too soon to have another child?

Rjjavier, Children are gifts from God. They are blessings of God to a couple. Not every couple is being blessed with even 1 child so you should be happy to have your second one. Since God permitted you to bear your second child, I know He also have ways for you to support it. You only have to trust Him and pray to Him. Lay to Him your problems, do the best you can to provide for your family and shoot... God will do the rest. Just put God at the center of your family always and you will feel all His blessings. God bless.

You should ask yourself if you are ready emotionally for that move. If you'll have your baby adopted by your friend you should be 110% sure of what you're doing. If money is your problem then you should not worry that much and have faith in God. I've known lots of people who were able to push through despite their financial problems and they're now living the good life. Have a little more faith and pray always.

If your really don’t want to have another baby then you can of course go for MTP if its not too late. However, my experience says that if you can go thru a little more hardship, then you can have a complete family very soon. While I have only one child, I conceived when we too were going thru very very hard times. Both hubby and me were just into a job after being idle for nearly a year and I was sure that we couldn’t pull thru…but we did and that child is now 11yrs old. Look at the advantages you have…for one, both the kids would be nearly of same age and so you can always buy for the elder one and then use it for the younger one. Secondly, both would grow up together and keep each other engaged and that can be a huge relief. Thirdly, with a little hardship, you bring up two kids almost at one go…if you plan well after this, then you would be free to enjoy motherhood for a long time without getting pregnant again. All in all, I think you should go for this baby and stop after that.

Having 2 kids so close together is good. They can play together when they get older. You will only have 2 in dippers for a very short time. Things like the baby crib can go straight from one to the other. I know that babies should be in a crib for 2 years, but giving them a "big kids bed" early won't hurt anything. You'll survive and pull through.

Being unprepared for unexpected baby amidst the financial crisis is not a reason for not taking the responsibility of the child. You will never know, probably now you're in financial crisis, but that baby would not be given to you if you could not rear the child. It was meant for you, just have trust to commit yourself being a parent to the baby, and for sure you can get over these trials. A baby is a blessing and a gift.

When we had our first child, i was planning to have another one after 3 years. That's to make sure that we can give a lot of time to him. But my wife became pregnant after 1 year. I was afraid at first because it wasn't what we have planned. So we have another baby. And then a year after our second child was born, she was pregnant again. Well, what can i do, it's there already. So we have 3 kids in a row. So don't worry, your not alone.

I had my toddler son in 2007 and then I got pregnant again in 2008. My baby daughter was born in 2009. I found that I already had a lot of equipment suitable for another baby like a moses basket, a bottle cleaner and baby clothes. Some of the clothing was fine and my sister kindly gave me some baby girl's clothing. It might be possible for you to buy second hand baby equipment like a pram, a cot, clothing and washable diapers. You might be able to get some bargain stuff like bottles and toys for your baby. One of my friends had a baby girl born in May 2007 and then she got pregnant again. In May 2008 she had a baby boy born. She finds it wonderful to have two children so close in age. I know what a large age gap is like because in addition to my young children I have a teenager. My sister is five years older than me. That is a large gap. A twelve year or fourteen year gap are even worse. To have two children with similar interests makes for a happy house. Good luck with your pregnancy and I will understand if you adopt. Good luck.

Although it seems it is so soon to have a baby right now, but anyway you are already pregnant. This is the fact. I hope you can keep this baby. I know it is never easy to bring up a child. But just keep the faith and you can overcome all the difficulties. I always think nobody can love the children as well as their own parents. I love China

My husband and I know someone who had a baby about a year after she had the first one, too soon to have another child in my opinion. Of course sometimes these things happen and there's nothing to do about it but love the child and cherish it. After all the child is more important then any amount of money. You say your friend wanted to adopt your first child? It seems you had a change of heart after carrying that sweet precious baby for nine months and then holding it in your arms for the first time. Here in the USA and I assume for Canada and UK there are ways to get free diapers and things like that, lots of coupons, through the internet. I would suggest going that route if you can, and of course going to sites like ivillage to get advice from new mothers who are having trouble with finances as well.

Hi, It is actually a good news that you are pregnant with your second child,but unfortunately, you are not ready for it due to financial issue. However,since your friend intend to adopt your child,then it is a very good idea. You better have a discusion with your husband before making the final decision. Since your first child is already 10 months old, he might be able to recognize person and why don't ask your friend to adopt your second child. Of course, you can negotiate with your friend to pay for the hospital fee(when you deliver) and with some money for your family by adopting your second child. The main issue is to stay calm and then make the decision and it is best to have a open chat together with your friend's family and also your husband. At least,they won't have any misunderstanding and everyone can raise up their idea. You takecare and wish you have a good day!!

that's a tough decision to make.. i think you also have to consider the future before you decide on having your child adopted. will you regret it if you give away your precious child? you also have to consider other options. getting you child adopted is the easy way out, but maybe there are other ways, ways to earn money to raise both the children. remember, the life of your child is involved here.. i hope you come to a wise decision, instead of just a practical one..

Hello, I know that feeling, i have two child, one girl of 1 year and 2 months old, and a boy that have 3 months old, as you see the girl is 11 month older than the boy, and my wife is not working right now, because when the girl borned we decide that she can quit the job for be with the girl like a year, so she can teach her some modals, and after that year she can start working again, but we got the surprise that she was pregnant again. In that moment we were scared and worried about that, because of the financial things, and the health of the new baby, we are in a financial crisis too, but thanks for the help of about family we can survive about this, and our children have everything they need, right now i'm looking for a second job (part time) because the money isn't enough for the needs of the kids, and this is one reason that i'm try to make some money online. I think that you should talk to your family or close friends, so they can know your situation, and see if they can help in someway, not just money, help you to take care your child, help you in the house, maybe they know person that can give some used baby clothes, something like that. One thing that help us the second child was that we made a simple baby shower and in that baby shower the baby got a lot clothes and stuff, that help us a lot.