Hard to establish communication with older people

United States
September 2, 2010 4:36am CST
I guess when people getting older, it is hard to communicate with them, especially they are over the age 65 years old. At work, there is a man over 65 years old, who always want to hang out with our younger people after work, but the truth is we have gap between the age differences. Hardly we can communicate with each other. The subject he wants to talk about really not interesting me, nor to others. Even though he tried to understand what we want to talk about during our conversation, I knew that he has absolutely no idea of it. The ultimate truth is that he is lonely, that he has no children of his own. I just wish that he can find his own group of friends.
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9 responses
• United States
3 Sep 10
I would say you are correct as obviously he has no friends as why would he want to hang with a younger crowd at his age. But maybe give him a chance and see if he can be wise to some of the conversations you all have at the time. However if he is irritating so much maybe make it a point not to be so available and or suggest he find friends. If in face he is lonely he may be offended but you can't save the world but you can be nice in the process. Good luck
• United States
3 Sep 10
Just had a thought while I submitted my answer invite him to myLot as there are so many older men and women he can associate with. You can get a referral in the process as well. You know you do not have to answer to any of his discussion here by the way.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
For me it is hard if you don't love them if you love then you will find ways to have conversation in them then you find out it is good to be friend with them.
• India
3 Sep 10
Yes, old age can be a very lonely time, specially if one doesn’t have any family or friends around. While you are correct that its difficult for you young people to bond with him, do spare a thought for your own old age. We all will become old one day and there is no guarantee that our family and friends would be with us. We too may have to try and bond with strangers. So when this old person comes and sits with you, do try to adjust to him with an open mind. Its not that you have to spend all your leisure time with him…you guys can go somewhere else and hang out but do spend at least some with the old man.
@ynahh1 (454)
3 Sep 10
having this kind of situation required so much patient...
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
2 Sep 10
I agree he needs to find friends his own age but u might be surpeised what u can learn from him also. I am 68 & i don't think i'm hard to comminicate w/at all. I have friendsof all ages.
@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Old people tend to know much than the younger one. Well of course it is not always true, but of course with the idea of they are much older so they should knew much more than the younger one. And with the age gap, younger people could easily pick-up things that the older ones, most especially if you are talking about latest technology. So jut try to understand the old people. And have a respect for them
• India
2 Sep 10
You sound almost blunt when it comes to age group. I felt no age difference with very select elders who are very wise and lead an up to date life. Age is just a number and the thought process is what matters
@dollar3235 (2063)
• India
2 Sep 10
I must say, it could be very emotional for both of you. As you understand that he is alone and he wants someone to be with him, try helping him. We will be in his shoes in future, obviously, nobody will like to be alone like he is now. I feel, when you are above 60 both, brain and the body both get tired of this world and its conditions. It becomes tougher for people in this age to forget their past, particularly, those tougher moments of their life which still hurt them at this age. I would suggest you to get some time, read some jokes and a few other stories and discuss with him whenever you get the time. Try to make him feel special, believe me, even you will feel much better than now. Actually, I mean to say, put yourself in his shoes, you will come to know what you are supposed to do for him.
@ruperto (1552)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
It seems life over 65 years old is very unique ... For instance, - the body will usually manifest pain in many forms ... e.g. arthritis, gout, and many more - there are facts discovered at age 65 that may not be as hopeful as when one is e.g. 35 or 25 ... e.g. certain dreams may have not materialized etc. loss of friends and siblings will be a lot more frequent (relatively since people may die mostly at age 40 onwards ...) - mobility is an issue when one's e.g. muscle strength, eyesight and alertness may not be at high enough levels ... I'd consider giving older people a lot of consideration (without patronizing them?). There's a big chance many of us will grow old... What do you think?