Yes, i am that stupid.......................!!!!

@saphrina (31744)
South Africa
August 13, 2010 3:37pm CST
Or as Vannie would say, that dumb blond. Trusting people is hard, but we can only try and do it and hope it is worth it. Unfortunately i am the kind who trust easily and learn the hard way. Luckily, i am the kind who will hate you forever if you break that trust. Mutual agreement, i think. I always try to please everyone, will they do it for me? NO, to much work or too busy. Would someone please come and stand in my shoes for a week? I need a vacation. All this trusting and pleasing is freaking tiring. Leave your name and number, i will get back to you, I HOPE. TATA.
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@Renhard (3470)
• Jamaica
14 Aug 10
I would do it for you and anytime you want. Would you want me to volunteer my services. What am i talking about. I always do that. Or you having doubts?
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@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
I see i am going to be very busy teaching you. Wait another 10 years then i will tell you. TATA.
@Renhard (3470)
• Jamaica
14 Aug 10
What so long. You must be joking right? I need a tutor now!
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
I said ten years. That is it.
@shibham (17025)
• India
14 Aug 10
hi saphie.... why you start this type of discussion. i think you are suffering from something. most often it seems that you feel loneliness. it may be true so that at that time this type of discussion raise in your mind.
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@voldrox (7202)
• India
14 Aug 10
Shibham no questioning Saphrina now, I don't want to be whipped at times like these.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
Shiby, you have no idea what is going on in this mind of mine. Dangerous at this stage. TATA.
@gunagohan (3415)
• India
14 Aug 10
Anyhow saphrina, do u work for any of the TATA organization? because i always see a symbol this organization TATA in your response or anything u post!!!
@vandana7 (49910)
• India
14 Aug 10
Sweetie, I am honored for the credit you gave me! What? Do you want me to blush? Ok, with that statement I think you deserve one. There, now that we are done and over with blushing, let me tell you what I think. Its ok to hate. Dont let others tell you it is not. The more you let others tell you that, the less satisfied you will be with your life, and more you will hate that person and all those who tell you not to hate him because you think they are supporting that person, instead of supporting you. So first and foremost, dont go around seeking others approval to what you do or feel. Remember they are no saints and not even high on your list of friends to be bothered about. You hate him, so you hate him. Now what, what are you going to do about it? Start from there. Of course, you are not going to kill him. I mean you might want to, but going to prison is not an option you'd like to consider. You want to ruin him. That is ok, that is perfectly fine. So how are you going to do that? It needs meticulous planning. I suggest you plan your move meticulously. Chances are, you will succeed, and derive satisfaction, or it may take you so long that your hatred would be replaced by indifference. Remember some past relationships? You no longer feel as much anger towards them as you did in the first place. So just tell yourself you wont get mad, you will just get even, and continue loving and hating. You will find your path soon enough. I know this might be tough for a dumb blond to understand, but try to understand it sweetie!
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@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
Past relationships, i don't have. Only one. Hating comes easily to me these days. I have to admit, it is a very nice feeling. I will decide what i am going to do. Not today, though. I am lazy. TATA.
@vandana7 (49910)
• India
14 Aug 10
You never had differences with friends, relatives, bros, sisters, you did!!! You told about your sister letting that snake get away!!! Remember? It doesnt hurt that bad anymore, does it sweetie?:) And as I said, it is perfectly alright to hate!!!
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@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
It is, and honestly i actually love it to hate these days.
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@primeaque86 (7923)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
You are stupid if you can prove that you are, but how sure you are that you are stupid? Rushing into a conclusion might be the problem, did you try to weigh things out? or just failed to do so. Somehow there are decisions that make you hate yourself too much, I hope you would never do that. i am just here.
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@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
Actually i did weigh things down, but i still got to the same conclusion. I might hate myself, but that keeps me from getting hurt. The harder the heart, the better i feel. TATA.
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
I do not know if you understand what distance mean... and the worst thing, I am like tied up in the neck, that I could hardly breath... I do not know if you can get what I said, I hope you do... If I am given only the chance to have my time free, then I will set it for the love of my life. But this is life, this is it. Perhaps, you are right. The harder the heart, the better we feel, that is the reason why I hate mellow songs... I just like the harder ones... it seemed invulnerable... I would respect whatever decision you had. PAALAM
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
14 Aug 10
I am sorry you are feeling freaking bad at this. But love is not like a business you know. You pay and I will give you something. If I pay you give me something. If there is no pay, there is no transaction. It's not like that sweetie. If your love is REAL, you can't hate them even when they break your trust. How is this? freaking different?? Meluan can comment better on this with her one word response.
@vandana7 (49910)
• India
14 Aug 10
BS and you know it - that "if your love is REAL, you can't hate them even when they break your trust" stuff. That is written by some people who dont know what is love and trust!!! If you reach that level, you are straight out of living - in the sense you either become a psycho, or you become a saint. Hating as natural an emotion as love. I dont subscribe to that opinion of yours vijayanths. :)
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
I don't think i want to sit in the middle of this one, you two. I have enough trouble as it is. But thanx, though. TATA.
