is that truely love or just for fun

Philippines
August 18, 2010 9:30pm CST
hello!.... I have my cousin, she had a baby now, but the guy did not marry her because the boy's sister marry in same year so because of superstitious belief they did not got married last year. but now base on her statement she did not love the guy anymore but still they live in the same house. they visit there baby. but for her she is okey if they dont give the baby to her if she will come home. so what is in her mind just for fun? or what?
3 responses
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
babies arent suppose to be souvenirs. i think ur cousin was just infatuated with his bf it was a mistake she got pregnant she thought she loved him but then her feelings faded too soon. i guess shes too young for that and should not rush into things.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
yes she is to young in that time.she is 19 yrs old when she got pregnant.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I am familiar with that superstitious belief, it is called here in our country as "sukob". I think it's only a myth because I couldn't see anything wrong about sisters or brothers marrying in the same year. If that's God's will or if that's what makes them happy, then why not pursue the wedding, right? What happened to your cousin? Maybe she just got disappointed with what happened to them. Maybe she's expecting that they will get married but it didn't come to reality. Because of her frustration, she have neglected her duties as a mother to her baby. Or maybe, she overlooked her responsibility because of the painful incident. It maybe because she expected too much and all her expectations weren't met then. If I were you, I would suggest that you talk to her heart to heart. I am sure she needs a listening ear in all her concerns and the situation she's into at the moment. Ask about her plans. I am sure she loves her baby and she wanted to care for her. So, do the right move. I know you can do something to make her feel and realize that she is doing something wrong.
@bokal2703 (759)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
I guess when your cousin got pregnant, she wasn't really prepared for that. And now that she has the baby, she might be confused about her life even to the point of losing love to the father of her child. And maybe she acts as if she don't care because she does not want the responsibility of being a mother. It is sad that it has to be that way though because the baby is the one who will suffer for such attitude of the parents