Do you sometimes need a relationship earplug?
@abitosunshine (765)
United States
August 9, 2010 3:49pm CST
Relationships with loved ones can sometimes be painful, especially when one is hurt time and again by the same person. Words can often be the cruelest thing of all when they are said purposely to hurt one another and sometimes we just have to say, No more, not today!
I have one of these relationships with a loved one, my adult son. On a particular occasion, I just flat refused to allow him to ruin my day. As I begin to settle my thoughts and feelings in result of that conversation, I begin writing and creating, so I hope you enjoy the poetic creation I've included.
Do you have a relationship with a loved one that sometimes makes you sish you had a set of earplugs to aid in keeping out the negative words being slung your way? How do you keep the negativity from ruining your day?
4 responses
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
13 Aug 10
As a matter of fact, I think I would need those ear plugs right about now. It seems like a lot of people around me are contributing to the negativity that all I want to do is get away. I know they are my family and all, but I think I need a vacation from them too!
It'll be great if I can just get away for a couple of days and just focus on myself! It's just wishful thinking on my part....
@abitosunshine (765)
• United States
14 Aug 10
OK, I'm wishful thinking for you, too! I really do understand your need to get away, have that much needed "me" time. Sometimes the negativity just surrounds, becomes too much for us without a way to lay back and re-group. I do hope you find some earplugs, even for just a wee while.
@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
10 Aug 10
well....my mother is very negative abut everything. She drives me crazy :(
I try to be the opposite at all times, looking at the positive side of things.
When I first started reading your post my first husband and his mental abuse (and other abuse) in our 7 yr marriage came to mind. I allowed him for 10 year after the divorce to still abuse me mentally. No more...I hear from others bad things he is saying about me...but he's just jealous of my life :)
Marsha
@abitosunshine (765)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Oh, Marsha, I had to chuckle over the 'drives me crazy' as I know a loved one or two just like that!
BRAVO for you that your ex is an ex and that you no longer allow his mental abuse! I truly believe emotional abuse is one of the worst of all abuses. The torture of a mind can have such lasting effects. So when we're able to remove or 'plug' that extreme negativity, we are in effect moving onward and upward. And those who truly love us will be movin' right along with us.
@GardenGerty (157665)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Fortunately my negative people do not live with me. I avoid the one I am thinking of, unless I am feeling mentally and emotionally strong. She will never change, and i cannot talk about her with our other relative, because that person does not want us to be bad mouthing each other, we are all we have left. Consequently, I limit my exposure. At Easter I actually short circuited some negativity and was pleased at how I did it.
@abitosunshine (765)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Good for you on the short-circuit! It is sure difficult when it is a family member who taxes us to our emotional limits. I totally understand the issue of not talking bad about one another; that's what friends are for!
@face2face69 (108)
• Bangladesh
9 Aug 10
Actually I don't like in a relationship because its bind for me..
Then I like you discussion...
@abitosunshine (765)
• United States
9 Aug 10
I'm not quite sure what you mean. Could you please explain further?
