny names, but just in the native nanguage, so it might not be funny in English, sorry

Yes, I would. I think it is a sign and commitment, and it is important to me. I think I would be a bit bummed out, but I would still do it in the end. I am old-fashioned that way!

I think the last name doesn't really count in a relationship as long as you love each other.

I would take the last name. Even if its something crazy. I think you get respected more for taking the man last name and not to hyphen yours. you know? At least in my church its definitely like that. But the last name don't determine the means of the relationship. at least it shouldn't. But this is all my opinion. do what's best for you. (if this is you in this situation...im not sure..or just a general question) Happy Mylotting Peace and Love!!