the problem of listening to friends

Philippines
September 9, 2010 1:38am CST
people always tend to listen to friends especially those that whom they trust the most. they seek for advises on many matters and would always cause the good and bad things here are some problems of listening to friends in terms of some aspects: YOU MAY ADD IF you wish for other's sake: Many people rely on the advice of friends or relatives for their immigration problems, rather than consulting an attorney. Often, a friend’s “advice” is wrong, can mess up a person's immigration situation, and can put a person in an even worse position than if they had done nothing at all. The bottom line is that when you are sick, don't you go to a doctor? When you have a toothache, don't you go to a dentist? Then why, when you have a legal matter, don't you go to an attorney? If your child needed surgery, would you listen to the advice of a friend as to how to perform the surgery, or, would you go to a surgeon? If their friends tell them to commit fraud and submit fake documents, will their friends be there when things go wrong and/or when they get placed in deportation? Or will the friend say, “You need an attorney”?
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4 responses
@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
9 Sep 10
You've got a good point there. But, remember that listening to friends, or people, are part of our daily living. For example, when we are sick we have to go to the doctor, but we can ask our friends which doctor is good for us, or perhaps they've got information about good doctor we can rely on. So, what I want to say is; that will be fine to listen to friends, but we must understand that a smart person will not always follow what comes to him / her. We learn, we read, we watch, we observe. Listening to other opinions (especially from firends) will make us think, and the choice is finally up to us. You want to follow your friend's advice or not, it depends on your choice and your knowledge.
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• Philippines
9 Sep 10
that's right. i am just pointing out the other side of it. It’s common to want to immediately give advice and ‘fix’ your friend’s problem. Unless it's specifically requested, don’t. While you’re trying to help, what would work for you might not work for your friend; also, advice can feel condescending. Unless they ask directly for advice, your friend probably just wants to feel heard and understood, and then can find his or her own solutions.
@akn1961 (1035)
• India
12 Sep 10
i am good listner ,i speak less and listen more ,that is the way i avoid confrontation ,i am happy and wants to see every body happy ,thanks for sharing.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
9 Sep 10
We like to listen to our friends. We never want to think that a friend would give us bad advice. You have to use your own common sense and judgment when you listen to the words of a friend. Hearts often rule our minds. The choice is still ours to make when we listen to others.
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
9 Sep 10
You're exactly right that we go to professionals to help deal with everyday problems. The problem with professionals is that they are cost-prohibitive. That's why we tend to listen to friends. And the trust factor with friends makes us oblivious to the things that are in fact misleading. In cases like immigration and deportation, one shouldn't even take chances. And deal with a lawyer at the onset.