Teenagers getting angry and irritated very easily

@ajithlal (14408)
India
September 22, 2010 9:55pm CST
How do you deal with teenagers who are getting very angry and showing less maturity and getting irritated very easily? I think some teenagers show good behaviors while some shows some behavioral problems. What do you do if you come across a teenager who shows less maturity and gets angry very easily?
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@lkbooi (16104)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 10
Hi ajithlal, it's true that teenagers getting irritated very easily nowadays. I wonder whether what has caused them to become like that. They are impatient and would shout to people even their elderly rudely. Might be this is due to undesirable effect from watching certain movies, mixing with people who would get angry going along with their bad behavior Moreover many young parents do go lose with the moral education of their young kids Happy posting
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
23 May 12
I think something need to be done to make them calmer and teach patience. I also think movies play a lot of things in life of teenager. I think some movies creates violence in teenager and there should be good motivational and inspirational movies around rather than violent movies.
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@lkbooi (16104)
• Malaysia
6 Jun 12
There is another reason as ajithlal, you know nowadays many are chasing after wealth and luxury life. These make the parents lacking of time to take care of their kids since childhood. Kids are mostly smart and mischievous. The busy parents depend on their respective parents or babysitter to raise the children. May be sufficient vitamins and minerals they learn new things very fast especially indecent things from the tv, and .... Many elderly persons tend to coddle the kids until many are spoiled when they grown up. Yeah, without appropriate caring and parental love as well as home teaching, children and youngsters are mostly emotional and not in the fine temper. It's not saying that all the elderly would coddle the young but this would happen involuntary usually. I know this very well for one of my husband's side nephews happens to be in very bad temper and would shout out loud often when thing not ongoing smoothly. I suppose this is mostly due to the grandmother had been overindulging him since his very young age Happy posting
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
10 Jun 12
Yes most of the teenagers are looking for easy money and ways to make easy money. I wonder what will happen to the next generation with the temper and getting irritated and angry very easily in life. Most of them has not worked hard in their life and I think that is one of the reason for it.
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@djbtol (5502)
• United States
23 Sep 10
patience is needed. Try to understand what issues they are dealing with and look for clues if they won't tell you much. In time, they will welcome a discussion with you and a chance to restore the realtionship.
@ajithlal (14408)
• India
21 May 12
I also think that patience needed in life especially when dealing with teenagers. I think that it might be the hormones that may be playing a significant role in the change of attitude and mood. I have found out that most teenagers, not all, suffers from mood swings and are angry in life.
@djbtol (5502)
• United States
23 May 12
I agree with you and I also think that sometimes a teen may not fully understand themselves: - why they feel the way they do and why they say the things they say. They may also have more understanding within them than they are able to verbalize to their parents or others. I do not remember such details from my teen years, but if I could, I would most likely be a better parent of teens.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
31 Oct 12
I also think that now a days teenagers need to learn how to deal life and also should be mature enough to be calm and relax.
@emarie (5457)
• United States
23 Sep 10
Teens are so hormonal. Their body going through changes and of course just the life a teen has (especially now days) is hard as most of us who have gone through it know. Every person responds differently to different stimulus and chemical changes. This probably explains why some teens act differently then others. I also think upbringing and friends are a big part of it as well. I would think a good 80% of teens show maturity lower then their actual age, even though they're striving to be older and 'adult'. Teens are caught in that place between being a child and being an adult and that middle ground is scary and confusing most of the time. If the teen gets easily irritated about small, trivial things, most likely there is a bigger cause to the irritation. If the teen was my child or a relative of mine I would want to talk with them or find someone they trust to have a talk with them. Because they might be hiding something that is seriously effecting their frame of thought. Get to the root of the anger and you'll make a happier teen.
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• India
22 Oct 10
Actually the ways of expressing anger is almost similar in all cases and ages. Most of them shows it with their parents or dearest friends.lets take the case about parents and children.They wont talk to parents,dresses in way that parents dont like. Spends most time outside, with their type.It is to express the anger on some one. some times being short tempered runs through genes also.It may be Frustration, misscommunication with parents or friends, or girlfriend/boyfriend.it may be alsolike two sides of an axis.That is seeking attention or just opppsite that is too much attention.we have to deal with this.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
21 May 12
I think some teenagers do spend lots of time outside and does little time at home and they get angry when their parents question them like they are losing freedom in their life. I do not know how the parents handle when they are in such situations.
• Singapore
23 Sep 10
Rationalise with them in a calm and low tone manner.The words spoken to them must be firm.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
28 Feb 12
I also think that sometimes words can do magic.
@ajithlal (14408)
• India
27 Dec 12
I think counseling plays a great role in life.
