Oh boy, I hurt his feelings !

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Philippines
September 9, 2010 1:12am CST
I was having a bad day in the office yesterday and when I come home I don't feel like talking to any of the people in my home passing through my housemate and ignoring his existence for a while. I didn't take my dinner and sleep immediately. The following day, he didn't make a move nor did talk to me. The next time I know he keep ignoring me. I ask for forgiveness and tried to explain, but HE DID NOT LISTEN. What would I do? I know its my fault.
7 responses
• Singapore
10 Sep 10
What's done cannot be undone. Perhaps you can try writing him a letter telling him what happened that day and you didn't mean to ignore him. If he doesn't accept, you can try asking other people to be your messenger to pass your message to him.
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
That's reallyy a wonderful suggestion ! I will try to do that... thanks for the idea.
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
you know time heals. There are people who are very sensitive.
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I also believe on that. Thanks for reminding me this kind of thinking.
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
In my own opinion, you better told that person to have a time to talk, only the two of you in a peaceful place. That's the time, you must talk all the problems about the two of you.Do your best to make that problem solve.If ever he will not listen,just ignore him,at least you do your best to make that problem solve. That's his problem if he will not listen in all your explanation.
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I already did talking to him, but nothing happen, lets see in the next few days, I hope its fine for both of us, thanks for the advice.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
If you already apologized and explain your reason for not talking to him the other day, then you've already done your part. Now, if he does not want to talk to you yet, let him be. Just talk to him again on the coming days. If he does not want to talk to you even after days pass, then it is his problem. I mean, why make a big fuss out of something you already apologized about? Plus it is not a big sin not to talk if you really had a bad day. It is better to be silent at those times rather than to offend someone. Don't blame yourself too much about especially you know your faults already. It will be his fault this time if he continues to be such a "baby" about it...
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
You're right, explaining my part is already enough, thanks for the advice.
@offkey (313)
• United States
9 Sep 10
Well I think all you can do, you've already done, You explained why you were behaving the way you did and apologized, you've done your part, He has to make the next move. If it were me, I would just say something like: I'm sorry ____, I was having a bad day yesterday, and didn't feel like talking, it wasn't anything against you and I'm sorry. That's really all you can do, if he doesn't want to except your apology that is his choice, just move on, hopefully he will to and things will get back to normal.
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I hope everythings doing well the next few days, it just that he is indeed very sensitive.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Sep 10
once more just lost all my response grrrrrrrrrrrr. I think you did allyou cou ld for the p resent., when he cools down more and gets' down off his high horse and speaks to you again, maybe you can add something more but for now let him recover and act more like your old roommate instead of a spoiled child. he he he. good luck and smile at him and talk to him as eventually he will quit pouting. lol
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
For me try to talk to your housemate and tell him why you ignore him that time. And ex plane that, that day is not a good day for you to entertain or talk to somebody. If he wont listen it's up to him. Are you the one doing wrong no!