I do not think that people can have a good relationship without trust

@jugsjugs (13045)
September 14, 2010 5:34pm CST
I think that people either trust each other in a relationship,or there is no point.My husband trusts me 100%,mind you who can blame him,as everytime i use to go out it was always with either two of my friends to meet up with others or a group of us,he was the one who had to pick me up on alot off occassions aswell as was made to come into the pub to have a drink before he took us all home.I also trust him aswell as the only time that he is not with me he is at work,or collecting one of my children.So neither of us get the time,let alone would ever need or want anyone else.I know that even in old age he will be there for me in sickness aswell as health.
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
there are a lot of things we need to have a good relationship and trust is one of those things and one of the important too. when the trust fades away you no longer enjoy the absence of the person for the miss feeling turns to be feeling uneasy of what that person is up with. the missing feeling gets different and the seeing again has a different touch as well. i am a musician and my wife trust me although she knows that there are a lot of temptation in my work for she is a singer also before. but she trust me and on the other hand i dont break that trust too. trust is like a chocolate bar ones it melts already you can no longer bring back its look and ots appearance.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I am a firm believer that trust is needed for any relationship to survive. If you don't have trust, the relationship is doomed from the start. The bonds of trust strengten and enrich your relationship. If those bonds of trust are aver broken or betrayed, it's hard to get the relationship back.
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
I agree that trust is so vital in a relationship but i just can't help it.. It's just that i could not trust my partner 100% because of his attitude towards me. In fact i just found out that he is in a relationship with other woman and mekes me feel so sad and dumb.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Yup. No trust better dont enter into relationships as you always get paranoid that your hubby is hanging out with someone else.
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@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
15 Sep 10
Hi jugsjugs, You are very fortunate to be in a trusting relationship with your husband. It is true that trust is a must if any relationship is going to survive. However, in some relationship when one partner put his or her trust in the other partner who is not being faithful, it leads to mistrust in the current relationship and future relationships, which is not fair to the new partner. It would be a beautiful world if all couples could have such a beautiful trusting relationship as you and your husband. Unfortunately, we know that some relationships have no trust at all. The partners are always suspicious of the other partner's comings and going. Instead of ending the bad relationship, they stay together and constantly fight about each other's suspected cheating. The lack of trust in any relationship is sure to be a big factor in the ruination of the relationship.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
15 Sep 10
To me, trust is the most important part of any relationship. No matter how emotionally involved with you I am if I can't trust you why bother, sooner or later you are going to cause me great pain.
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@thexu_06 (29)
• China
15 Sep 10
that's right.we need trust.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 10
You have a healthy relationship all right because of the trust you shared with each other. Congratulations for a better and understanding husband. Trust is really an important factor in a relationship; if it's destroyed, well the consequences are always bad.
@qianyun6 (2069)
• China
15 Sep 10
Of course you are right, I agree with you 100%. Trust in each other is the base of relationships. How can you sleep beside a person who you don't trust him/her at all? If one doesn't trust his/her partner any longer, it's better for him/her to divorce than to watch out.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
15 Sep 10
U are very blessed to have that kind of husband that u can trust like that.
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@nyxy2008 (112)
• China
15 Sep 10
If there is no trust between husband and wife need not continue to live,friends,theres is no reason to contact
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• United States
15 Sep 10
Personally I do not feel it is quite a relationship without trust. One can muddle through and pretend to get through trust issues but really become miserable and make the entire relationship miserable. I suppose people can be in relationships without the trust but frankly friend I feel that is no relationship but more of a sad circumstance as how in the heck can a person even breathe with the though the partner is off doing something wrong.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
15 Sep 10
I agree that a good relationship is based on trust. My roomie has had her trust betrayed again and again, and still she is willing to trust. I like to think I'm trustworthy and I hope to remain her friend and retain her trust. it is JUST a friendship, but since even members of her family have betrayed her trust, I'm honestly surprised that she is still willing to trust anyone, and considering the number of friends who have let her down, she's learned that if I can, I will be there. She tells me that she doesn't mind if I say no when she asks me to do something, but I like to do for my friends and have seldom told her no. She knows that I won't say "yes" and then let her down with out a REALLY good reason - like a car breaking down reason.
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@m_perez (506)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I completely agree. Trust is the basis for a strong relationship without it, eventually the relationship will collapse. I have seen how people are obsessed over knowing what his/her boy/girlfriend is doing or if he/she is cheating on them. Then their partner becomes upset because she/he won't stop checking up every once in a while. It's just not healthy to start a relationship without trust.
• Portugal
14 Sep 10
you are right^^ if you are with someone that doesnt trust you there is no point in be with this person^^ i think just like you^^ if we love someone we have to trust.we cant be with someone if we always think they are cheating or something. that will just make arguements all the time and sooner or later the relation will end. anyway im happy that you and your hubby trust much in each other^^ thats a very good thing^^ and is great that you say he will always be there for you and that neither you neither him need somebody else to be happy^^ it just shows that you are very happy together^^ wish it be like that forever^^
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Sep 10
Trust is almost as important as love in a relationship. I trust my wife 100% even though at the moment we are living in different countries. She also trusts my, but more importantly, I believe our love will be stronger, if that's possible, when we are reunited in December.
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@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
it's hard if yo don't trust your partner. it's either jealousy or lack of self-esteems for you partner (like you don't trust his capacity or what can he do). If this is a current situation for a couple, then their relationship will never go forward and it will just revolves around fights due to misunderstandings.
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• United States
14 Sep 10
I have to agree with this, I think that all relationships should be based on trust. If you do not love and trust the person that you are with, then you should not be with them. I think that any and all relationships should be built on love and trust. Communication is also key in a relationship. If you two don't communicate well, if you don't have things in common, and if you cannot come to agreement on certain things, then it is doomed relationship.
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@doormouse (4619)
14 Sep 10
i trust my man 100% aswell,although when we met he was married and had been for 33 years,i know he cheated on his wife with me but i still trust him,we've been together 6 years and i know he would never leave me for anyone else,the only reason he'd leave would be because he wasn't happy,not for another woman,some people think i'm stupid believing what i do,but i know he won't cheat,and i would never cheat on him,coz i love him
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• Philippines
2 Oct 10
in going through or entering on a relationship, there are lot of requirements to have a best and perfect bond with your special someone. not just only trust, but also having faith, respect, honor, care, romance, sweetness and many more~ I was thinking of having those traits first and practicing all of these good acts for my future special someone. But it is really nice to hear that among good relationship, love keeps both alive :)
@fherfher (259)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
I strongly agree with you. One of the most important things in a relationship is trust. Without this you cannot have a healthy and strong relationship with your partner. If you don't trust anyone, you are like paranoid that you suspected everyone is cheating you or not doing any good. So the outcome, you will confront the person and will cause the misunderstanding that sometimes leads to serious fight.