How can people so selfish?

avani, I am really sorry to know that this had happened to you. Always help people on a premise that they would still be ungrateful, and never on a premise that they would be grateful. If you do then you will always be in for shock and surprise. If they thank you then think it was their goodness, if they don't then think what you thought earlier about them you were right. This would give a kind of satisfaction and you would never be disappointed. Have a nice day.

Maybe she's a hoarder and she's ashamed of her house. (I'm a Hoarder show buff.) Some people are recluses and don't feel comfortable letting someone in. Some won't ask you in cause their houses have been let go and it's embarrassing. Maybe it's not personal. Has she been in your house? You'll know if she's ok when you need a favor whether or not she's willing to help you out.

I would think that if she had moved from an old house or old place to a new house, that there would be a lot of boxes around on the floor. She probably did not have that much to give you to eat because maybe she was a horrible cook. Still I doubt that you would have minded seeing everything not being put away, but some women because of how they were brought up, think that you would. For instance my mother-in-law was the type where you could eat off the floor and i knew some people who had to prepare fancy cookies and cakes if someone came over and it looked as if you ere in a bakery. You could ask her that you would really like to see the inside of her new house and sound very excited about it.

Sadly, there are a lot of people like that. You could bend over backwards for them, but they can't even extend the most common, simplest gesture in the world. It irritates me a lot of the time, but life goes on. Not all people are like that, but I do admit that there are many people that are like that. It frustrates me and I am sure it frustrates many other people in the world. Being selfish is something that is becoming way too common all things considered. People expect the world, without doing even the most simplest thing in the world. It is rather sad and I just want to bang my head in the wall. Still, if these people don't get helped, then you turn into the bad guy. That is really a frustrating double standard to say the least. Life is just not fair sometimes.

That so disappointed.. She should say thank you to you. Maybe she's not a good friend., you can find another friend which is better than her.

i'd i were you,i'd to go to her new house whith no inbitation.have you ever thought about that she regard you as her family?maybe she thinks you are so close that you can go there whenever by yourself?tell her about it,maybe she is in worry,too!

I'm sorry about your experience, but I believe there are many people like this now. One thing I strongly believe is that you can never know a person's true character until the end. You may think you're intimate friends and both of you treat the other side sincerely , but all of a sudden, you realize that he/she never wants to befriend you. When that happens, you'll feel sad and distressed, and even don't want to trust others any more. I had the same experience too. I thought she was intimate to me, but it turned out that she never truly took me as a friend. Then I recollected what she did to me and realized she didn't deserve my friendship. So my suggestion for you is not to be too sad about it. It's a common phenomenon you'll have to learn to get used to it.

Hi avani, Some people are like that only, they need your service in difficult times and once that particular time is over they forget it and hardly remember about you in their happier times. I have used with this situation many times by now but I think then also I haven’t learnt from it because again I help people. Please don’t give much importance to this incident because God is great and you will get rewards from Him for your good deed. It is great for us if we can forget about the good things; we have done for others, in the very next moment. Let us try for that.

Oh my, I understand where you're coming from. Me too, I've met a lot of selfish people in my life too. Take for example, I have a classmate and he's kind of easy going but he's selfish. He volunteered to teach me but later on he said:"Ok, if I teach you I can also understand better". I mean, if he cannot understand, then he won't even be volunteering right? You get my point? Another incident is this, which happened many times. I was in a food centre, and waiting for my parents. Then two people came and sat down without even asking. I felt really pathetic for this people, who are so selfish. At least they could ask me if there was anybody sitting. But sadly it was not the case. I remained unhappy and gave them an angry face for their whole meal. Because of my angry face, they had to leave quickly. It happened a lot of times. I'm also quite upset that there are a lot of selfish people in the world.

Hi dear, dont be dispointed, things like this happen very often in our life, right? Just move on, there must be many landscapes in the future.

Selfishness is a nature of human being,but not all people lost decency,maybe you met a special one.

It is never late to realize that people are just selfish, I don't mean all of them, but usually some neighbors are like that. They just talk nice and behave as though there are also so nice as long as we help them in every need of theirs, and then when we need something, they turn their faces. I have had many such neighbors around and ever since i noticed that people around me are selfish, i try to change my behavior towards them, in such a way that I don't waste my time for them anymore. there is a limit for anything, whatever it may be, whether it be help , being good or anything you call it. it people cross limits we must change ourselves too.

i think this is some thing that some people like to have with their life ... we can't tel why they are like that because i think there is no reason for such performance form the others ........ some people are like that only are just thinking about the current situation only........ they really never want to think about what the others should wand with them........ so the better thing that we can do is just keep what is the real charecter of us.......

Certain people are born selfish. Don't let some other peoples's problem ruin your day. Do remember that it is their lost to forget you and not the opposite way around. Just think of the positive side of it, you can now save some money to buy her gift for her new house :p Be Happy!

Yes, people now a days are very selfish. Some are so by way of their inherent nature, others become so because of some of their fears, and some more people become due to some of their life experiences. Regards

I know you are feeling let down and sad by what your neighbour did to you. Actually, what did she or he did or didn't do to you? Didn't invite you to his/her new house? Is that it? It is best not to expect any reciprocal act when we help someone. But being human whom is full of emotion, I guess that it is very hard to do. Easier said than done. In my case, I find that most of my neighbours are really selfish. I will have to accept that fact as I live in the city. You see, I live in a linked house. And my next door neighbours would park their cars till they block my gate in which it makes me difficult to get out from my house. Some would even parked their cars in front of my gate till I cannot open my gate. Nowadays people just don't think or care much about others. They never think whether how they themselves would feel and act if people do the same thing to them. They are so self centred. The only thing they care is themselves.

This sounds like a common theme that I keep harping about in discussions here in myLot. I've noticed that a lot of people have developed a sense of entitlement, and decency has fallen on the wayside. My advice, take the high road and don't let this get to you. It's her loss if you don't continue the friendship.

I hope you do not let this incident taint you against all people. Some people absolutely have lost all sense of decency, but there are quite a lot of us that still care about people and their feelings. I am sorry you had to learn the hard way about some people, but now that you know how this person is you are better off without her and just move on with your life and learn from the experience.

I feel bad that you went through this. There really are selfish people in the world, and so much more become selfish because of them. I hope you don't stop being good and kind and considerate despite what happened with that selfish person. I was also betrayed by a really close (ex) friend of mine for selfish reasons. I just didn't think about it anymore and I moved on.

They become selfish when they need something and feel that you don't need it. Like if your not asking the feelings of others.