Who's the disciplinarian?

being a single mom, I have always been the one to discipline. The dad never wanted to because he only saw them on occasion and by his own choice and did not want to spend that time disciplining. It would have done no good anyway as he was not real involved. I think that both parents should work together on the discipline and major decisions in their kids lives. I don't think it should be left to one or the other.

Discipline should be enforced by both parents. There should be a prior understanding as to what is appropriate before the situation arises, i.e. does lying mean losing TV time or is there a time out chair? Discipline should be age appropriate, if the parents disagree this should be settled out of sight and hearing of the children. These are just some of things I have experienced. We all look for advice and there are excellent resources out there, both secular, Christian, and other religious and tradition sources. Just some personal thoughts on the subject.

what would be the definition for disciplinarian? we are both disciplinarian, i believe but with different approaches. we demand respect all the time. we do not impose but we express our disgust over things not right. when the kids were young, the scenario was different. it is easier to discipline young children. at the rise of one's tone, they scamper. but as they grow, it is a different story. diplomacy is required.

When i was growing up, my father was always the disciplinarian. My mother was just too soft hearted to give out punishments and follow through with them. When I began a family of my my own, it was my late husband who was the disciplinarian of the household. He was always tougher on the children than i was. Now i have to be the disciplinarian and it not always an easy job to do. My children know just what buttons to push and when to push them. Still, I take it in stride and do the best that I can for them.

I think it should be equally shared by both.., My parents were strict disciplinarians.., I used to hate that when I was young.. I felt so overprotected and I thought I was choking.., But then I was thankful they were.., now that I have grown into a responsible..,polite and God fearing individual.., It pays a lot..=)

i think it depends on who the child respones to.but it also depends on what the discipline is about. the father should be stronger with his words and action. but also i think it should be both parents set down and talk to the child and see why he or her did what they did.parents are busy now adays working and dont have enough time to set and see what is going on thier life.you to set a couple nights out of the week and set and have a family talk night. set down and have a dinner together. find out whats going on in eachothers life. make a family night.take time to be there.just to let them know you are there when they need you.