Can boy and girl be just best friends?

India
September 3, 2010 12:25pm CST
I am certain there are the occasional instances of boy and girl being best friends...but what do you think...? can a guy and a girl be friends and nothing else? Can two people who really like each other on such a personal level not take it to a more physical level? Does one person always want something more from the relationship? And if they do, how do they take it to the next level?The question whether men and women can be solely friends is quite old.... and People have always been curious about the platonic relations between people of opposite sexes.... Please reply
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@jazzhere (137)
• India
3 Sep 10
yes a boy n girl can be friends of course true friend ship exists my dear frnd
• India
3 Sep 10
I know TRUE FRIENDSHIP exists...but I just want to tell you that "FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN OPPOSITE SEXES will sooner or later transform in to LOVE"
4 Sep 10
But there can be a exception. A girl and a boy, they know each other since they were kids, they grew up together. Maybe they choose to keep this friendship because they know each other very well and there is no attraction, no passion between them.
@vandana7 (63802)
• India
3 Sep 10
If a girl is as unattractive as me, and a guy as crazy as you, such things are certainly possible kiddo! :)
• India
4 Sep 10
hehehe lol
@34momma (13896)
• United States
7 Sep 10
i have plenty of guy friends who are just that friends. I think guys and girls can be just friend without there being anything else going on. I know in my life i have had planty of male friends who were just friends. but in all honesty what is better then creating a relationship with someone you are friends with first. Im just saying
• India
6 Sep 10
i mean why not??i have a friend of mine who is a girl and we are best friends.friendship and love are two different things.friendship can lead to love but not necessarily always.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
6 Sep 10
When I was in high school, one of my best friends was a male and I never expected anything more from him except for his friendship. We ran into each other four years ago when his mother tragically passed away. He told me then that I was one of the best friends that he has ever had. Now that I am married and with a family of my own, I still find that just as many of my friends are males as are females and that is just the way that things are for me.
@gdesjardin (1938)
• United States
5 Sep 10
I have several friends that are male that are just my friends. We have been friends for years (since high school). I guess with my male friends, I never saw them as anything other than friends. I certainly never saw them as boyfriend materials, or even husband material. My husband also has several friends that are female that he has known since high school as well.
@yugasini (12816)
• Anantapur, India
5 Sep 10
hi crazy poster, in my view best friend is best friend either it may be a girl or boy,we see the qualities in them about the best ness but not their gender,but we cannot believe either one now a days,people are becomming selfish,when the thing come to their,they may change their attitude about us and may turn against to us,so we pray god that give best friends always,have a nice day
• United States
5 Sep 10
I'm living proof that a man and a woman can be Just friends. I have a dear friend and he's a guy. I always felt more comfortable with guys. We have never taken anything further and we don't want to. He is like a big brother to me. But, I must confess my guy , boyfriend , Is my best friend. so I have lived it both ways. He fell for me way before I fell for him. We did start out as friends and he was patient and never pushed and now we are a couple.
• India
5 Sep 10
i think i seen this topic many topic and it is a obvious thing to say , a girl boy relation as a friend can you successful , and the society accepts it , untill they both understand each other ,and it stay as long as it can be ... but if any one of you felt to know more , then that stage would be the turning point of going further ....it happens to many in some stage .......so many friends juz convert their relation .........
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
5 Sep 10
Hi Crazy_posters!. There is always possibilities friendship between men and women. But there is big chance love come in the middle. I mean if you know someone really well and they give they support for you in bad times also make sure he always there for you. Don't you feel your heart moved by it and I thing there is no men in this earth who sacrifice many thing with woman if he don't feel something.
@Sphinx30 (286)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
Yes of course! they can be just friends but we could not discount the fact that somehow they would fall in love.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
Yup! It is possible that boy and girl being a best friends. Because only love affairs can make boy and girl having a relationship but friendship also... Have a great day!
• China
4 Sep 10
Hi crazy_poster How are you doing today. I really wanna tell you, before 5 minutes, I just thought about this, so I really would like to ask your question. For me, I dont think boy and girl could be just friend, I mean the real friend. No matter what people think, I do. I think if I broke up with my girlfriend, I cant be friend with her. I dont know why, but I just cant do that. Of course I know many people could be friend with his or her ex. It really vary from person to person.
@iamjesca (187)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
I think that it all depends on the situation because I know girls who have guy bestfriends and they didnt even take it to next level. If both feel that they were in love then maybe the should move to being as lovers than bestfriends. Its a good way that they started as bestfriends because they all know what are the likes and dislikes of each other. But the sad thing is if ever they break up. Most ended up having bad feelings about each other. I really think that whether or not they end up together the friendship should be preserved and that there will be not hard feelings at all. Lets just hope for the betterment of their relationship.
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
I always believe that girls always have a romantic expectations. However, if the guy is not doing anything, definitely, they can just be friends. It's always 2 to tango. Regarding the question if is it always that one person always want something more than friendship, my answer is yes although I don't think they planned it. It just happens. I do not believe that there's such thing as platonic relationship. I've tried it a lot of times and failed.
• India
4 Sep 10
Well,, i think they can be best friends and they can take their relationship to the next level by being so close to eachother and sharing their pains and happythings. im not sure about the physical level but everyone wants something more from physical level. The only thing that can take their relationship to the next level is to understand eachother well and have to be so close to eachother just like that sort of things you know. Anyway,Hope you like my view about this and this is my first repond to a discussion. hope i did well.
@redhotpogo (4368)
• United States
4 Sep 10
No. It may start off as a friendship, but it will turn into more. It always happens. So girls don't be surprised when your guy friends suddenly proclaim their love to you. And married women with husbands that have a "girl friend" lol. It's okay to do some snooping.
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Yep! i have a girl bestfriend and i treat her like my sister
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
4 Sep 10
*sigh* Seriously, what makes people think that all males must be attracted by all females and viceversa? It's pretty ridiculous to think that, so of course males and females can be just and only friends.
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
I believe so. Actually,I have more male friends than women. Our friendship also usually last for years. I think there's nothig wrong being friends with opposite gender. May be if anyone of them has a hidden motive in befriending with, that's probably a problem might occur.