• India
14 Aug 10
vannie, are you alright? You are too harsh today To me real love means total surrender to the other person. If you do that even their flaws will look nice, enjoyable and interesting. A parent can continue to love the kid even if they break their trust. This is because they have real love on the child. Real love between man and woman rarely exists in this modern world. Still there are some who love with heart, soul and life. I bet they can forgive any betrayal and continue to love the partner. You are right that love is almost a meditation and a true lover is a saint, because he/she surrenders everything to him/her, focusing whole attention on him/her. I will be happy to learn about love from you if you really know the subject better than me. Till then let me be a psycho....
@Geomos (323)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
Hey Saph, you can't put your trust in anybody until you've been through hell together. I too have learnt the hard way. Stand in your shoes?? We should swop shoes for a week and see how long it takes before you want your own shoes back. I think it was Confucius who said: If everyone in the world were to throw their problems onto a pile, whose problems would you take back?
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
Geomos, i have just left hell's gates. Now, it is my time, too show what i am capable off. Thanx. TATA. PS: I know you will choose my problems.
@Geomos (323)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
That's what friends are all about - to help share the burden.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
16 Aug 10
I hope you have space for my burdens, sweetie.
@gunagohan (3415)
• India
14 Aug 10
Come on Madam, Whats the color of your shoes? Well, i'm thinking the same kinda thing of not trusting completely, before some years when i was schooling, i had trusted my close mates, but i had been betrayed by my best friend once.. I had that instance as a warning, that i should never trust anybody that much.. i keep some trust worthy friends who would help me in any critical circumstances.. Oh well, u could completely trust me !! Because i know the pain of being betrayed, i don't betray others!!!
@gunagohan (3415)
• India
14 Aug 10
Sorry i forgot this
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
I wear pink sandals, when can i send them? I don't even know you. TATA
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@gunagohan (3415)
• India
16 Aug 10
????This hurts me
@voldrox (7202)
• India
14 Aug 10
Hello Saphrina, I had started a similar discussion long time ago.. I know how it feels, you really need to stop thinking about others, for the time being. You probably give them more attention and time than they actually deserve. Let go of them for sometime... Just do what you wanted to... Get off your shoes and on to their's... You could then see how much they really care to attend to you. Have a good weekend Saphrina...
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
I don't think we wear the same size shows, Voldi. Honestly, people don't care about others. Don't let anyone tell you any different. TATA.
@voldrox (7202)
• India
14 Aug 10
Yes Saph, we might not be wearing the same shoes. People are so selfish, sometimes just thinking of that makes me think i should be like them, but i am just me. I have to keep myself from being so easy with others. One of the reasons some people find me quite difficult to get along with after meeting me for the first time, because i don't open up to them soon. I am easy on trusting others too, but are they worth receiving it, after all, almost everybody and everyone think only about themselves.! One of the reasons, people who don't know me inside out find me a rude and serious type of person, Fine! I don't care about them.. I just want to be myself, the way i wanna be happy. Those who don't know me, and care to judge a person instantly, i don't give them a damn. Funny how life is.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
Well, at least i know you, Voldi. Life and people doesn't seem to get along very well these days. As for opening to people, i hate doing that. That is when you get hurt. I like being myself, but a change now and then do us the world of good. I don't want people to get to know me. I t keeps me out of trouble.
@dawnald (84085)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Aug 10
Do you wear size 8 1/2 American, and can I sit down occasionally? I trust too easily too.
@dawnald (84085)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Aug 10
No, so I can wear her shoes for a while...
@dawnald (84085)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Aug 10
or at least I can understand how much her feet hurt!
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@jennyze (7049)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 10
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@much2say (25877)
• United States
15 Aug 10
I think I give the impression that I trust people off the bat . . . but really, I don't. There aren't many people I trust whole heartedly - I am very cautious - but I don't show it on the outside. And like you, I am the kind who will despise anyone for life who breaks this precious trust. Sure, I'll stand in your shoes for a week . . . I do need to try on some different shoes!
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
16 Aug 10
Hope you love to walk bare feet, sweetie. We need to change, don't you think? TATA.
@much2say (25877)
• United States
16 Aug 10
Bare feet - of course! That's cool with me - I do it all the time! Just not on hot cement please - ha ha. Change is good from time to time!!
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
16 Aug 10
Nah no hot cement only tiles.
@allknowing (42192)
• India
14 Aug 10
Sorry saphrina I don't think I will fit in your shoes as we are poles apart. I don't even wear shoes sometimes as I am always watching out to see if anyone is taking me for a ride and for this I need to go bare feet!
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
Now that i have to try. The only problem, i have freaking ugly toes, sweetie. TATA.
