am i falling out of love? or maybe i just knew her almost all of her.....

Philippines
August 9, 2010 8:25am CST
i dont know why i felt this way, like i dont want to be near her, i dont to hear her voice, i wanna have fun without her... but deep inside my heart, it always say that i still love her soo much! every time i remembered all the things we had in the past, it makes me smile and happy. but be with her now in present is like having a dummy with no emotions at all. am i really falling out of love or perhaps i just need to taste another flavor?
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14 responses
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
first of all, I am taking offense on your line about tasting another flavor, women are not just flavors you know. Anyway, with that said, I know you really don't mean to sound too offensive or something. Hehehe. Here's an advice, being together for a long time can really make you feel like you're already losing interest, and from the sound of it, the past is the one that is making you happy and not the present. Maybe it is really time to move on. Or maybe what you can try, is you two could do something different for a change, it can help, but if you still feel the same way, then maybe you should really move on. Just remember when you decide to move on, there is no turning back. I mean, you have decided to leave, and you have no right to go back, because you just can't expect her to always be there when you feel like it. so think about it real hard before deciding.. and think of another term instead of using the word "flavor", it sounds like we're just ice cream or something.
@voldrox (7204)
• India
10 Aug 10
Yup, as a guy, i agree with you. It is offensive.
@lulu1220 (1010)
• United States
9 Aug 10
I am not sure how long the two of you have been together, how old you are or how many relationships you have had, but if you are starting to have doubts, she need to be honest with her. Maybe both oof you should date other people. Perhaps you will realize what you had with her was very special and will appreciate her more. Or maybe you will find someone else you would prefer to be with.
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
weve been together for almost years now.. im 24 and she's 22.. but the thing is, i knew i can felt that she loves me soo much and i dont wanna break her heart..
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
oh for crying out loud mrcupid... you don't wanna break her heart??? you are starting to feel doubt how you feel for her and then pity... what are with you guys nowadays?! sorry.. no offense meant.. ^.^ okay, lets start. ^.^ be true to yourself. Figure out your true feelings for her. I agree with lulu, maybe you too should date other people. but be sure to clear it to her before doing so, like announcing a cool off or something. as you said my friend, you think she loves you soo much. do you think feeling doubts about your feelings is fair for her? you should at least be fair about this in exchange for her love for you. Talk about it, figure it out. If she really loves you she'll understand that what you're going through today is just a phase and it's normal for couples. if you're afraid about hurting her you should think twice. Girls may look fragile but we are strong. yes, we cry and show emotions instantly but that doesn't mean we can't handle things. Be strong and face your fears. tell her the truth cause she deserve it. good luck! ^.^
@lexclark (21)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
that "flavor" thing is really offensive. but anyway maybe you two should put some spice on your relationship like do the things that you have'nt done yet.if things still the same maybe it's time to let go.but make sure that if you decided,it's final.there's no turning back.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
i dont want to sound to offensive to ladies.... what i mean another flavor is just like putting spice to the food which is not too nice anymore... hhehe thanks soo much for all the comment guys
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
well, if you are not even sure that you don't love her anymore, never test the waters or go for a new flavor to make your life delightful..it will only create bigger confusion on your part. Maybe what you need is a breather...a space to breathe in. Maybe your relationship with her is suffocating for now, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you fall out of love...just try to do other things without her...give yourself a chance to miss her...
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
i guess you have to tell her what your feeling right now, you have to be open, you might need some space to analyze your feelings. You might be really too intimate. dont be too drastic with your moves think hundred times before you do something you might regret at the end. tasting new flavor is not advisable, this might bounce back to you. goodluck!
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
9 Aug 10
You don't want to hear her voice and be near her?It sounds like you're not physically attracted to her anymore.Maybe you've spent too much time together, too much of intimacy?I broke up with my boyfriend because things became too simple.
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
i think that is the point.. it became soo simple.. thank u soo much for that words
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
perhaps, you don't love her that much and its just a simple game of taste it and leave it matter. anyway, put yourself out of its picture and try to re assess your feelings with her. If nothing is going on, better set her free for her to move on. Good day.
@voldrox (7204)
• India
10 Aug 10
I think you need to have sometime alone mrcupid. Sometimes one needs to have time with oneself in a relationship. But not think of changing flavour.
@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
10 Aug 10
It can be difficult to break it off with someone that you have been with for a long time, they are very familiar to you and familiarity is very comforting. The two of you have a history together and many experiences together and it is hard to just dismiss that, but the fact is the magic has worn off for you. I agree with what someone else has said you have lost your attraction to her, and no matter how hard you try it might be impossible to get that back. Perhaps it is time to keep your memories but let the girl go. If you don't love her it is cruel to keep her around. Let her go to go and find that person who will love her the way she deserves and you yourself need to experience other pastures to find that person you will love for all your life. You are both really young, she will bounce back, sure she will be hurt at first but there is someone out there that will love her. It may be hard for her at first but in time she will be fine. I wish you all the best you have some difficult days ahead of you.
• India
10 Aug 10
K according to me You were never in love with her ..the past things are just emotional attachments as a human , if you can live without her then you were never in love with her...so try to talk to her and check that whether she thinks same about you...
• Indonesia
10 Aug 10
erm....i don't know actually. But you have to try... for example make a different joke with her. There's many way to stay together if you know.... [and i don't know what i'm speaking...hehe] :-)
• South Korea
9 Aug 10
well first you have to talk to her... maybe both of you were bored together...tell her why dont she changed her style or try o experiment... or you can also buy her a new lingerie... coz youll never know maybe when shes gone thats the only time you will realize how much you love her... and always remember that you pick her out of the others because she makes you feel special...
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
LOL! You are making me laugh so heavy right now. Is he your girlfriend or your wife? You have to ask yourself if you are falling out of love or let's make it simple, do you really love her or you are just imagining that you love her but you don't? Be true to yourself and whatever the answers that you will find, tell her. Can you live without her totally? Or will you miss her and regret that you did't let her slip away? You don't know what you've got until it's gone, and when it's gone it's hard to take it back. So think very carefully and the moment you tell us that you need another taste or flavor, I'm assuming that you really don't love her that much.
@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Need to taste another flavor? What exactly does that mean? .
• United Arab Emirates
9 Aug 10
Haha..you do feel it sometimes mate...but when she does start behaving in the same you will realise how much you love her and that what you felt was just an illusion. You need to spice up your life, create situations to make each other happy and try new things, like partying out, going for a long drive etc.