want to put more then the minimum on the plot and this comes up
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40193)
Canada
August 13, 2010 10:18am CST
As most of you know, my husband has als and is in the last stages. He will probably be dead in a couple of months at the most or sooner. So this Tuesday I am going to look at plots and get a double one for both of us. I was planning to put it on the card for the whole amount and before the bill came down, download money from my funeral expenses account to pay for it. Then things went wrong.
Our handicapped van needed fixing, the rust removed (it is old and a Ford) so that it would be easily saleable since no one wants a handicapped van that would rust away. Well our friend had a neighbor who did this, but this neighbor did not want to pay taxes so he wanted cash under the table.
And this is the middle of the month. Most of our pension comes at the end of the month, and so I have to take money from my other account that was just for buying presents and also from my mad money account.
Not only that, I was planning to get a new fridge in a couple of months.
But now because of fixing up the van and it not coming out of the sale of the van, I can only pay one quarter or a half at the most to buy the plot. The trouble is if my husband drops dead, all the money comes due right then. Or it does on the card and there are more expenses for the cursed Ford van coming up.
And people wonder why I am so reluctant to buy myself a new dress or a pair of shoes.
I was wondering why people assume I have a money tree in the backyard or realize that if one did not have good paying jobs, they would not have that much saved up?
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Aug 10
I'm sorry about your husband.
Cynthia's right though, you don't know that he's going to go as quickly as you expect. And there are cheaper alternatives than buying burial plots. I know you want to do right by your husband, but I don't think he expects you to beggar yourself over the arrangements, I hope.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Aug 10
Actually with our family history of diabetes, heart attacks, not a good idea. Besides I do not like the guilt that we will save the earth by donating the body to science. I did hear that one can donate particular organs and then babirusa. I suppose the same criteria applies to donating to science. But I suppose they would prefer bodies of ALS patients who had been killed in accidents when they first got it to show the progression of the condition and where they had a history of the victim to surmise how he or she got it.
For instance if he as in the accident shortly after leaving a ranch where they hd an outbreak of Anthrax (I read somewhere that that is a connection) then that would help, But still going with theburial ,
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Put off doing the van for a month or two--it can't pick up that much more rust in just 30-60 days! Can you put off the fridge, too? You won't need one very big for just you. And don't forget, you can sell your old one to help buy the new one. See what the difference would be if you sold the van as-is or with the rust removed.
I'm sorry money is such a jumble for you right now, it's the worst time for it. Figure out your priorities, putting the plot first so that it doesn't all come at once.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Have you already had the van fixed? If not try to sell as is, Lots of people cannot afford the prices of the handicapped van, and would love to find one that they can put a little money into and make it work for them. Take some time and enjoy the time your husband has left, I know it is stressful, but try to treasure the moments that you can.
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@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Well first of all I have to say sorry for your husband and the things you are going through. You are dealing with it well. It does figure when we think everything is gonna be okay, fall into place, sometimes the unexpected happens and it just doesn't. I don't ever assume anyone has or doesn't have money. You never know. Even someone who seems so wealthy could be highly in debt. Maybe start asking around friends and family, try to come up with the money to pay for it. I don't know your family either just like your finances. But most important, aside from all the problems and stress don't forget to enjoy your last days with your husband. I really hope everything works out for you. All I can say is start selling things you don't need on craigslist, try to earn some extra money any way possible.
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