What makes us run away from our sorrow?

@dpk262006 (56170)
Delhi, India
August 12, 2010 1:40am CST
Hi all! We all experience joys and sorrows, happy and sad moments. However, when we face sorrowful or sad situations, we wish that our sorrow and misery should end later than sooner. Do you also feel so that you should come out of any bad situation, as quickly as you can? What makes us uneasy and uncomfortable in a sorrowful situation? Please share your views.
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@allknowing (65054)
• India
12 Aug 10
All of us prefer to be happy at all times and pain and sorrow comes in our way. Handling pain and sorrow is another issue altogether, in that while we may not be happy in that situation one need not be desperate either. It also does not mean that one should give up on activities that would distract one from that situation.
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 10
You mean to say that pain and sorrow come invited and we should handle it and you should not get desperate, as happiness may follow sorrow? You are right that one should not sit inactive. Thanks for sharing your wonderful views.
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@allknowing (65054)
• India
12 Aug 10
"After the storm comes the calm, after the calm comes the sunshine"!!- Matthew Henry
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 10
Opps, I am sorry: I wanted to write "sorrows come uninvited". Thanks so much for sharing very meaningful quote. Hope sorrows are like storms, after which calm (joy) will prevail, in the form of sunshine.
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@SViswan (12072)
• India
14 Aug 10
Sorrow and misery are unpleasant situations and usually make us upset. Even if we do not end up crying, it affects our functioning. We are not able to function properly. So, we try to avoid or come out of sad moments as quickly as possible. But as you know, that does not always happen. People brood over sad things sometimes and are unable to come out of it without outside help. The technical aspect to your discussion is a little difficult and long winded to be explained here.
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 10
Hi SV! Glad to see you back. How are you? I think nobody wants to be in a sorrowful situation for a long period, everyone wants to get rid of miserable situations, as quickly as possible, may be we humans are like it.
@Sreekala (22879)
• India
12 Aug 10
Hello Deepak, Hearty congratulations for touching the 10000 marks. I tried to post a comment in your profile but it is not working still. At present I am happy so please don't ask about my sad moments or situation. I am in a hurry now.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 10
Thanks Sree for your wishes. I think there is some problem in uploading/posting comments on one's profile page. OK! Do not tell about sad moments, but why do you want to run away from discussion, which is this time a bit serious.
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@Sreekala (22879)
• India
12 Aug 10
I wanted to be first when I see the topic in home page and yet to get the notification in my inbox.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 10
It is good to be first, but you have not answered the main question.
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@kiran8 (15360)
• Mangalore, India
14 Aug 10
Hi deepak, it is very difficult to run away from ones sorrow.I can never do it, I take a long long time to recover and even after that it keeps haunting me.I am able to take smaller ups and downs in my stride, it is the major upheavals in life that I am talking about. One should of course try and come out of it and not let others get effected by it and spoil things for them, but within us it remains like a burning cinder...Have a nice weekend deepak
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 10
Hi Kiran! You rightly summed it up that it is very difficult to run away from major upheavals in our life. Many of us take longer time to recover from our sorrows because we keep thinking about it. I agree that we should not affect others by our sorrows.
@kiran8 (15360)
• Mangalore, India
17 Aug 10
Yes like they say deepak You share your joys with others but suffer your sorrows alone...I dont know if that is a wise thing though, it is always better to share, it lightens the burden I feel...Been raining here continuously here Deepak and one is forced to remain indoors, how is your country ?
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
18 Aug 10
I agree with you that it is better to share our sorrow, it lightens our mood and we feel relieved. It also keeps raining here in New Delhi, off and on.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
14 Aug 10
Hi Deepak! These are feelings that are part of life and they both have the power to take over your life if they are allowed. People that stay with sorrow almost seem to wither. Happiness on the other hand gives us energy and positivity.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
19 Aug 10
We always want to be happy because we need energy and positivity. Thanks for dropping in, Jen.
• United States
13 Aug 10
its so easy to run away way to easy. thats why we do it. noone wants to feel hurt, why feel hurt when you can ignore it and feel so much better by not addressing it?
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 10
How do you run away from unpleasant situations?
