Why do people get so mad at me, just because I am being myself??
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
September 11, 2010 2:28pm CST
Can someone please tell me why is it that, these women that are at the bus stop get so mad at me? I am very quiet. When I come to stand at the bus stop in the mornings and afternoons, I don't say anything to anyone. I spoke to them one morning and they did not speak back, except for one girl. She smiled and spoke. My cousin and his girlfriend speaks to me a lot. I was standing in front of the tree, but now I only stand away from the tree. I stand on the side of the building where the ladies can't see me. I feel more comfortable standing here. I know that they got offended about this. I could tell by their behavior everyday since then. Can't women understand that not all women want to be friends with them like that. I have no problem with speaking or smiling. But as far as me being all up in their face, I will not do all of this. One girl told me that she can't wait until she moves from out of here. She said that the people out here stay fighting a lot and the adults will just sit back and watch without doing anything about it! She said that it just too much of drama that is out here. She says that she wants her mom and her two kids to move into a house. She does not like living in this "old apartments", so she calls it. She even admitted to another friend that the girl's look at her funny. I know that she is telling the truth, because I feel out of place when I am around them too. Moving from out of here would be the best thing for me! I don't have time to sit and kiss other people behind's just so that I can fit in.
One morning, I was telling my daughter to not cut in line. A girl was standing right beside me and she asked me what did I say. She had a mean expression that was on her face. I was not talking to her or to her child, if that is what she was thinking. I was talking to my daughter. I was looking directly at my daughter as she was getting on the school bus. So how could she think that I was talking to her?
I know what she was trying to do, she was trying to start a feud with me. She just wanted to have something to argue with me about. But I did not give her the satisfaction. Why can't women like her just be mature and stop acting so freaking childish? How can you not stand someone that you don't even know?
One morning, I was telling my daughter to not cut in line. A girl was standing right beside me and she asked me what did I say. She had a mean expression that was on her face. I was not talking to her or to her child, if that is what she was thinking. I was talking to my daughter. I was looking directly at my daughter as she was getting on the school bus. So how could she think that I was talking to her? I know what she was trying to do, she was trying to start a feud with me. She just wanted to have something to argue with me about. But I did not give her the satisfaction. Why can't women like her just be mature and stop acting so freaking childish? How can you not stand someone that you don't even know?2 people like this
10 responses
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
hello cream97!
in this world, you meet all kinds of people. some are nice, some are outright bad. it is just unfortunate of you to be living in a neighborhood where people are like that. Don't let yourself be pulled down to their level. Just avoid them at all cost or else, transfer to another area away from there. They are bad for your mental health. They are those who will drag you down in the quagmire of their existence.
you just have to understand that you cannot change what and who they are. you'll just have to change your attitude towards them, to save yourself from infinite harm.
anyway, you'll see a lot of their kind not only in your neighborhood but anywhere else you could imagine, so you had better equip yourself with the right attitude to ward them off, and not be bothered by them anymore, or else, you'll definitely be ranting about them all day long.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
12 Sep 10
Hi, deriellevc73. Oh, you best believe that I have seen many kinds of women and males that are like this in other places. I have seen negative attitudes in people other than where I have lived at. But these people I don't have to see everyday though. Now, these girls, I do. That is what makes it so bad.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Sep 10
Hi Cream
People now like to to know everyone's Business and they do not care how
People are constantly looking for Arguments for no reason I hate the world has turned this way, you can only rely on yourself unless you are lucky to find the odd good Friend
You are doing right by what you are doing and staying clear
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@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
11 Sep 10
Hi cream.. I can relate, i,m a person that basicly likes to stay to myself, and that can make me come of as snobby but i,m not.I see and hear how my neighbors talk about each other, and i would rather stay away from that drama.People act mean when you dont engage in negativity that,s just the way it is sometimes. all i can say is stay true to yourself and dont worry about what others might think.
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@momof3kids (1894)
• Singapore
11 Sep 10
They say when you relate a problem to a man, he likes to suggest a solution. I am a woman but i like to give suggestions. So bear with me?
Maybe you should find women who share your views and ignore those nasty attitudes. I hate to think that you are living in such a 'crazy' community.
My problem with some ladies in my community is that they think that they are better than me. They wont give me the time of day. It puzzles me. They do not strike me as people who are special.
Nevertheless I have befriended many other ladies who appreciates me. So despite of meeting those snobs every now and then, I am meet many ladies whom I like and who likes me. We have fun sometimes and it makes me want to live here forever.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
11 Sep 10
It happens this way sometimes. I often think that women like this have a complexity problem. Insecure about who they actually are, so they tend to behave in this manner either out of spite and or jealousy.
I with you on this one I would avoid them at all cost. You do not need any negativity by these types of people who obviously choose to be this way.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 10
cream there are alway narrow minded pushy people like that that think they can force any stranger to automatically become their friend by
just getting close up and personal and practically breathing on you.
most of us adults have a comfort zone and if you as a stranger push'
past that zone you will not make friends but instead antagonize us
This woman whom I barely know here at Gold Crest came up to me in line
grabbed my arm, pushed her face almost against my nose, and said,"
Its four oclock, arent you going to eat? I replied politely, I know the time and as soon as I get my money I will go eat. She tugged on my arm and kept at me, well arent you coming, its 4, time to eat. I suddenly
blew my top., I yelled at her, do not tou ch me, just leave me alone,
please leave me alone. then I pulled free from her. I felt badly afterwards as I am not a yeller as a rule. I was hot, tired,and had waited in line all afternoon to get the money coming to me after my rent and food was taken out.I was next up so I did not want to quit for the pleasure of e ating food that was not all that tasty. And I dislike some stranger yanking on my arm like that.I am just saying that strangers should not expect others to just fall on them with open arms as I am sure you also have a comfort zone and past that you get uncomfortable if a stranger tries to come all over you as a dear dear friend. I have a best friend and we either of us are comfortable enough to touch each other if say an insect is crawling on the other person, but we do not grab onto each other. we respect each others comfort zones. I would ignore these women as they seem to be unfriendly anyway.
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@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Sep 10
There could be all kinds of reasons why these women treat you this way. Some people don't want others knowing their business, some are stuck up, others don't have any people skills, or they are jealous of other women. People can be very weird. You are just as good if not better than they are. I wouldn't let it bother you too much. If I don't feel comfortable with people I don't push it. If I get a bad vibe I stay away from it. I wouldn't worry too much about it. It is their problem not yours. As long as you are being polite then I wouldn't worry about it. It's their loss.
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@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
11 Sep 10
Sounds like they are very narrow minded and not very nice people. You should not be expected to do anything to please them. I don't blame you for separating yourself from them. You had acted friendly at first to them and got no response, so why would you bother to try again. Some people just go through life thinking they are better than others, for whatever .reasons. That doesn't make them right. I would continue to ignore them, just as you are doing. Unfortunately, you find people like that everywhere these days. Hope everything works out for you, you seem like a nice person. :)
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@BRIIENA (23)
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12 Sep 10
This is a question I have asked myself my entire adult life, and for the first time the other night at work one of my co-workers asked me the same question...why dont people like you when you are a very nice and considerate person. I have come to the conclusion that the people who dont like me for being me is not worth my time or consideration. Yes I have a small group of friends, but I can say that they are my true friends. No, this was not an easy step for me, but it has added value to my life and taken away alot of stress.
