how can i be strong enough to face all this trials in my life?

Philippines
September 20, 2010 7:03am CST
i really described myself as strong person as a steel especially when it comes to my family.i am a 3rd daughter in the family, i have one older sister, one older brother, and my younger sister.my mom was separated with my dad since i was in grade 3 and living our life without the presence of our dad is very difficult. my mom is a part time teacher and raising a four children now a days is not that easy.my older sister married her husband without finishing her studies and haven't got any course.i am nursing student and haven't finish my college too due to financial problems.my brother finish his course with my help as i decided to find work and help my mom in everything.my family is my strength and they are also my weakness.i don't have a job now and i feel hopeless and useless.but i want to teach my siblings how to be independent too. the same thing that i did before up to now.how they would know how to find work if i'am there to give and provide all that they would asked? right?we are all at the right age and we all know know what is wrong and what is right and i know they also knows how to be responsible. do i have to earn not only for myself but also to provide and give what they will asked for?or i must teach them a lesson to be responsible too even to their own needs?
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10 responses
@Metatronik (5855)
• Pasay, Philippines
21 Sep 10
Sorry to hear that from you. My question here is where is your Dad now? Why did they decide to be separated and leave all of you with your mother? Well what is their reason of not working? You have to know their reason first. They can actually apply in call centers.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
My dad have his second wife and have two kids with that other girl.But my mom was still married to my dad..my mom don't want to bother dad anymore..but when dad left us, even a single centavo dad don't gives us..we have to go with our mom as we are all close to mom as my dad was a former OFW and we haven't spend much time with dad since we are still all intact..
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Wow your a great sister and very responsible too. It's ok to share what you have to your family, but consider also your needs, not necessarily the wants. Allow your big sister to support her family, prioritized whom who will help first like your mom and your other dependent sibling. You may also encourage your brother to work and at the same time study, so that you will not have a hard time fulling your needs as well. I'm So proud of you yuki, someday you'll be blessed with the good things you have done to your family. Be strong and live life to the fullest even if you have a lot of responsibilities on your shoulder.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
thank you beauty_denia..i am also sometimes thinking that "its time for myself" but when it comes to my siblings and mom i cant resist..i don't know..
@neil07 (9)
21 Sep 10
trials are part of daily life it comes when some one are not ready to face it , every time you beat the trials, another chapter of your life will open and trials that you past in previews that's make you strong enough to face another trials that will come to your life, trials make by GOD to teach how to speak or to communicate w him..
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
i am a person who learned a lot from my previous experience as i could make it better in another that comes my way..i always bear in mind that i am not alone in this..i know GOD is guiding me always..thank you neil07 ^_^
21 Sep 10
you know what to do..your just confused if you're going to risk or not..no one can really tell the consequence of the action that you'll decide to make..just do what you think will help more and is best for everyone..
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
yes..exactly.. i was confused if i will be going to apply abroad without finishing my college as i have lot of experience in different fields of work here, or must finish my college without any assurance i can make it through graduation..college now a days is not that easy..
@se7enthbird (8330)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
life is like school you live you learn. but we need also to make sure what we learn is we also teach to people we care and people we love. since you said that your other siblings are at right age then you can all make a share. they can also perhaps get a job and help with the expenses. you need to teach them to be responsible and on the other hand be supportive also to other members of the family. this trials in life is much easier to bear when shared. remember more heads are better than one and it applies with hands as well. goodluck.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
i am always saying that to my siblings too..to be independent and telling them we should help each other so that everything will be easier..i know we can make this through..thank you se7enthbird ^_^
@LaurenInLA (2273)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I don't think that there is anything wrong with you trying to help your mother out but I do believe that each of your siblings does need to learn to take responsibility as well. You should find a job and go back to school part time. You should advise your siblings to do the same thing. You will earn a much better income as a nurse and will be able to contribute even more to your family. Because I lost my father at a young age, I had to pay my way through college. I went to school and worked at the same time. At the time, I resented that I had to do it but as I grew older I realized that I had the opportunity to learn a lot of valuable lessons. For one thing, I truly valued my education because I had to work hard to get it. Good luck.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
i am looking forward to finish my school too.but i think for the situation now i cannot finish my nursing course.just maybe a short course..thank you for your response.^__^
@melanierg (130)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
i can relate to you yuki because we are quite in the same situation before.. and what i did was help my family, especially my father. i gave him my payroll card and he's the one handling my salary, i'm okay with this situation because i know that they worked hard for me to graduate and now i think it's payback time and as long as my father needs my help in paying our bills and all , i'm gonna be okay with it, i'm doing this one for him.. as for my siblings.. i think i have no further obligation to them.. i guess they have their own lives and they should be responsible for it, but if i can help in any way that i could, i will . hope this'll help you, goodluck in finding a job.:)
@sender621 (14970)
• United States
21 Sep 10
We are never given any trials in our life that we can not face. Some trials are harder to bear than others. We can gain strength to overcome. We may not think that we are stgrong enough to deal with a situation. Somehow that strength will be there for us when we need it. Sometimes we may need a little support and encouragement from others to find out how strong we really are.
• China
21 Sep 10
wow,you are really a good sister.you are responsible to your family,you work hard.And,I want to tell you that college life is a necessary part of life.You need to make a balance between your family and your dream.Also,I think college life is more important.After graduate,you can find a better job and earn much more to provide your family.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
you need to do it first as their model so they would look to you and not just say it in words or else they would not be motivated to do it alone.Since your the older or with just a slight gap in age you could talk to them about the family need to cooperate and find other source of income in such a nice way without being pressure so they would like the ideas of being responsible that they could help the family at the same time they could be proud having to earn money from their own hard work.