• India
12 Aug 10
Hi Deepak, What makes us want to we wish that our sorrow and misery should end sooner than later (and not later than sooner, as you mentioned)…well, I think we all to lead happy and content lives, none of us wants to go thru the grind of misery and that’s understandable. We are weak in our hearts and don’t / cant harness our inherent strength to tide over bad situations…we always look for the shortest route to happiness. Also, its our utter helplessness in controlling situations which makes us acutely aware of our weaknesses… we fall in our own eyes and in the eyes of our near and dear ones…that is something we all want to avoid, hence I feel we try to get out of a sticky situation as fast as we can. I have been thru quite a few rough patches in my life…they were so intolerable that sometimes I just felt like snapping…however, each such bad patch passed away in its own sweet time…nothing that I could think of or do, solved my problems until and unless it was time for them to go. So you see Deepak, most of us avoid bad times (and it should be so) but what I’ve learnt is that in really tough times, we should just hold on tight, keep faith and keep hope…its amazing when I think that if ever such bad times should come visiting me again (God forbid)…I would at least know how to keep my calm and deal with it LOL
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 10
HI Sudipta! Thanks for correction, I should have written 'sooner than later'. I wrote in reverse order, in hurry. What all you have said make sense that is - we all are weak in our hearts and cannot gather enough courage (at one go) to face difficult situations. Also, it is very true, that in front of other, we want to show our 'bold' face, not that we are perturbed by bad situation. As you are the victim of some harried and harrowing times, you can enlighten us better how to face the odds and keep our cool and courage. Thanks so much for such an outstanding response. Full marks to you. Deepak
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• Philippines
12 Aug 10
As quickly as the problem arises, I always wanted to as quickly to remove in my life, however solution always done with a process and sometime that process is the one you find difficulty to face. I wonder sometimes what is the role of problems in our daily life, because it only gives me headache and pains. However, we have to deal with it no matter how hard is the process and we have to focus on the solution than to complain about it. What makes me uneasy and uncomfortable is that when i have problems there are few people that can help me along the way. They usually appear when the problems is near to solutionized. Which leads me to suffer so much before I meet solution. And sometimes running away from it happens when we no longer can't solve it and we wish to give the problems to our God so that he will take over.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
13 Aug 10
Hi Grecy! It is good that you show the courage and boldness to face the odds in your life and you do not delay in dealing with sorrowful situations. I can understand your agony that when you find no one to share your sorrows and you fight it out alone, things look all the more bad. Thanks for your considered response.
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@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Maybe when I am in sorrow and the reason for me to ran away from it is when I am already very tired of the things that are going around and I could not take it any longer. I easily give up you see but I always try my best to do something about it but if I cant contain it anymore, then I give up and run away.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
13 Aug 10
It means that when you lose the courage and will to face a difficult and sad situation, you just give up and let the things happen, is it so?
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• India
10 Jan 11
all is well.i know that some time we are in a bad mood or good mood or situition.when we see the non hertest system of man,we are in sorrowful..so when we in a sorrowfull,,we had to remember mother.we feel so good
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
I think the way you can handle a certain situation has something to do with your past experiences and maturity. If you are mature enough to handle every sadness, misery and sorrow you will not going away instead face it with braveness in your heart. Always remember that after the storm comes the sun. Every person in this planet have experienced it and somehow get over it. Life is a learning process, and we must be patient enough to wait for our turn for our problems to be solved. Have a nice day!
• India
13 Aug 10
Joy and sorrow go side by side in life, but every cloud has a silver lining. Every person experiences sorrows in life. The best way to come out of it is Faith in God. In fact, the more we suffer, the better it is for our salvation. after experiencing one cross, another heavier cross may come and we should accept it thinking that this God's Will.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
well it is part of human nature to turn away from sorrow, people get scared of facing hard situations..
@argytrans (226)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Yes, of course. For me when feel sad and sorrow, to come out of any bad situation is a must. When I ended up in some bad situation, I ussually think too much about how I can get out of my bad situation, sometimes I made a group of alternatives idea to reselve any of my problems. The most sorrowful situation for me is when I don't have any money or funds, it's killing me especially when I can't borrow some money from others..it's just sad and pathetic because I only have a freelance job.
@BigTips (305)
• China
12 Aug 10
Joys can make us feel happy while sorrows will make us feel confused and have no interests in anything. For example, if we are accepted to finish a work as soon as possible. And then, we meet some unexpected troubles, which lead to the annoying sorrows. Then, we may lost activation to pay attention to our work at hand, which is a bad situation because to finish the work as soonas possible is the necessity. So, we need to run away from sorrows as quickly as we can.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
12 Aug 10
We all experience moments of sorrow in our lives. It is not something we have any control over. i believe that we run from sorrow because we don't know how to deal with the sadness. We feel that if we get away from what is hurting us, the pain will disappear too. Unfortunately, sorrow does not follow that path. We have to face what hurts us before the healing caan begin.
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
I guess, everybody neither will I allow myself stay for a long serious sorrowful experiences. A prolonged sorrow and misery would end us to deep depression and can put us to a trauma. So better ease it out earlier to get away from serious depression.
@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
from my experience... running from your problems won't solve them. yeah it would soon pass but it'll return with a vengeance. sorrow/miseries are a part of life, rather than let it get you down, try to make something out of it. it'll make you stronger, moral-wise... learn from it and move on. good luck and congrats with th 10k! wooot!
• India
12 Aug 10
All of these are a part of life. If you are always happy and no sorrows coming in your life, you won't feel the meaning of merce. Sorrow and happiness are a part of life and no one can run away from it. When i am in way to sorrow, i just close my eyes and pray, prays help me under go any kind of difficult situations. I won't just keep quite when i am sad, instead i do lots of different kind to forget from this sorrows. So i usually don't allow myself feel uncomfortable with this situations.
• Vietnam
12 Aug 10
When people keep mocking us while were really sad or angry. Sometimes the best medicine when you're sorrowful or uncomfortable is loneliness, silence and quiet area. Well, games apply for me though