Do you have a good relationship with yourself?

@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
August 26, 2010 6:00pm CST
Some people seem almost incapable of spending time alone. I'm not talking about fear of someone breaking into their house or any other kind of fear, but of just not being comfortable with themselves. Such people have never developed a good relationship with themselves and always need someone to be with them. They like to hear others talking or at least the TV blasting. Being alone to them is like being with a stranger. Do you think that we all need to cultivate the habit of being comfortable with ourselves?
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@Shinobu (44)
• Singapore
27 Aug 10
Yes, some people. It's all because of us are different. As for me, I enjoy being alone sometimes, reflecting and just being with myself. But of course there are people who just cannot be alone. Maybe it's because of the culture or maybe the upbringing. So I think it's ok if there are people who really don't want to be alone. No need to make them cultivate the habit as what maybe good with other people may not be good for some people.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi shinobu, That is a very good point and thank you for sharing it. I do feel though, that the person who cultivates the habit of being comfortable with themselves are likely to be happier. Blessings.
• Singapore
28 Aug 10
Thanks pose123. Is it? Hope you are correct. Maybe I'll suggest to my friend. But it will be difficult as sometimes she will have the itch to still go out and be with other people. Thanks again.
@nicole00 (141)
• United States
2 Sep 10
Yes I have a great relationship with myself. I believe in order to have a good relationship with someone else you have to love and have a good relationship with yourself that is the only way things will suceed.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
2 Sep 10
Hi nicole, I feel that you are absolutely right and thanks for sharing. Blessings.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Aug 10
I do not mind being alone, even though I was married I was more alone and I got so used to it and started to prefer it I always loved my Children's Company and still do now but I do not mind being alone either
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi gabs, It does sound like you have a good relationship with yourself and I feel that's important. Thanks for sharing. Blessings.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Aug 10
Yes, I usually enjoy spending some time outside reading a book next to a big tree ,and I love to listen to the sound of nature.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi Mirita, That's great we need to be comfortable with ourselves. Thanks for sharing. Blessings.
• India
27 Aug 10
nooooooooo iam trying
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi salman, Keep trying. Blessings.
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
I love having time alone specially when there's a lot going on in my life. It makes me think of a lot of things, the problems that I'm currently having, and how I responded to these things. For me, having alone time helps make me know myself better, which will make me comfortable with myself. It really does a lot for me. Sometimes being alone makes me stronger, and that's when I know that I'm comfortable with who I am.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi rosielleanne, Thank you for responding and you have the right idea. Blessings.
• India
27 Aug 10
I think I would have to disagree with you on this one…as far as I know, I have a good relation with myself. Its only me who know all my strengths and weakness, what I’m capable of and what all I’ll carry with myself to the grave LOL…I’m very comfortable with who I am and I do talk to myself a lot. However, that doesn’t mean I can spend hours only with myself and nothing else. Absence of another human being is understandable but no TV or books or nothing to do at all! How then does one spend the hours…talking to myself continuously can actually make me mad…or whiling away time by thinking of bygone days or imaginary situations can have similar harmful effects.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi sudiptacallingu, I don't think that we disagree on this, anything is harmful if carried to the extreme. It's important to socialize but we should also be comfortable being alone in the silence, at least for short periods of time. We can read books and sometimes listen to music or watch TV, but I don't think it should always be necessary to have constant noise. Thank you for responding. Blessings.
@GemmaR (8517)
27 Aug 10
I love spending time alone. I don't like being on my own at night, but certainly during the day, I am much better on my own than I am with other people. I enjoy being with my boyfriend, of course I do, but I also love it when he goes to work and I have the day off, the feeling that I can do anything that I like, watch a film, eat some yummy food, and spend as much time on the laptop as I like, is really good!
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi GemmaR, It looks like you are very comfortable with yourself and that good. Thank you for sharing. Blessings.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
26 Aug 10
me, myself, and I is my best friend. i often talk to myself. if i can't trust myself with my words or actions. who else could i trust?? nobody! i really like this discussion! i'm so comfortable w/ being alone. althought this does not mean i want to always be alone, live alone, or die alone. but i'm comfortable with going out to eat alone, going to the movies. especially the mall alone. i do my best shopping alone. so im totally comfortable w/ myself. and i have a great relationship w/ myself!! happy mylotting & keep them coming!!
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi keshia, Thank you, your response shows that you are indeed a happy person. I think that we must all be comfortable living with ourselves, before we can have other happy and healthy relationships. Blessings.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
When the world is against me.., I have only myself left and God.., So I have to make sure that I know myself that well.., and I ave no problem with that.. I have a very good relationship with myself.., i reflect a lot and meditate too.., i spend a lot of alone times just to keep my head cool with the pressures around me..,=)
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi deve, Thank you for sharing this and having a good relationship with yourself is very important for spending time alone. I once read that unless you can say "I and God are alone in the world you will not find peace". I don't advocate taking anything to the extreme, we are also meant to be social beings. Blessings.
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
i am very much comfortable with myself. i am practicing the attitude of being reflective. in fact, i always see to it that in a day i could appreciate me for the great and good things i've done, i could correct all the mistakes i have made, and most of all i could offer everything i had/my life to my God. in this way i am gaining strength and confidence with and for myself.. i also love myself so much. every last pay day of the month, i am giving myself a gift! hehe.. ;) it is important to give time for yourself and be comfortable with it because in that way you can only have the confidence and believe in self..
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Hi noelynkoi, I agree that we all need solitude sometimes and it's necessary to have a good relationship with ourselves. We must remember of course that we are social beings and not carry anything to the extreme. Thank you for your thoughts. Blessings.