How do I get my son in to a back-to-school mode?

@queery (83)
Jamaica
August 18, 2010 3:06pm CST
Since the start of the summer my eleven year old son has been having the time of his life. He plays all day and night too! He plays with his psp, his x box 360, he watches cable tv, we hit the beach most weekends. he stays up late at nite and sleep in late in the mornings! I hate to deny him his pleasures before the end of the summer, since they all will be denied when school opens anyway, but the summer is almost finished! How do i get him to start focusing on school again without prematurely spoiling his fun?
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@gdesjardin (1938)
• United States
19 Aug 10
My 14 year old is the exact same way. The other day I was shocked when I saw him actually awake at 8:00 a.m. Then he informed me that he hadn't been to sleep yet. I usually let the kids keep there own hours in the summer as I don't feel like listening to the arguing if I make them go to sleep at a "decent" hour. He never has a problem getting up for doctor appointments or any other appointments or things we have to do, so I don't make a big deal of it. My daughter stays up crazy hours as well. She didn't have a hard time getting up for school. We will see about my son, his school starts tomorrow.
@queery (83)
• Jamaica
19 Aug 10
My goodness our sons are similar. I got up at 5:oo a.m last week and he was up! He did not go to bed from the night before how do they do it?! His school opens in September so I am going to remove the xbox 360 this week and next week the psp. It is going to be crazy with the arguments.
19 Aug 10
the age of eleven years old is easy to adjust what you want to do,on the first day of class dont force your son to what in the scholl activity,whe he go to home you will need to teach him for the coming future,,son why the people go to school,just give him a time table to play or want his interest.
19 Aug 10
Facilitate your child's bonding with the teacher. Kids need to transfer their attachment focus to their teacher to be ready to learn. If you notice that your child doesn't feel good about his teacher, contact her immediately. Just explain the he doesn't seem to have settled in yet, and you hope he can make a special effort to reach out him so he feels at home. Any experienced teacher will understand and pay extra attention to him for a bit.
@shaggin (36281)
• United States
26 Aug 10
My 6 year old just went back to school today. She gave me such a hard time. She cried that she was scared. I came down stairs to go the bathroom and she locked herself in my room so I couldnt make her go. I wound up forcing her to get her clothes on and I didnt even get her hair brushed. Because of how hard a time she was giving me she wound up being a half hour late to school. The first day and shes already a half hour late lovely. After she got off the bus today I asked her if she had fun and she said yes. I asked her if she was glad that she went after all and she said yes but now that its almost time to go to bed she says shes not going to school tomorrow. I am so tired I'm probably going to go to bed early just to have enough energy to try to battle her again tomorrow morning.
• United States
19 Aug 10
REWARD SYSTEM! Okay, tell him that if he does what he is told and if he gets good grades in school that he will be rewarded. My mother used to do this with my brother and me. It's simple. He does his chores, gets good grades, and goes to bed when he is told, and you can reward him with something at the end of the month or the end of the term. The reward doesn't have to be too big, but it can be something that he likes, just make sure that what he likes is affordable. You want him to learn that by doing what he needs to and has to do, that good things will come of it in the long run.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
19 Aug 10
The best way not to argue is not to argue. It takes two to argue. Frustrating, yes! I had three sons and did daycare for 10 years. You learn to hone this skill. I agree with everyone here. Start the bedtime routine two weeks ahead of school disconnect or lock everything up that distracts him. When school has taken hold in his little psyche (about a lifetime after starting school) it will be easier. Teachers are used to this trend and know that all too many people don't do this to avoid the arguments or just don't care enough to give their children the very best!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
19 Aug 10
It isn't always easy to get a child in a back to school feeling. i know this from being a parent. I try to find something new and exciting for my child to look forward to in the coming school year. This usually works the best for me. Good luck!
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
That can be hard. We also had the same problem with our kid in the house since we let her sleep very late and play as she pleased during summer vacation. However, two weeks before classes opened we already warned her that all these pleasures will come to an end. We explained to her that she will be following the regular class schedule, has to wake up at a particular time and sleep at a certain time. A week before classes, we already started limiting her activities and when it was time for school, she embraced it like she really missed school.
• United States
19 Aug 10
My 9yr old has been playing his Playstation 3 since the begining of the summer, everyday and night. It has caused some serious battles at home. He also like your son stays up up late at night etc. Its not that I dont have the upper hand but sometimes just to avoid the drama and tears im like whatever. I mean its so bad with the video games that I beg him practically to go outside with me and hes like no I dont want to go. So because his schools requires the kids to do 2 book reports during the summer Im using that as my defense..LOL I made out his chart and told him starting Monday were going to the library and he has to start on his book reports and do math 3xs a week. Now as for the getting back to regular sleep hours thats a whole different story. So my advise to you is set it up something like that give a day/date and let him know schools starting by such and such day time on Xbox is limited, and start getting him up early so he will be more tired during the night, thats I plan to do. I also printed out math sheets from the internet give him a week of work for 3 hours out the day or what evers convient for you. But trust me I know what your going through!
• United States
19 Aug 10
I have my daughter going back to bed early two weeks before school. This will get her back to sleeping at night and getting up in the morning. I don't have to change much after that. it all falls into place.