Have you lost one through death in your circle of friends or family?

Singapore
August 7, 2010 10:56am CST
I have seen death close up a few times - in the extended family. But my earliest memory of death of a friend was a classmate many years ago when I was in my teens or thereabouts - even at that young age I heard she died of a sickness in that age when mobile phones were not highly popular. I haven't thought about this for many years but I still remember her name and face. Not too long ago, I witnessed the death of a colleague who died of cancer, slowly. She suffered a remission after some years of chemotherapy. We have travelled together and I remember her exuberance over her return to the workforce and the ability to live a more normal lifestyle after undergoing treatment. Her health deterioriation was within the span of 6 months or thereabouts - and we know that she had taken a turn for the worst when she failed to answer our calls and text messages on the mobile. Although she remained positive and resolved to join us for our usual lunch get-together, it was not to be. Have your therefore also lost someone near to you? And how did you feel/handle the situation.
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• United States
7 Aug 10
Just two weeks ago I lost my niece Keilyla she was walking in the neighborhood with her auntie (my sister) and keilyla tryed to run ahead and our neighbor was backing out of his driveway and she got ran over. she just turned two years old a couple weeks before the accident happened. My brother is still having a hard time keilyla was his first and only baby. Our whole family is having a hard time dealing with this. I never realized how much I took my family for granted until this happened. I hate to see my brother in so much pain. I would do anything for another chance to see her beautiful smile. If only I could turn back time. I still cant believe something like this happened to us. Everyone keeps telling us that everything happens for a reason but why did this have to happen. I am trying to move on but it is so hard. The hardest thing that my family has ever had to do. I Love my family so much and I wish that could have told keilyla that I loved her before she left. Before all of this happened I was worried about stupid things like money or cars or something stupid like that. Now I realize that the only thing that matters in life is family.
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• Singapore
8 Aug 10
Hi vikkianne and Hatley - thanks both for your sharing. Vikkianne, indeed that was a very sad loss to someone so young. Really need some time to grief over this. My condolences to your family.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
7 Aug 10
I lost my mom in 2008. In fact her anniversary is on the 18th (this month). Of course it's never easy. Although she has been sick for a time, it doesn't mean it's going to make it feel less painful. Losing a loved one even if he or she is 150 years old is never that easy to accept. We are trying to cope with the loss. Sure we miss her every waking hour of everyday. Especially during trying times. We all just lift it up to God.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
I lost my mom on 2006..months after I gave birth of her first grandchild.. It was very drastic for us because my mother is a very important person to our family..Her loss changed everything for us..I had difficulty adjusting with her loss because as the eldest daughter her responsibilities were laid on me..and it was hard for me because everything was mostly first time.. Another thing that made it hard for me to cope from her loss is the fact that I was the one with her when she was attacked by a stroke..I saw her die so fast without a word.. The last words I heard from her were: Come here, I am feeling dizzy... That was all and everything happened so fast that I was praying I was just dreaming..
• Singapore
8 Aug 10
thanks theresaaiza and genevy for your sharing and my condolences to your for your losses. We will always remember our loved ones in our hearts even if they are long gone. It is the circle of life.
@orevro (715)
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
I've just recently lost my 2 uncles. It was very tragic. both of them were fighting for their lives in different hospitals so for us relatives, we were torn between the two of them. one uncle was my mother's brother and the other was my mother's cousin. we were at my mother's brother when my mother's cousin passed away. after 5 days we were at the burial and that afternoon, i got a phone call from my cousin that my mother's brother passed away also. it was a very mournful month for us. We were all exhausted after all the things that happened.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Aug 10
yhes carpediem I lost my friend adrienne when we both worked in the library . she always called me by my last name. Hey hatley. well one day she said to me how do you do it, you are ten years older and you are running circles around me. My back is killing me. I begged her to go see her doctor and she did . the x rays showed a large tumor in her lungs, and tests showed it was c ancer. Six weeks later despite all the chemo she just gave up and passed away. Six weeks before she had lost her own husband to liver cancer so I think she did not have any more will to live. now hope she is with her hubby again. Till the day I retired I could still hear her strident voice calling hey hatley, come here, looky at this. I really loved her to pieces, she was outspoken and funny and had a huge heart for all people. So sad she had to go like that.
• Singapore
8 Aug 10
thanks Hatley again for your sharing. Cancer is really a terrible disease and eats into the body of the victim. I can only wish that there will be a major breakthrough in the discovery of a cure real soon.