@allknowing (42192)
• India
14 Aug 10
But your toes will not make a noise when keeping a tab on those who are getting ready to take you for a ride!!
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
So true. I will remember that.
• United States
13 Aug 10
Trusting people is not something you can do stupidly, it is something you do because of the kind hear-ted person you are. I tend to do this too much myself, but one thing for sure you learn and move on. Next time we learn to handle it better as trusting is something we have to do to continue to be who we are - Good People.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
Unfortunately the good is out of me, sweetie. I turned just as bad and nasty. TATA.
• United States
14 Aug 10
That feeling gets that way after you have been beaten too many times. Sorry you are feeling this way, but deep down you know you are good. HA, nasty I do not think so there is some good in there somewhere.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
Thanx sweetie.
@carmelanirel (21112)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Trusting people isn't dumb, I tend to trust easily too sometimes because I would like to think people are not as bad as they really are.. I don't hate people who break that trust, but I never trust them again, thus making the relationship strained, but that isn't my fault is it? Now pleasing people, that is not me, I tend to try to make choices that is right, whether it pleases someone or not. That is just me because I know decisions I make, I will be held accountable for, sooner or later.
• United States
14 Aug 10
I understand, but I also understand that there are going to be times we have to tryst people whether we want to or not. We just got to think it through before we do..:) Take care saphrina..:)
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
I did think, sweetie. We'll see though.
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@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
I'd easily fit into your shoes (with the trusting part). Do we have a deal? ;P There's nothing wrong with trusting. As my mother always says, trust rather than doubt, because at the event of betrayal, you can be thankful that you're not the one who did the wrong. However, pleasing everyone is really a tiring job indeed! Why do you even try to do that? Just be yourself, and have a take-it-or-leave-it attitude. If someone doesn't like you, then, to hell with him. The people who really care for you will stay with you till the very end anyway no matter how crazy they find you. So just relax, chill. ;)
@Geomos (323)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
Hi Anncherry, I couldn't help but respond to your comments. It is all very noble to be trusting of people but I would rather tell my kids to doubt rather than trust. Would you trust a politician? Would you trust a salesman? I agree, just relax and chill, but always cast doubt before trusting. Trust needs to be earned and until it is earned, it would be wise to doubt. It is much safer that way.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
Thanx anncherry, i needed that. I know geomos, thanx.
@Fireheart (683)
• India
14 Aug 10
Just because someone left you and broke your trust doesn't mean that each and every person on this earth is not trust worthy.all you need is some understanding. I dont mean to tell you that trust the people you met.just believe in yourself..no matter what people do to you dont change. And i must say keeping someone close is good but not that close. be prepared for anything that comes and think what will you do in that situation if it comes to leaving.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
Sweetie, i don't keep anyone close anymore. For me that is really not worth the effort. TATA.
• India
14 Aug 10
you seem firm in your belief that you wont trust anyone. but why not every people can be good i agree but some are worth everything like you i believed that noone can be trusted. if you behave like this then noone would be there for you.
@basqui (3892)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
IS that so? Hmm, I think you have just fallen for some infidel? Did I use the right word? If you could get over it then try to not fall for the same next time. Where are you taking your vacation? Try the beaches of the Philippines and enjoy the hospitality if the Filipinos, hope it helps you...
@basqui (3892)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
It will surely will, Even just for the weekend get away. TATA
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
14 Aug 10
If you only knew. The beaches can wait for a while. I will rather try out the alpes. TATA.
@maylaine (444)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
i think you really need a vacation saph....you seem to be so exhausted...
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
17 Aug 10
Hi sweetie. Thanx i will make sure to take one, okay. TATA.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 10
I guess is not stupid maybe need more training in judging people and not too trusting in the first place. Learn to ask questions and detect lie through answer giving and body language.If u walk around talking to people having an idea people will lie to u , then your be ok , walking around with suspicious view of people is good for personal safetly too.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
Thanx sweetie, but i know i am done being suspicious of this one. TATA.
• China
14 Aug 10
I think you are sinking into a bad emotion right now.Just take it easy,it happens to almost everyone in this world like you.My recipe to keep my positive life attitude is that I never anticipate much from others.I always set my expectation to the minimum so that I can always get extra surprise over my expectation.I hope that you can really have a vacation so that you can convert your pessimistic emotion into optimistic one.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
I'm almost there, sweetie. Thanx, but this will take some time, though. TATA.
• Malaysia
14 Aug 10
Depends on who you trusted. Not everyone can be trusted. Betrayal is the teacher of how to trust someone in our life. Anyway, before trusting someone, trust your self and get your judgment right. It's not a simple thing but at least learning to trust is important so that you won't get betrayed. I know that's sound simple, indeed myself also had a hard time to trust someone until I get my judgment towards their actions are convincing me to trust them.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
15 Aug 10
I think i have everything under control now, sweetie. Judgement and the trust. Hope it will stay that way, though. Thanx. TATA.