A lost lover and came back all along

Well, it really depends, I mean, would she still want to try after all those times? Or does she just wants to move on in her life? this happened to me, although, my ex then and I broke up on reasons that I don't even remember now. LOL. Anyway, after a couple of years, he went back, and I at first didn't really want to try, but after a couple of days, he really changed my mind.. And now four years later, we are still together, and planning on getting on married.

Wow! that is one heck of a situation for the girl. i would advise her NOT to pursue her feelings for the old lover she had because previously the guy didn't made any efforts for that some stupid reason to get back to her since that day. Then one day he will get back to her and now it's too late for her then to accept him all over again. since she already have a new lover. but then, she should still follow her heart. if she can risk everything for the love of this old lover then it's worth taking! after all all she wants for herself is to be happy as being with that over. the risk i mean is to sacrifice the new lover she has.

hello hushi22! having a new love interest does not mean that the lady in question has already gotten over with her ex-flame. Who knows? she got a new love interest to cover up for the love she lost, some people are like that. So, the issue to be settled here is whether the girl is still in love with her ex-flame and if she is, is that love more stronger than what she feels for the new one. Also to be considered in this case is what had made them separate in the past is not something that might be an issue if they are ever to get back. At this point, i will advise the lady to take it real slow and weigh things. She should not just disregard the comeback rashly and focus on her new love or do the opposite. What she will do in the next step will determine her future relationship with either guys and so she must weigh things, not only for her sake but also for the men in her life.

I dont know waht to say...but what if the guy had come back after the girl had married?...what would be the feeling...would she love him like before. I am really looking for an answer for this situation...

She must analyze the situation especially her feelings. That must be hard though considering the girl have found a new love interest.

Decide the right thing.

hushi22, Time and tide waits for no man. Sometimes, I wish that this lady could simplify things and let her episode of her previous relationship be history. Liken to a person for some stupid reason or cause to miss the bus, he should respect and accept that everything he had is past history. The lady on the other hand should be fair to her present boyfriend and move forward. I cannot find a better conviction to accept whatever has happened in the past and some stupid reasons. We need to move on and evolve. If it could be saved why the lapse? I am sorry but we are not living in the Stone Age, where everything is primitive.

i don't know as some things change. i guess i would say go with her heart.

let her choose where her heart is. i guess it's all up to her in the end to choose who really captured her heart. lost love can be replaced by a new love,but in the end,only the woman knows who she truly loves.pick the right man!

GO for the NEW love interest. PAST IS PAST. after all, it is You said with mix excitement and anxiety coz on what was happened before that possible to happen again if u ever tried to come with him. More adventurous to come when you go to a NEW one.

Hi, I had experienced something like that. Just when I moved on, the guy came back and it got me confused. What i did was rushed to my grandma and seek her advise. She told me that when in doubt especially in relationships. Always follow my heart not my mind. The heart heals when hurt but the mind never. I did follow my heart and now I don't have any regrets. I married the person I met after my ex. Good luck to the lady. I hope she will get what she wishes.

I experienced this with someone that I was best friends with in highschool. Twenty years later we reconnected on Classmates. Both of us were in unhappy marriages. Long story short we both got divorced and within a year were married to eachother. Happy Endings are the best.

one would be lucky enough if the person you had loved and lost comes back in your life again..This things happen rarely in some relationship but don't think back,just give him a chance because the person who comes back to you must have come with all the regrets and the fact that he really loves you..THis must be a surprise for you but you always need to know that "Life is full of surprises"so the one that really surprises you and makes you happy shouldn't be left aside!Forgive him and go on with the relationship.I'm sure you guys would be the perfect match.

i don't know what a girl thinks about the man who loved her, left her and now, return bach with her, i just think that i really never want to com back with him because he don't look you like the most important person of him, i thinks maybe he sad because he hasn't new girlfriend and he feels empty bescause he is used to have youy beside him, maybe he can't concede when you have a new lover. you should have a lucid decision.

i have sort of experienced that. although not the part where the guy came back when i had a new love interest. i think that the girl should really think about it. she should weigh out who means more to her, and who would treat her better. she shouldn't just go back to that guy for old time's sake. i know that she would still have feelings for her but she shouldn't let these feelings control her. she should also think about who will be the better guy for her. and my most important advise to her is not to rush things. especially with the guy's disappearing act before. if he'd done it before, there is no reason that he can do it again. i know how hard tat can be, i had to learn it the hard way. hope this lady does the right thing and doesn't get hurt so much in the process.