@bingskee (5241)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
i couldnt agree more. what do i do? it depends on the gravity of the situation. if the teenager is disrespectful, i show my authority in many different ways.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
13 Jan 13
I think most of them are ruled by less thinking and less using brains and by emotions.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
24 Sep 10
Teenager nowsday are easily frustrated and bad tem - Can this because of diet,tv multmedia songs and bad environemnt influence?
Ya teenager nowsday are getting more easily irrated , frustrated, short temper and such. i think because of environment,tv multimedia songs,diet and influence . Nowsday foods mix with artificial sweetening and unknow substance may cause their brain to develop too fast plus with the over the level violence in tv and bad influnece from parents and culture lead into this kind dilemma.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
18 Nov 12
I also think that violence in television also plays bad influence to teenagers
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
I dont understand teenagers these days cause they really are very immature. I also dont understand why they cant understand things and that they are annoyed easily. Its like a disorder or something.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
30 Sep 12
I also think that immaturity might be one of the reason that makes the teenagers get irritated.
@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
24 Sep 10
i've notice this. i've said this once on mylot but i'll continue to say this. its all in how children are raised now a days. you spare the rod, you spoil the child. thats pretty much all to it. like on mylotter said. patience is definitely needed!
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
27 Sep 11
I also agree that how the children raised also depends to some extend how angry they can get.
23 Sep 10
it is hard as some teenagers are so violent and you never know if they have a weapon on them, while there are so good teenagers out there i think there are very few. It is a shame that parents don't do a better job.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
14 Sep 12
I think sometimes teenagers do not think a lot and they get irritated very easily until they get matured.
• India
23 Sep 10
I am somewhat of this type. I get angry when someone is not hearing me out or someone goes against the rules which i have made. So i find that very disturbing and get angry immediately and i scold that particular person. Before i used to have short and sudden bursts of anger. But after taking meditation and yoga classes i have become a much quieter person, keeping myself to myself. Cheers!
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
14 May 12
I think as you said yoga will help you to decrease the tension and anger in our lives.
@johney264 (548)
• China
23 Sep 10
It is extremely common for teenagers to experience mood swings. Life can feel like experience mood swings. Life can feel like an emotional rollercoaster as your body struggles to cope with hormonal ups and downs. You will be seeing changes to your body which can make you more self-conscious than usual. parents may be driving you potty or you may be discovering new relationships with fire. so don't blame the teenager, he will back and lovely.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
23 May 12
I also think mood swings are common in teenagers and they feel down most of the times and are more emotional than others. I always wonder what can be done to make the teenagers get out of these situation and be calmer and happy in life.
• United States
23 Sep 10
Teenagers are going through a lot of hormonal changes, which can make them very irritable or very sad quite a bit of the time. Also, I recently watched a video that tells how the Prefrontal Cortex in the brain is not fully developed until adult hood, which also leads to reckless behaviour and irritation. The best thing to do would be to remember these things and try not to get angry at them in return. A little empathy and understanding go a long way.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
17 Apr 12
I also think because of the hormonal changes most of them are very irritable and depressed most of the time. I have seen lots of them getting irritated very easily for no reasons.
@choconut (298)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
If they did something wrong, and if they're being unreasonable and out of the line. I always remind them the authority i have with them. I won't tolerate it just because we're friends or we're relatives. I use that specific tone in them that demands respect, in which they became attentive. I don't know if its the tone or the mere presence i give them. Try showing them that you're demanding them their respect and that you are in authority, and nothing they say is important to you, you just want them to listen carefully. If they still continue being immature then hit them, just do it with love, and please don't punch them, they'll fight back.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
15 Apr 12
Most probably after getting more mature as days goes they becomes calm and calmer.
@Hatley (120850)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Sep 10
ajithlal most teenagers are working with a rush of hormones calculated to m ake them antsy but as you said some show good behaviors while others dont. Some of that could well be poor parentimg and not being shown that losing your temper will not solve anything. At my age if I come across a rude misbehaving teen ager I just walk on by and do not give him or het the time of day.I do not have to say one thing to them and I sure do not as that wAy could spell disaster too.I could not easily protect myself against a teenager out of control.
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@ajithlal (14408)
• India
29 Mar 12
I also think that rush of hormones might have made them to get more anger in their life.
@surekharathi (14144)
• India
18 Nov 12
You are right now young generation teenagers child has no patience and they get angry or feel irritated on small thing. They wants to complete which they want not want to heard the parents suggestion. But I think if since small age parents should behave like friend with their child then this problem may be less.
• India
22 Oct 10
Anger is generally considered as a negative shot.Actually it is an emotion which has to be channled consciously forpositive causes.Wild anger helps fight the enemies of our society.They have to control and keep this with in limits.People loose control of their words and behaviour when anger shows its way to abusing,physically hurting self or others. It will cause serious problems especially for teenagers.This may further result in creating dangerous enemies also.