What do you want in a lover?
By writersedge
@writersedge (22563)
United States
September 21, 2010 7:00pm CST
I like my hubbie. He's in love with me, there for me, and very sweet. He rescues me from some things I do including loose things and hurt myself cooking, etc. I love that after years of being married to me, he still loves me.
What do you want in a lover and do you have all those qualities or are you still looking for then?
6 responses
@charmaine36 (145)
• Jamaica
23 Sep 10
A lover should be someone who truly loves me for who i am and is not afraid to show it. Someone who is supportive and caring who makes me feel cherished and special.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
23 Sep 10
That sounds like an excellent description to me. I hope you find that person. Thanks and take care.
@mksgamon09 (21)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
Ever since i really wanted to have a girlfriend which is caring, loving me too much as who i am. I want her to be the greatest cook because I'm a person who loves to eat. All I wanted is to have someone to be with, someone who knows how to understand me, someone whom I can lean on, someone who says no when she knows I'm doing wrong, someone whom I can share my thoughts, feelings, experience and breath to sum it all up I want someone whom I can call mine and mine alone.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
22 Sep 10
I think wanting someone to share your life with is a wonderful desire. I hope you find that person. Welcome to Mylot, I see an 8 after you name.
@GardenGerty (157674)
• United States
22 Sep 10
I am not looking, my hubby is right for me. He is intelligent, and kind, and calm and cuddly. I can confide in him about anything, big or little. He wants to be with me, and not somewhere else, and wants me to be with him. I need him, but he needs me too, we are a good fit, as far as personalities and strong traits go. It is not that we never disagree, we just know that as people we are more important to each other than winning disagreements. He is a keeper. O, and yes, he loves me, and that is very important.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
22 Sep 10
Sounds like we're both lucky. I mostly had this discussions for the younger ones and the ones here that aren't as lucky as we are. Thanks for your response, maybe someone who needs it will read it.
@comeonmolly (828)
• China
22 Sep 10
Dear writersedge,
I still no not have a lover,;(
If I have a lover I want him to have such qualities as your hunsband has.
The first quality I want my husband have is "he must be a good man",I do not care so much about the physical appearances but rather ,I care more about wheather he has a "kind heart".
I aslo want him to read more books and know me well ,we can confiede to each other ,seems like good friends .
I also want him to learn cooking ,and how to do the house work ....
Seems so many requirement .These days I watched some TV show concerning choosing boy friend or gotrl frend.One of the teachers said that "before you find your hunsband or lover,you have so many requirements ,wheras,the time when we meet the right man perhaps all these frame we have built will vanish automatically"
Molly;)
If I have a lover I want him to have such qualities as your hunsband has.
The first quality I want my husband have is "he must be a good man",I do not care so much about the physical appearances but rather ,I care more about wheather he has a "kind heart".
I aslo want him to read more books and know me well ,we can confiede to each other ,seems like good friends .
I also want him to learn cooking ,and how to do the house work ....
Seems so many requirement .These days I watched some TV show concerning choosing boy friend or gotrl frend.One of the teachers said that "before you find your hunsband or lover,you have so many requirements ,wheras,the time when we meet the right man perhaps all these frame we have built will vanish automatically"
Molly;)@writersedge (22563)
• United States
22 Sep 10
I agree with you that a kind heart is more important than looks. My husband has a very kind heart and a wonderful sense of humor. Most people don't think he's very good looking, but that shows how little they know!
I disagree that all the requirements go out the window. Superficial ones like looks or over a certain amount of $ for an income might, but important ones like kindness, caring, understanding, and communication, those should never vanish.
Great response Molly! Thanks for dropping by. Long time no see.
@celticeagle (159572)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Sep 10
You are a lucky woman. I don't think I was meant to have a man in my life. Not for long anyway. I would love a guy with all the qualities you mentioned. And one who hadn't given up on life. I gave up looking afew years ago. Am helping my daughter raise her son and I have no place in my life at this time for a man. Any more on my plate than I have right now and I would go screaming into the night.
@celticeagle (159572)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Sep 10
Thank you! You expressed exactly what it is for now. I hope I have time left to go enjoy womanhood again. I don't feel very womanly at this point in time. Overweight and with a ongoing stress rash is no fun. Then you add to that the severe depression and panic attacks. Need I say more? What man wants to be a part of that. And little boys will attitude problems to boot! Ugh!!!!!!!!
@celticeagle (159572)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Sep 10
That all sounds great. When you have social anxiety, panic attacks and severe depression it is alittle difficult to think about doing any of those things. I look forward to some financial perk at some point. Have to rob a bank to attain it though. LOL I was going to a fitness center and lost about 35 pounds last Spring. THis Spring I got to scramble and find a place to live. My life is too chaotic and I can never get onto a level period where I can get it together enough to do anything.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
24 Sep 10
Sorry, I wrote that wrong, Senior Citizen center, you pay the $ and there are fitness classes and stuff at the Senior Cit. center. Way cheaper to do that for a year, we can pay that much a day at a fitness center.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
I though finding the perfect guy was easy..but no it wasn't! I am not looking for anybody right now because for me my bf is the one. I love him because he doesn't have the qualities that i 'thought' would make me be contented with a man. He loves me so much, he cares for me a lot, he respects me, he treasures and adores me, he trusts me, very kind to me, is always there when i needed him..i think he has everything a girl would really want.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
23 Sep 10
You're right, it's NOT easy to find a great guy. Sounds like yours right now is pretty excellent, may your relationship stay wonderful. It's good to hear, thanks and take care.
