Is dating worth it in today's society?

Philippines
September 8, 2010 11:47am CST
Is it effective or defective? I think it is becoming defective nowadays since most people nowadays risk to date anybody and anywhere! I think you should be friends first with the person if you date him/her. What do you think? What is the difference between dating and courting? Do you know the difference?
5 responses
@Theresaaiza (9677)
• Australia
11 Sep 10
Hi to you... One thing I learned nowadays is that it is only you who can put meaning or "less meaning" to what you are doing. As for me, I try not to do things that I know I won't give any meaning to. Like dating any random guys I just knew on the internet or anywhere less personal. It is very important for me to trust that person first before I even go out with him. I mean, sometimes, we even come across people whom we thought we knew all our lives and still they end up disappointing us! Courting, as I understand it, is when a guy (okay, I am more traditional and conservative so it has to be the guy), expresses his intention to woo a girl, or to ask her to be his girlfriend or at least to take her out on a date because he has romantic feelings for her. Dating is the act itself of going out together.
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
I love this phrase: "One thing I learned nowadays is that it is only you who can put meaning or "less meaning" to what you are doing.", as you said. You control your own self and it is how you make it to happen. because dating is a choice to make. Courting is also a big issue to enter in. And marriage is a huge decision on making a lifetime commitment to the one you love. Me too, I don't date anywhere or anyone. I make sure that I know him first.
@bloggeroo (2171)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
Dating is part of the courtship ritual. I think it's the best way to get the attention of the woman. In any other setting, she'll probably be distracted. And I suppose the man will also be proving how attentive he really is. Anyway, dating is just a scene in the overall courtship drama. These dates will likely affect how the love story will unfold. The hero and heroine will have to decide.
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
SO true. When you date someone, better make sure that he/she is courting you, right? Because some thinks that dating is not connected to courtship... but it really is! And courtship leads to marriage, which will be the most big issue of all. Some date just for fun too... not thinking that he/she is already courting someone, ha! and never have an intention to marry that someone, because it is just a date anyway...
@derek_a (10903)
9 Sep 10
I don't date any more having been married for quite a few years now. I think it is definitely worth going out on a date and getting to know a potential partner better. Dating to me, is just going out with somebody, but courting is when both partners are interested in taking their relationship further, possibly even getting married. That's the way I see it anyway. _Derek
@bloggeroo (2171)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I think married people also go out on dates. It seems odd that courtship stops at marriage when the man and woman exchange vows. We probably don't call it dating anymore, but the objective seems to be the same. The man is being attentive and the woman is looking for attention.
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Dating is still the best way to know the other person better. Going on a date does not mean you now have a permanent relationship. How else will you know if you are compatible? What is scary is, when you carry on with relationship over the net, or through the phone or cellphone (via text messaging). How can you gauge the persons sincerity? There will always be risks associated in dating since we cannot tell the other persons agenda. That is why we take time to know the person and take precautions on whom we date and where we go on dates. Read between the lines and never let your guard down specially when you are just starting out. Is dating effective? Yes and No. Yes, because it lets you see the person better. It makes you understand him better on how and what makes him tick, and more importantly, if you share the same interests. No, because, depending on the other persons intentions in going out on a date, he or she may hide behind a facade to win the other person over.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
8 Sep 10
hello ktmatunog, Yes, dating is very fickled now with all the online sites and how people interact now online. It is very different when you meet them for the first time and getting to know them. A lot time the what they say online does not match there attude or values when you meet them. Even the telephone vs the cell phone is differnt in type of people you meet and what you talk about. I preferr the phone not a cell phone and cannot deal with intant messaging. To cold for me. I am old fashion in this regard but I think in long the the payoff will better once I you meet that person. Thanks and have a great day! Sincerley Unique16