Does it frustrates u when your sibling tend to be jealous of you?

Philippines
September 6, 2010 1:56am CST
hi I'm eve, and I'm kind of frustrated why my sister seems to envy me. it started when we were still young. everything i have, she wants to have it too. if i won something she wants to win it too. and now it became her habit that whenever our mom gives me something, she gets sad. like the last time i told her that our mom is going to give me a new cellphone then suddenly she cries so hard. she even said that why do they give you things so easily but why do i need to work hard to just get the things that i wanted? so i was stunned by her question.i tried to defend myself like because she have a good paying job and i don't. but she never stopped crying.I'm just sad due to the fact that i have nothing and yet she's jealous of me. i don't understand why. then she seems to be happy when i didn't get what i wanted.
3 responses
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
I understand how you feel now. I have 6 other siblings and our ages are never far, so i guess at one point we have experienced this. The good thing with my family is that my parents would explain to us why one sibling will be receiving this and the others won't. My parents will have to say that we have to share things that we have with the others so that we won't be fighting and if one gets something today because of doing something good in school perhaps, the other will be receiving something when he/she will also be doing something good the next day or week. Talk with your sister, perhaps you will understand why she is acting that way.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
7 Sep 10
Hi dear, It is bit surprising for me. If we are in the age of a child, we can understand the fact. But as she is a working women, it is nothing but pure jealous. If she is doing it from many years we cannot stop it now. But recently developed, make her to understand that you both are equal and for the parent and don't act just like a child. Tell her that as long as she is grown up and aged above 20, you need to behave and show the maturity with the age. Tell her that all are expecting from her and don't be silly on such things. Also, it is a kind of illness. Is she is elder to you or younger? If elder, of course, she might have different kind of thoughts and complex thinking’s. How is she for appearance? Good looking like you or little dim at beauty? This also may be a reason for the same. However, the best way is that make her understand. If you cannot do it, give the authority to any one at home like your brother or uncle etc. If she realise the fact, she may come alright slowly. For that her cooperation is a must and all need to be little bit careful approach can be resolving the problem. Best of luck and regards, Thank-s
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
ohh dear eve... how young is your sister? i mean,sibling rivalry goes out when we all get older and more mature as years pass by... if she's all grown up and still acts that way, i think it's not a good sign.. it's like she's fixated in one phase of her life...