The war between heart and mind. Who wins?
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
India
August 23, 2010 6:58am CST
This is about my feeling these days; my heart says to stick to one thing which might harm me in a long run however mind calculates things differently to save me from any possible harm. It is like a war within me, not able to follow singe one, neither heart nor mind because they both contradict each other in some cases. Mind wants things to be done based on only positive outcomes however heart thinks emotionally.
I believe there should be no calculation in personal life and mostly when it comes to maintain a relation. Also, I think that war between mind and heart to decide or go ahead with some decision is the root cause for most of the things happen in our life.
What do you think, is there any war within you between mind and heart?
if yes, who wins most of the time?
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15 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
23 Aug 10
I always knew what I wanted, but having the courage to go for it Never came into it until recently. So the war was like this . my heart would Want to do something, my mind would say, You could never do that! and I would do nothing. And I would turn my anger inward.Therefore I would get sick to my stomach. Now I see I Can go for it so mind and heart are together. I never wanted to do anything dangerous or anything that would break my heart.So I never had to choose between desire and safety.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
26 Aug 10
Really? I always lived the opposite. My heart tell my mind , I WAnt this or I Want to do this or that, my mind says Hey right! Like that is going to happen. But these days those things are happening!
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
I must say you have such a clean and clear thoughts on this. Sometimes mind is aggressive and think that we can achieve something which heart thinks is not possible. In this case definitely mind gains.
Thank You for sharing.
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@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
24 Aug 10
In Judaism we have an expression that "Moach Shalit ul Halev" which means intellect(the mind) rules over the heart. Our heart and mind almost always want different things and we are forced to make a decision and thats where the intellect kicks in and comes to rescue us. Certain times we need to go with the gut but more often than not we need to make sure we are moving in the right direction.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
I feel that heart is not wrong most of the time and its inner voice which guides us. So I prefer to go with Heart if there is any confusion.
thank You for sharing.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
What if both are against each other?
Thank you for sharing.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
23 Aug 10
This is a good question. I think my mind used to win a lot of times when I was a little kid and even when I was in school and college. Now, I have become more mature over the years and my heart started to wion over my mind. Also, I feel that compared to my young ages now my heart and mind agrees or come to the same conclusion or decision on certain things.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
Its good that you have less conflicts between these two, I feel this is rare to happen. I am not that good to have agreement between these two very often depending upon the situation.
Thank You for sharing.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Aug 10
The war between the heart and the mind is a constant battle. if you have no feeling or emotion, your mind will probably the way. If you let your passion and joy and even sorrow rule you, the heart will win the day. I am a romantic soul so i will always push for the heart to win any battle with the mind.@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
Good to know that you follow heart over mind. Hope you enjoy your hearty decisions and they are always positive for you.
Thank You for sharing.
@tkonlinevn (6422)
• Vietnam
23 Aug 10
There is a very good sentence that "when Mind and Heard against, we must listen to the Mind". I think it's right.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
Thats good to read or write but really hard to implement. Mind is calculative and may be it will decide some short gains but may have a negative impact in future.
Hope everythings goes well for all of us.
Thank You for sharing.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
24 Aug 10
I'm a least guy with less emotions..
I go with what my mind says...
I have had this situation like mind vs heart, heart takes such decisions that could be emotic..
But mind says what is correct and what is wrong and i move in the correct direction..
I never say, don't listen your heart, but when it comes in between , the mind says the perfect thing..
U see when there is a hot plate near you, heart says to touch it but mind says it's hot it should not be touched !!!!
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
If you touch a hot plate there is a lesson after that so heart made you learn something. I am not saying that knowing that plate is too hot and might harm you and still you go with the heart but if its not known just need to evaluate the situation and go with the voice.
I must say you seem to be a practical person.
Thank You for sharing.
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@novelcai (600)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
hi there dear..
heart and mind... hear and mind..??? how many times i also asked my self the same question as urs??,,,a lot!! and lots of times i failed.. because mostly decision i followed my heart and dont even think twice that puts me is lots of hard situation. but im still happy that in the end i still can manage my self by following what my minds dictates to me. i can sudgest that in every decisssion we made we need to combine this too and weight things and thinks not just twice but hundreds of times,.,
happy my lotting :)
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
Follow your heart and be happy. Hope all your decisions go well in your favor
Thank You for sharing.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I think its always the mind that wins cause the heart is controlled by the mind. Our brain sends impulse to our heart and the heart really doesnt feel anything but its still the brain. I think there's a reason why our head is on top of the body cause its suppose to control everything.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
Thats a logical response however I believe that Heart is again not very distinct with mind and it does connect with the mind before a conclusion.
Thank You for sharing.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
24 Aug 10
Hello this is the eternal conflict between heart and mind for every body, but it is usually the heart that wins over mind..at present i don't have such conflicts, i am happy and contented totally, busy in my own world..
Thanks for sharing.
Welcome always. 
Cheers. 
Professor
Cheers.
Professor
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
Good to know that you are out of all these conflicts and enjoying life.
Thank You for sharing Sir.
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
Hi, there! I believe that all the variations of our emotions come from our mind. Feelings are only attributed to our hearts because the heart is the symbol of love, but still the mind controls it. In every decisions we have to make we should always weigh things out. Let me say, we have to trust our instincts and pay attention to our inner knowledge. The heart and mind work together for better judgment.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
If they both come together, the result would be 100% acurate foor sure:)
Thank You for sharing.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
24 Aug 10
How can there be war between heart and the mind? Mind is an event and it only brain that works.Heart does not work. It is only a feeling that takes place in the heart. Physically the job of the heart is only to pump blood throughout the body by cleaning.It is a continuous act. But brain on the other hand thinks and it has no feeling. When we anylise it only in the mind that conflict is taking plce. Doing good or bad is the duty of conscience. It has nothing to do with the heart.The conflict is also due to our past experience. For instance a child does things whether good or bad. As we grow we begin to discrimate what is good and what is bad. We should do only good and avoid bad. It is not the mind or the heart that dictates. Ir is our experience
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
There is no physical entity which thinks other than mind but the feeling as you said differs, we have two things in bacend at the same time.
Experience is just another parameter to take certain decision and helps us to get the right one.
Thank You for sharing.
@kuaixueshiqing (161)
•
24 Aug 10
Stuggling between dream and personal desires is a exact situation most people in.I am also in this war. When there are something that I shoud do ,and they are good for the success of the way of my life, I can not contral myself to do something else,such as watching TV. I think it is because I havn't had a real target suitable for me and made my mind to achieve it.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
Watching Tv is again my problem as well, mind says go to study something new and heart says - let's watch some comedy things on TV Lol:)
thank You for sharing.
@heddadixie (37)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I go for the mind. After all, it is our mind who teaches us what is right or wrong. I guess following what you think is logical leads to less damage and remorse in the future.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Aug 10
Mind does a calculation and heart is just concerned about feeling and happiness.
Thank You for sharing.
@rosielleanne (121)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
The mind and heart really conflict each other because the mind always thinks of the pros and cons and the heart just always thinks of what it feels and where it thinks you will be happy. But when you decide on something big you should always consider what your heart and your mind tells you because in the end, it all goes down to where you will be happy.
