between friendship and family

Malaysia
July 25, 2010 8:57pm CST
If you had a friend and he was once close with the woman you married, would you keep his friendship or sacrifice it?
3 responses
@merma1267 (130)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
when u said, once close with a woman u married, is he an ex-bf?? if so, what seems to be the problem being a fiend of him? you married with her... so that's enough. the woman chose u not him.
• Malaysia
26 Jul 10
Such a practical approach. Thanks
@vikkitita (195)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
You are referring to a male friend I suppose. If you are secured with your wife's love for you and trust your wife enough, then why would you cut your friendship with that guy. It always takes two to tango. If you feel that your friend has some special feelings for your wife, but if your wife would not respond or reciprocate, then you have nothing to worry about. Give them both the benefit of the doubt. Don't immediately jump into conclusion. Because if you do entertain such doubts, that emotion will eat you up and that might be some hot spots for frequent fights between you and your wife. You might end up losing both your friend and your wife in the end.
• Malaysia
26 Jul 10
Thanks for your prompt response. This is another way of looking at things.
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
It depends on how close he used to be with my wife and reason for their break-up. If its too controversial or hurtful to my wife, i will sacrifice it. But if their relationship ended well, like they have no hang-up on each other and can treat each other without enmity and as friends, then I will be more than happy to keep his friendship.
• Malaysia
26 Jul 10
Thanks for the response. It seems a rather reasonable thing to do.