Would you sacrifice your own happiness for others or for your family?
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
September 19, 2010 2:24pm CST
A pleasant day to all,
A lot of people claims that it is really difficult to be happy. Especially if you are tasked with a big responsibility. Particularly if you are the bread winner of the family where you belong.
Just like my friend, she almost sends her earnings for her family. For almost 8 years working overseas, she does not have any penny saved in her wallet. As in, she sends every single penny she earned. She will just pay the rent and buy some foods to eat for a month then she will send what has been left after deducting those expenses and payables.
And now, she is not getting any younger, and it is only now, that she starts to save.
I truly admire this friend of mine. For what she has done is truly commendable. However, I also told her, perhaps, it is more best if she have had save a least a single penny before. Since, she will get old eventually. Nonetheless, what my friend did is truly a marvelous act.
How about you, would you also do the same just like what my friend did? Are you willing to sacrifice your own happiness and joy for the sake of others? Are you willing to do a sacrifice for the sake of your family?
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5 responses
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
wow,your friend is really a hero!
well,it was an obligation of every child to help their family out whe they do find a job. they will always do anything to sacrifice to make their loved ones feel comfortable. i know it's such a hard thing to do but when it is for our own family's sake,you'll do anything and forget about yourself for a while just for them to be happy as well.
i don't have a job right now,but i do take care of my sister's child which is very hard for me.my sister is the one who works and she is a single mom.so,here i am,doing some online stuffs to earn at least for my own.sometimes i felt like i was a prisoner of our own house.but i have to sacrifice also,for them.
well,it was an obligation of every child to help their family out whe they do find a job. they will always do anything to sacrifice to make their loved ones feel comfortable. i know it's such a hard thing to do but when it is for our own family's sake,you'll do anything and forget about yourself for a while just for them to be happy as well.
i don't have a job right now,but i do take care of my sister's child which is very hard for me.my sister is the one who works and she is a single mom.so,here i am,doing some online stuffs to earn at least for my own.sometimes i felt like i was a prisoner of our own house.but i have to sacrifice also,for them.
@neverbethesame (27)
• United States
19 Nov 10
I rarely think of me at all, and never first. I've never had the financial means of doing something like your friend, but I've sacrificed emotionally. When it was discovered that my health issues were directly related to a sometimes violent childhood, I chose to keep it to myself. I cared for my parents in their last years and I never told them that I suffer because of things they did. I also never pressed charges after I was assaulted a few years back because I didn't want to cause more trouble. So sometimes, looking at myself for example, I think it can go too far.
@jvculanagF (66)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I am willing to sacrifice. Sacrifice my own happiness for the sake of my family. I really love my family and if I think about all the good things they sacrificed for me, for 17 years of existence, for me to live in this world, I'll pay them back by love and care.Set aside the things for myself and just focus on my first priority which is my family. And I think, I will do the same thing, as what your friend did.
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
19 Sep 10
Hi airasheila, frankly speaking i don't sacrifice my happiness to others. But, i definitely sacrifice my happiness to my best friends and my family only. Because, i am here to respond your discussion, these all happened to me with the help of them only...
@chillpill90 (1936)
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19 Sep 10
I always put others peoples feelings before my own i always put those of my partner before me. I do not put my feelings first unless it is on a subject that is very sensitive to me. I belief in putting others first and always do this when possible.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
19 Sep 10
I think the idea of having a family in general is a sacrifice. My parents and grandparents sacrifice for me and in return I give them what they need when I can. At the same time, I have my own family which causes me to sacrifice.
I think it's easier for me, as the wife/mother to sacrifice for my family than my husband. My husband is not very financially inclined, so he has no idea what's going on with bills and such. All he knows is that he has things he wants to get done, things he wants to do, and things he wants to buy, and he's the only one that really has a job currently, so I don't tell him no. Instead, I take away from something else to get what he wants. If I shop, I buy maybe a couple things for me, but the bulk of the items are things he wants to eat. If he gets birthday money from parents or family, he can spend it how he wants. My birthday money goes towards bills or the family.
I wouldn't say I'm as self-sacrificing as your friend. That type of kindness takes a lot and really says a lot about a person and not many people are capable of it (myself included). While I try to think of my family (parents, grandparents) as much as possible, my immediate family comes first.
